Advice??

[juanisthebigdog]

What is the name of your state? TEXAS

I will be fighting for custody of my child I found a lawyer she tells he we have a hell of a chance.

A day later I get a letter from attorney general that my case is going to be reviewed. After 8 yrs it has never been reviewed I neglected to advice them of my raises. So I know that i will be paying more child support which is fine. I did inform of my job,phone,address changes. Can they retro back to the beginning of my raises at my previous job?

Second question can my lawyer put this on hold until after we go to court and wait for the outcome. Or would it be better to get the new orders and get up to date with the child support. The attorney general said this is something the state did not the mother if that matters.

 

[Ohiogal]

What is the name of your state? TEXAS

I will be fighting for custody of my child I found a lawyer she tells he we have a hell of a chance.

A day later I get a letter from attorney general that my case is going to be reviewed. After 8 yrs it has never been reviewed I neglected to advice them of my raises. So I know that i will be paying more child support which is fine. I did inform of my job,phone,address changes. Can they retro back to the beginning of my raises at my previous job?

Second question can my lawyer put this on hold until after we go to court and wait for the outcome. Or would it be better to get the new orders and get up to date with the child support. The attorney general said this is something the state did not the mother if that matters.

Child support and custody are two different topics. They usually don't retro back to the beginning of raises at your previous job. They do go back to date of filing or start of review. You have a hell of a chance at custody? Why then are you going for custody?

 

[juanisthebigdog]

advice??

Going for custody because my son has been raised by his great-grandparents all his life he is 11 going on 12. He states that he wants to be with me. He does not want to attend the Jr.High in the town he lives in he foresees problems. Not a good school at all the district has had state issues with there academics. The mom is not involved in his life. Goes by checks the mail thats about it. Takes him out to dinner or movie I would say once every 3mths. The great grandma passed and now its just him and the great grandpa. He is getting older and needs stricter adult supervision and guidance. I pick him up every weekend and lately during the week. She gave him to me for the summer and I had him last summer. She is a nurse got remarried had a child now filing for divorce has been seperated for about a year now. Has her own house my son might have slept there about six times in the last 2 years.
I know i should have done something sooner but when the great grandma was alive there was no way that my son would have left her. Right now he is worried about his ggp so i will be taking him to see him as much as possible.

 

[Humusluvr]

Going for custody because my son has been raised by his great-grandparents all his life he is 11 going on 12. He states that he wants to be with me. He does not want to attend the Jr.High in the town he lives in he foresees problems. Not a good school at all the district has had state issues with there academics. The mom is not involved in his life. Goes by checks the mail thats about it. Takes him out to dinner or movie I would say once every 3mths. The great grandma passed and now its just him and the great grandpa. He is getting older and needs stricter adult supervision and guidance. I pick him up every weekend and lately during the week. She gave him to me for the summer and I had him last summer. She is a nurse got remarried had a child now filing for divorce has been seperated for about a year now. Has her own house my son might have slept there about six times in the last 2 years.
I know i should have done something sooner but when the great grandma was alive there was no way that my son would have left her. Right now he is worried about his ggp so i will be taking him to see him as much as possible.

Did you take him from great grandpa?

Did you help ggp clean up?

 

[juanisthebigdog]

advice??

He is with me for the summer or until the mom gets wind that am going to fight for custody am sure she will come pick him up then.

We cleaned up my sons room and that is also where the ggp sleeps. The rest of the house is still a mess. The mom is remodeling it with plans to move in. She does not want me touching anything. She told me to take my son for the summer so they could finish remodeling the house.

 

[juanisthebigdog]

Does anybody have any advice on a lawyer going with me to the attorney generals office? Should I pay her to go with me or should I go by myself. She stated something about arguing the fact that my son does not live with the mom so why should I pay more.

 

[Ohiogal]

Does anybody have any advice on a lawyer going with me to the attorney generals office? Should I pay her to go with me or should I go by myself. She stated something about arguing the fact that my son does not live with the mom so why should I pay more.

Do you know the legal cases and statutes that back that up? If not, pay her.

 

[juanisthebigdog]

I already paid her appointment today at 3p.m.
mom called me last night and told me if i had my w-2s ready she statrted this ball rolling not the state
I told her that on my paperwork it does not state that i have to take anything and she stated that on hers it said she had to take w-2s etc. she then said she was not going that we would just go to court then

Why didnt they ask for my w-2s etc?

 

[stealth2]

Who knows - it may have been an oversight. But it would make sense to have documentation of your income, doncha think?

 

[juanisthebigdog]

advice??

It would make sense

But does it make sense that the mom is not providing any financial support for my son with the money that i have been sending all these years

The mom bought him two pairs of shorts for the summer both of them size 36 this is an 11 year old he is not that big I had to go to target and get him some 32s his mom does not even know what size of clothe he wears because she had not bought him anything since the beginning of the school and those were school uniforms

I know its right to voluntary show my income but man this _ucks

 

[CourtClerk]

Just one question I have (which I'm sure will come up in court):

Going for custody because my son has been raised by his great-grandparents all his life he is 11 going on 12.

Why is it just NOW ok that your child has been living with someone other than his parents? You're saying it like it makes mom an unfit parent. Didn't you let him live there too and not ask the court to intervene?

 

[juanisthebigdog]

advice??

The truth is that when the great grandma was alive he was very well taken care of. I would still him consistently every weekend etc. But the ggg could not be without him she would start complaining that her chest would hurt etc,etc. So i could not spend time with him for an extended period of time.

If I would of fought for my son and got custody and the ggrandma would of got sick or possibly died i could not have lived with that and my son would probably hate me.

I got a notarized letter from the ggp last night (stating facts about the situation) and my son is worried that when the mom finds out she is going to really take out on the ggp. She is very capable of kicking him out. I told my son that his ggp wants what is best for him and the we would do everything we could to take care of ggp.

 

[CourtClerk]

If I were you, I would leave the "I want custody because he's been living with someone else all his life" bit out of it, because quite frankly, you were more than willing to pawn off your parental responsibility to someone else too, so long as they met (I guess) your standards, which in my book, doesn't make you much better than mom.

 

[juanisthebigdog]

advice??

I know that I did wrong by not trying earlier but I knew that if i tried and won

my son would have a hard time if something would have gone wrong with his ggg she was like his mom.

He states he wants to be with me so i have to try. He does not like spending anytime with his mom at all.

The mom is doing some remodeling at the house where my son lives and for two days there was no light = no a/c South Texas 98 degrees at least. My son refused to go stay at her house with a/c. I told him go stay with her its going to be very hot there but he refused he said that he would just stay where he was at.

 

[CourtClerk]

I know that I did wrong by not trying earlier but I knew that if i tried and won my son would have a hard time if something would have gone wrong with his ggg she was like his mom.

I have to remember never to do anything if I know my son will have a hard time with it... I'll start with that Art History final tomorrow. I know he's going to have a hard time on that test, and he'll be devastated if he doesn't do well, so I won't make him take it.

Usually, I tend to make him do things whether he's going to have a hard time or not. Ya know why? Because i'm the parent and he doesn't get to decide.