No foolin? Since the divorce I live in an apartment. If I don't pay rent, I'm on my a$$. I got the phone call on Friday (that would be the last working day of the week) that my position was eliminated. I am working as fast as I can to assure that my kids are taken care of.You need to find another job. PRONTO.
I know that there are a lot of guys who try to scam. I'm not doing that. I've lost my job, and the general tone here is that I'm an a$$hole for having done so - well, that may be true, but my company was purchased in December, and this is part of the restructuring.
But I'll tell you, I HATE the fact that I've asked for some procedural information and I am before a jury here. When the divorce first started Jan 2007, my first lawyer said "if you lose your job, let me know right away - we have 10 days to notify them and we can file a motion so that you are not in contempt."
Maybe she was full of it - I don't know. I am just trying to do the right thing, and I keep getting the impression that I should NOT notify the court, per the Uniform Order of Support. Jeeze.
Well, since this just happened on a Friday afternoon, I'm not sure what the expectation is by Monday. That said, I have already been doing what a person in my profession has to do.You will also need to explain to the court why you haven't found a job as well as show where you have applied for work.
The MSA says that I pay her X dollars a month in maintenance until 72 payments have been made. There are 6 paragraphs under that article of the MSA. 1. how much and when she gets paid (and when it stops - remarry, death of either of us, cohabitation by the wife or 72 payments, whichever comes first), 2. the occurrence of the first of the foregoing events forever terminates my obligation, 3. she has to claim it on her taxes, 4. if there's an IRS issue, we have to settle it with the intention of after-tax dollars received, 5. I indemnify her from having to pay ME alimony, 6. she has to notify me immediately if she remarries or cohabitates.what exactly does your decree state regarding alimony?
The "Red flag is irrelevant" comment was stated to mean, that I believe I can withstand the utmost scrutiny in that issue. If they think it's too coincidental, that I lost my job soon after CS began, I believe I can prove that it is not of my doing - that's all. I DO want to support my teenage daughters.
About which part? Earning a living from jail? Or that my kids will suffer? Look if I don't get a job very soon, the same thing that would have happened if we were married will happen now, only we no longer have a house to borrow against if we need to - she will be in dire straits as will I. As a result, my kids will be at risk. Putting me in jail and suspending my license does not solve the problem.Quote:
As a side point, if the judge should rule that I cannot have the order temporarily suspended, then my children will suffer. I will be forced into contempt, drivers license possibly suspended, and possibly go to jail - I cannot earn a living from jail or without a drivers license.
YOu are wrong.
I am an able bodied man who is ready and willing to continue employment. I am looking for a job. But I don't want to go to jail or be a deadbeat dad, just because I lost my job. I've been in sales and marketing for over 20 years and these things happen. I JUST want to find out what I have to do to file a motion for this to be considered.
As far as judges decisions, Seniorjudge may or may not be right - I've seen judges make sage decisions, and I've seen them make not-so sage decisions. It appears to be the gray area and thus, the province of each particular judge. I'm willing to have him rule - I want to know how to get that done.
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Nail on the head.From what OP has posted, He lost his job legitimately and want's info on doing thing's the correct way. He doesn't appear to be someone trying to scam the system or screw his children over. He is worried that if he cannot find work quickly he will lose license and maybe jail.