KSilva_1982
Junior Member
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? MA
I am the mother & I now live an hour away from my ex because I do not have a place to live near my ex so I moved in with my father who owns a house. We have our custody hearing on Thursday & I have been trying to get my ex to take the kids overnight for even 1 night me providing transportation & asking him to help me a little with gas money because I am currently not working, but am searching for a job around here. He is currently living with his mom who lives in a 1 bedroom apartment, he also does not have a car. He has a job where he is working full time at the moment, but it will not be full time for long. He says he can not take the kids overnight because he does not have a place for them to sleep & he expects me to drop whatever I'm doing to drop the kids off to him whenever he feels like seeing them. I told him that when we go to court the judge will probably set up a visitation schedule, he said that it's fine, but he will not be able to take the kids overnight (his mom says the kids can't stay there because there's not enough room).
1) He's going to tell the judge that he's working full time right now, but he will have a note from his boss stating that he is not going to stay full time when they hire more people this way he doesn't have to pay child support according to his current income.
2) Also, he's going to say that he is unable to take the kids overnight because he has no place for them to stay.
3) He's going to say that he is working on getting a car & an apartment so he can try to pay less child support also.
Yes, he has come straight out & told me this stuff. He's also accusing me of having a new boyfriend, even though I do not. I took my kids to a water park the other day & he asked to talk to our 5 year old, so I let her talk to him & I found out afterward that he questioned her about who was with us & she told him. When I got back on the phone with him, he was threatening to smack one of the people that was with us (he is married & his wife was with us). I am very upset that he questioned our daughter about who was with us because I feel that he should not be putting her in the middle of it. She is a very honest child & always tells people more than they need to know, so he knew she wouldn't lie to him. He's also telling me that he does not want my kids to be around a friend of mine from work (she has 2 kids & a fiancee) because he thinks that she influenced me to leave him (which she did not, I just happened to meet her right before I left him). He has been harassing me about everything in the past. What might happen in court? I'm a little nervous that he's going to make himself look like a big jerk, which I do not want, because he is still the father of my kids & I want the best for him even though I am not in love with him anymore. I still care about him as a person. I am also wondering if there is any way if I ask the judge (if it even exists) if he could order my ex to only talk to me about the kids and money to stop harassing me about everything else in my life & in our past because he is causing me a lot of stress. If anybody could give me any advice on how to handle this situation I would truly appreciate it. ThanksWhat is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?
I am the mother & I now live an hour away from my ex because I do not have a place to live near my ex so I moved in with my father who owns a house. We have our custody hearing on Thursday & I have been trying to get my ex to take the kids overnight for even 1 night me providing transportation & asking him to help me a little with gas money because I am currently not working, but am searching for a job around here. He is currently living with his mom who lives in a 1 bedroom apartment, he also does not have a car. He has a job where he is working full time at the moment, but it will not be full time for long. He says he can not take the kids overnight because he does not have a place for them to sleep & he expects me to drop whatever I'm doing to drop the kids off to him whenever he feels like seeing them. I told him that when we go to court the judge will probably set up a visitation schedule, he said that it's fine, but he will not be able to take the kids overnight (his mom says the kids can't stay there because there's not enough room).
1) He's going to tell the judge that he's working full time right now, but he will have a note from his boss stating that he is not going to stay full time when they hire more people this way he doesn't have to pay child support according to his current income.
2) Also, he's going to say that he is unable to take the kids overnight because he has no place for them to stay.
3) He's going to say that he is working on getting a car & an apartment so he can try to pay less child support also.
Yes, he has come straight out & told me this stuff. He's also accusing me of having a new boyfriend, even though I do not. I took my kids to a water park the other day & he asked to talk to our 5 year old, so I let her talk to him & I found out afterward that he questioned her about who was with us & she told him. When I got back on the phone with him, he was threatening to smack one of the people that was with us (he is married & his wife was with us). I am very upset that he questioned our daughter about who was with us because I feel that he should not be putting her in the middle of it. She is a very honest child & always tells people more than they need to know, so he knew she wouldn't lie to him. He's also telling me that he does not want my kids to be around a friend of mine from work (she has 2 kids & a fiancee) because he thinks that she influenced me to leave him (which she did not, I just happened to meet her right before I left him). He has been harassing me about everything in the past. What might happen in court? I'm a little nervous that he's going to make himself look like a big jerk, which I do not want, because he is still the father of my kids & I want the best for him even though I am not in love with him anymore. I still care about him as a person. I am also wondering if there is any way if I ask the judge (if it even exists) if he could order my ex to only talk to me about the kids and money to stop harassing me about everything else in my life & in our past because he is causing me a lot of stress. If anybody could give me any advice on how to handle this situation I would truly appreciate it. ThanksWhat is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?