Land/house divorce division

[nextwife]

She is IN TITLE as a half owner.

Thus what occurred before marriage is NOW moot, as she is titled as half owner. There is no need to interpret what percentage she may be entitled to that accrued during the marriage, as she legally now owns 50% of the house and land.

 

[mistoffolees]

She is IN TITLE as a half owner.

Thus what occurred before marriage is NOW moot, as she is titled as half owner. There is no need to interpret what percentage she may be entitled to that accrued during the marriage, as she legally now owns 50% of the house and land.

Yes, of course. But my point was that even if she wasn't titled, she'd be entitled to pretty close to half after 20 years.

 

[Cross Hair]

Things will really work out to her advantage. I came into the marriage with assets, property and I already owned a house. She still lived at home with her parents. And yes I realize that was twenty years ago so it means nothing at this point but it just doesn't seem fair. She has a college education, the plan was when the kids were both into school she would go to work on a full time basis. She flat out refused claiming she wanted to grow her home based business, but that never happened.

Anyway, you can look thru our banking statements and see she has never made a deposit to our joint checking or savings account. But she has always had her own accounts. Would a judge look at that history and determine that she could have contributed to the house hold finances but chose not to, and thus award me a larger share of our assets? Even if we can't seperate the house / land value at this point our total assets should be able to be divided in a more fair manner.

Here's the last part, neither one of us want's to end up in a long court battle. If you tell me that the majority of the time Ohio judges split everything 50/50 then I will just except that and move foreward. No since arguing over money that would just end up being paid in legal fees.

Thanks,
CrossHair

 

[Ohiogal]

Things will really work out to her advantage. I came into the marriage with assets, property and I already owned a house. She still lived at home with her parents. And yes I realize that was twenty years ago so it means nothing at this point but it just doesn't seem fair. She has a college education, the plan was when the kids were both into school she would go to work on a full time basis. She flat out refused claiming she wanted to grow her home based business, but that never happened.

Anyway, you can look thru our banking statements and see she has never made a deposit to our joint checking or savings account. But she has always had her own accounts. Would a judge look at that history and determine that she could have contributed to the house hold finances but chose not to, and thus award me a larger share of our assets? Even if we can't seperate the house / land value at this point our total assets should be able to be divided in a more fair manner.

Here's the last part, neither one of us want's to end up in a long court battle. If you tell me that the majority of the time Ohio judges split everything 50/50 then I will just except that and move foreward. No since arguing over money that would just end up being paid in legal fees.

Thanks,
CrossHair

You allowed that to happen for 20 years. Why didn't you do anything about it? The majority of time Ohio judges split things 50/50. Or close to it. You may also owe spousal support. Most likely 7 years or so if spouse hasn't worked.

 

[Bali Hai]

Things will really work out to her advantage. I came into the marriage with assets, property and I already owned a house. She still lived at home with her parents. And yes I realize that was twenty years ago so it means nothing at this point but it just doesn't seem fair. She has a college education, the plan was when the kids were both into school she would go to work on a full time basis. She flat out refused claiming she wanted to grow her home based business, but that never happened.

I wonder what advice you would be given if it were YOU who refused to work for 20 years and let her be the bread winner??

Anyway, you can look thru our banking statements and see she has never made a deposit to our joint checking or savings account. But she has always had her own accounts. Would a judge look at that history and determine that she could have contributed to the house hold finances but chose not to, and thus award me a larger share of our assets? Even if we can't seperate the house / land value at this point our total assets should be able to be divided in a more fair manner.

Forget it. The only way a judge would go to such extremes in detail is if it benefited the wife.

Here's the last part, neither one of us want's to end up in a long court battle. If you tell me that the majority of the time Ohio judges split everything 50/50 then I will just except that and move foreward. No since arguing over money that would just end up being paid in legal fees.

Thanks,
CrossHair

That's the attitude my friend. Bend over and keep smiling!!

 

[Cross Hair]

Ohiogal, it wasn't as easy as saying, O.K. as of tomorrow you start paying your fair share or else. Or else what? Did it piss me off ? Yes. Was I ready to get divorced over it and leave two kids in a broken marriage, NO. So shame on me. It may be a decision that affects me financially for the next several years but so be it.

Bali, I am very new to this site but I have to say you are one bitter person. You must have really got burned or you have witnessed so much injustice that it's altered your wiring. I hope when I come out the other side of this mess I can just move on and start a new and better chapter in my life. But I do thank you for the advice.

CrossHair

 

[Bali Hai]

Ohiogal, it wasn't as easy as saying, O.K. as of tomorrow you start paying your fair share or else. Or else what? Did it piss me off ? Yes. Was I ready to get divorced over it and leave two kids in a broken marriage, NO. So shame on me. It may be a decision that affects me financially for the next several years but so be it.

Bali, I am very new to this site but I have to say you are one bitter person. You must have really got burned or you have witnessed so much injustice that it's altered your wiring. I hope when I come out the other side of this mess I can just move on and start a new and better chapter in my life. But I do thank you for the advice.

CrossHair

Well that's supposed to be what happens when people divorce.

HOWEVER, reading your story I'm inclined to guess that your wife will move on and start a new and better chapter in her life on YOUR money! If you don't mind losing an arm and leg, then I'm sure you will do just fine at the outcome of your divorce. You will just walk a little funny.

 

[Cross Hair]

Bali, your words ring true and she may start off a better life on my money but she lacks the ability to budget that money any further than today. In the end I will end up much better to be rid of her than she will to be rid of me. Of coarse she will probably find some new sucker and never miss a meal!