Question about supervised visitations

[amberlea434]

Amberlea, it should be shriekingly apparent to you that someone rolleyes is posting for the joy of writing nonsense.

Give it the respect and weight it's due, Amberlea.

LOL. It's so hard not to respond!

 

[stepmom04]

It sounds to me that both parties are being impossible.

Does he give her reasons as to why he's busy? Does the mom want someone else to be present?

That would have to suck to use your entire visitation with your ex. I'd rather pay a freaking social worker to do it then be in a room for 4 hours with my ex.


Sugarplum is bitter, because I burned my bra.

 

[Humusluvr]

Amberlea, it should be shriekingly apparent to you that someone rolleyes is posting for the joy of writing nonsense.

Give it the respect and weight it's due, Amberlea.

I actually think Amberlea has been around long enough to know how it works. I pray she has recognized trolldom when she sees it

 

[LdiJ]

That's a great idea and wish we'd thought of that before the hearing. But, Mom was pro se and didn't know what she could or should ask for. This is all relatively new, so I doubt she'd be able to go back and modify it already.

She could ask for the modification as part of her motion for contempt. The judge might even bring it up himself/herself as changing the superviser is a common solution that a judge might use.

 

[amberlea434]

Yes she can.

She doesn't just want to nail him for contempt, she wants a plan to prevent this in the future.

Ah! I didn't know if she could request that or not at a contempt hearing. I'll pass along the info, thanks!

 

[StampGirl]

It sounds to me that both parties are being impossible.

Does he give her reasons as to why he's busy? Does the mom want someone else to be present?

That would have to suck to use your entire visitation with your ex. I'd rather pay a freaking social worker to do it then be in a room for 4 hours with my ex.


Sugarplum is bitter, because I burned my bra.

Doesn't matter. A court order is a court order and not following it to a "T" is a violation.

Being "busy" is hardly an excuse. AND working isn't an excuse either. He needs to tell his boss he can't work on Saturdays because his ex has COURT ORDERED visitation on that day.

 

[Silverplum]

lol

Right there?

You burnt YOUR bra. Figuratively, of course.

Ask anyone about my looooong memory. Also PP's. Also Rushia's. Also OG's.

You will rot on the vine, in the heat, alone.

 

[amberlea434]

I actually think Amberlea has been around long enough to know how it works. I pray she has recognized trolldom when she sees it

I have, it's hard to control myself sometimes.

 

[amberlea434]

She could ask for the modification as part of her motion for contempt. The judge might even bring it up himself/herself as changing the superviser is a common solution that a judge might use.

Thank you, as well.

 

[amberlea434]

Bloopy, I didn't want to unlock it and get in trouble.

My hubby or myself wouldn't be able to supervise the visitation seeing as we live out of state, but could Mom request that the visitation take place at her mother's house? That would be ideal, seeing as the child would be able to visit with his grandma, as well.

 

[Bloopy]

That's a great idea and wish we'd thought of that before the hearing. But, Mom was pro se and didn't know what she could or should ask for. This is all relatively new, so I doubt she'd be able to go back and modify it already.

More than one person to supervise would be ideal.

One person shouldn't be tethered to Mom with the same promise he/she can’t quite keep.

Not fair to Mom or to a person supervising.

Assuming you and your husband like each other, you guys would logistically have some of the same scheduling conflicts.

 

[Bloopy]

Bloopy, I didn't want to unlock it and get in trouble.

My hubby or myself wouldn't be able to supervise the visitation seeing as we live out of state, but could Mom request that the visitation take place at her mother's house? That would be ideal, seeing as the child would be able to visit with his grandma, as well.

I deleted my thread hailing you from the side of the road...

Yes... Grandma could be good depending on the circumstances leading to supervised visitation.

It IS a burden that shouldn't just be on Grandma's shoulders.

 

[amberlea434]

I deleted my thread hailing you from the side of the road...

Yes... Grandma could be good depending on the circumstances leading to supervised visitation.

It IS a burden that shouldn't just be on Grandma's shoulders.

Grandma didn't have anything to do with the visitations turning supervised.

You're right, it shouldn't all be on Grandma. She could make a request for a couple of people/places?

 

[Bloopy]

Grandma didn't have anything to do with the visitations turning supervised.

I didn’t mean to imply that Grandma misbehaved.

I meant that the nature of Mom’s behavior might affect the judge’s willingness to allow Grandma to supervise. Mom’s own mother may be too close for comfort to appropriately supervise.

You're right, it shouldn't all be on Grandma. She could make a request for a couple of people/places?

This helps both logistically (so there is someone available as a back-up) as things happen in people’s lives.

Also, Dad won’t be able to refuse all of them especially since he’s been uncooperative

 

[amberlea434]

I didn’t mean to imply that Grandma misbehaved.

I meant that the nature of Mom’s behavior might affect the judge’s willingness to allow Grandma to supervise. Mom’s own mother may be too close for comfort to appropriately supervise.

No, no, I understand what you're saying. I just wanted to make sure I pointed out Grandma wasn't involved. Who else would you suggest that Mom recommend for her visits?