What rights do I have?

[goodmom620]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Maryland
Hi, I am hopeing there are other Grandparents out there with the same situation. My husband and I where just cut off from seeing our 2 grandsons that live with there Dad and new Step Mom in Va Beach. My Daughter recently moved closer to them. My daughter and I do not get a long, nor do we agree on parenting. She gave them up 1.5 yrs ago because she couldn't handle them. We always had them any way and they wanted it that way. There where different times throughout the years they lived with us also, w/my daughter once and another time w/the childrens Dad. That was fine then. I watched the boys and took care of them physically and financially too. There 6 and 7 now and very attached to me and my husband. We are the only stability and security they felt for a long time.

It's sad when you have to watch them screem and run and cry because they don't want to be with eithger parent. They always loved being with us. Any way, very sad situation.
We have taken them on vacations every summer for 7-8 days. The Beach, Myrtle Beach,
Florida, Mexico, and many other things. Both parents, Nothing. No Vacations!

Those boys are very special and bonded to us, and that is cruel to them to just stop the phone calls, and email, and visiting. We have tried to call the Dad, he won't call us back, and I am concerned what the kids are thinking. What can I do????
I am very concerned, and depressed with this whole situation.
Thanks,What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?

 

[LdiJ]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Maryland
Hi, I am hopeing there are other Grandparents out there with the same situation. My husband and I where just cut off from seeing our 2 grandsons that live with there Dad and new Step Mom in Va Beach. My Daughter recently moved closer to them. My daughter and I do not get a long, nor do we agree on parenting. She gave them up 1.5 yrs ago because she couldn't handle them. We always had them any way and they wanted it that way. There where different times throughout the years they lived with us also, w/my daughter once and another time w/the childrens Dad. That was fine then. I watched the boys and took care of them physically and financially too. There 6 and 7 now and very attached to me and my husband. We are the only stability and security they felt for a long time.

It's sad when you have to watch them screem and run and cry because they don't want to be with eithger parent. They always loved being with us. Any way, very sad situation.
We have taken them on vacations every summer for 7-8 days. The Beach, Myrtle Beach,
Florida, Mexico, and many other things. Both parents, Nothing. No Vacations!

Those boys are very special and bonded to us, and that is cruel to them to just stop the phone calls, and email, and visiting. We have tried to call the Dad, he won't call us back, and I am concerned what the kids are thinking. What can I do????
I am very concerned, and depressed with this whole situation.
Thanks,What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?

The problem is that grandparents are expected to visit on their own child's time, and if your own daughter won't let you visit on her time, then that is a problem.

I already know that you blew it with your daughter by disagreeing with her parenting. Why won't dad allow you to visit? What are his reasons? Be honest and you will get decent advice. You will have to be honest in court, if it comes to that.

 

[Idori]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Maryland
Hi, I am hopeing there are other Grandparents out there with the same situation. My husband and I where just cut off from seeing our 2 grandsons that live with there Dad and new Step Mom in Va Beach. My Daughter recently moved closer to them. My daughter and I do not get a long, nor do we agree on parenting. She gave them up 1.5 yrs ago because she couldn't handle them. We always had them any way and they wanted it that way. There where different times throughout the years they lived with us also, w/my daughter once and another time w/the childrens Dad. That was fine then. I watched the boys and took care of them physically and financially too. There 6 and 7 now and very attached to me and my husband. We are the only stability and security they felt for a long time.

It's sad when you have to watch them screem and run and cry because they don't want to be with eithger parent. They always loved being with us. Any way, very sad situation.
We have taken them on vacations every summer for 7-8 days. The Beach, Myrtle Beach,
Florida, Mexico, and many other things. Both parents, Nothing. No Vacations!

Those boys are very special and bonded to us, and that is cruel to them to just stop the phone calls, and email, and visiting. We have tried to call the Dad, he won't call us back, and I am concerned what the kids are thinking. What can I do????
I am very concerned, and depressed with this whole situation.
Thanks,What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?

Not everyone can afford to take vacations. It sounds like both of their parents are doing right by their children. Dad is taking care of them and their mom moved to be closer also. Legal action on your part would do more harm than good.
Writing down the reasons the parents have actually (verbally) given you for your not being allowed contact and then facing those statements directly would be a good place for you to start. If there reasons are, "We don't have time right now." or "We want the children to have a stable routine with us and not extended family right now." Then my suggestion is wait patiently.
If their statements have been about your conduct or comments you have made admit that. Own your responsibility for what ever the situation is. Vow to change and move forward with an apology. Disrespecting either parent is a reason they would avoid you. And they have the right to chose who will influence their kids. Have you spoken negatively about them to (or in front of) their children?

The law will favor the parents choice to exclude you so you need to address the reasons that has been their choice so far.