I'm at the end of 6 mths of marital counseling (counselor suggested separation), been married less than a year. In a nutshell, I think I've been "dooped." hubby asked me to take out a 10k loan (his credit is poor & we couldn't qualify w/ his info) to fix up his home to sell, but his house never did get fixed up, and the money is gone (his home was also threatened w/ foreclosure/truck w/ repo, which are now caught up) He originally wanted 20-25k, but I didn't qualify on my salary. I ended up giving my dog away (he gave me an ultimatum, which is how the marriage counseling started...ultimatum came month after marrige), and now he's working on an ultimatum for my 2 (college aged) kids. I make about 40k, hubby is self-employed (at least I THINK he's working...I've seen no money and we live in my place). I'm just looking for hope of some sort at this point.
I know every thing I did, whether dooped or not, was a choice. I have 2 questions..
#1 is there any way this marriage could be annulled instead of divorced. I don't think there is, but I thought I'd ask
#2 Because we were married, is there a chance I could file a lien on his home for the amt. I "borrowed." He already has 2 judgements on the house and he's going to move back so I doubt if I'd ever see the money, but didn't know if that was even a possibility. His home is in his name only as is mine. The loan is thru my work and comes out of my paycheck so I'm stuck w/ that payment.
I know every thing I did, whether dooped or not, was a choice. I have 2 questions..
#1 is there any way this marriage could be annulled instead of divorced. I don't think there is, but I thought I'd ask
#2 Because we were married, is there a chance I could file a lien on his home for the amt. I "borrowed." He already has 2 judgements on the house and he's going to move back so I doubt if I'd ever see the money, but didn't know if that was even a possibility. His home is in his name only as is mine. The loan is thru my work and comes out of my paycheck so I'm stuck w/ that payment.