Follow up...
After being denied a change to the recent custody orders (by way of being obnoxious and continuing to falsley accuse me of being unfit contrasted by my proof from the pd, cps, his own emails... ) my ex husband was awarded a long cause hearing thursday of next week with the understanding that he would have no contact with our daughter.. He refused that hearing date, requested that it be pushed back by 6 months, and presented both my attorney and the court a letter that states that he wishes no contact with our daughter for 6 months. Threw ALL of us for a loop. He wants LEGAL custody yet not SHARED custody. (just yesterday he called the pre-school office where our daughter will begin in September and made me out to be a raving lunatic.... I was able to provide documentation that contridicted his claims yet it bugs me that our daughter now has a label of "uh oh family troubles" - completely intercepted the happy times I was having with starting her in school... I'm over it.)
I wasn't crazy when I was saying that he did not have the best interest of our daughter at heart with his repeated filings... and I never attempted to "snow" this board.
As I was told here in the past - it would all iron out and he would hit his wall of harassment attempts.... that happened today and the first thing HE sacrificed was his relationship with our child. I have never ever said that I wanted to lessen his time with her and may very well have asked how to get his parentel rights taken away... it's been a bi-polar adventure for us.. his time was ample and consistent with her schedule, not to mention his new family seemed to be his driving motivation for wanting relief from his obligated financial support of our daughter.
I was told by the mediator, the baliff and my attorney that they've never been witness to a mess like this - this was after my exhusband continued to badger my attorney about what he wrote in the "Findings after Hearing". He continued to request that my attorney add an addendum to that order. Well, he was clearly told that he was requesting my attorney to commit purgery... he was finally asked to leave the court room.
Bottom line is... we'll work it out.. never wanted him to go away completely yet he CHOSE to do that. He stated in court that he doesn't even want to see pictures, happy day cards (which we send out on a regular basis) - he wants NOTHING to do with her until he can get back to court to discuss this most recent filing regarding his request to increase visitation under full understanding that the hearing was set for late January of 2009. He's kinda shot himself in the foot as a 7 month long VOLUNTARY absence is borderline abandonment. There were other options available.
So Casa, although I do solely appreciate your position on these boards... you've been a major relief to me with some of your advice... this is a highly complicated and convoluded case that has finally ended with a bitter sweet decision to pull our daughters dad from her life... however - by his own request.
I thought he'd never take his teeth out of us... and now that he is legally binded to keep his teeth out of us.. I'm sad that she will miss her dad - I'm sad that he chose to do this... however in the same token... I'm relieved.
