daughter graduates on 17th b-day

[yessy]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? CA
my daughter turns 17 on her graduation. What are the rules on child support for my situation. She is thinking about going to college maybe full time. but she might start working at 16/17 while in high school. She has also talked about graduating and moving in with a friend. I just want to know what to expect and what the rules are.

 

[Isis1]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? CA
my daughter turns 17 on her graduation. What are the rules on child support for my situation. She is thinking about going to college maybe full time. but she might start working at 16/17 while in high school. She has also talked about graduating and moving in with a friend. I just want to know what to expect and what the rules are.

what does your court order state regarding child support?

 

[CourtClerk]

CA has no provisions for child support while a child is in college.

 

[happybug]

CA has no provisions for child support while a child is in college.

But isn't CA an 18th birthday or High School Graduation, whichever comes last? Would the graduation even matter if the child is still a minor?

 

[proud_parent]

But isn't CA an 18th birthday or High School Graduation, whichever comes last? Would the graduation even matter if the child is still a minor?

You are correct, happybug.

California Family Code § 3901
a) The duty of support imposed by Section 3900 continues as
to an unmarried child who has attained the age of 18 years, is a
full-time high school student, and who is not self-supporting, until
the time the child completes the 12th grade or attains the age of 19
years, whichever occurs first.
(b) Nothing in this section limits a parent's ability to agree to
provide additional support or the court's power to inquire whether an
agreement to provide additional support has been made.

California Family Code Section 3901 - California Attorney Resources - California Laws

 

[CourtClerk]

But isn't CA an 18th birthday or High School Graduation, whichever comes last? Would the graduation even matter if the child is still a minor?

Yes, CS goes until age 18.... sorry, I was sleepy when I answered and didn't read the whole question.

 

[CourtClerk]

You are correct, happybug.



California Family Code Section 3901 - California Attorney Resources - California Laws

you beat me to it... gracias!

 

[yessy]

Does it mean that when my daughter graduates at age 17 i dont have to pay child support since graduation came first? I do want to keep giving her money until she is 18 but to herself not her mother. I have also informed my daughter that when she graduated she can come live w/me. Its just that i want to avoid arguments- her mother has told her so many stories that i dont pay any support, that i only give her $100/ month because i dont care about them. I came to the point to showing my daughter my check stubs from yrs ago & amount (she was surprised). she has complained that they dont have what they need because mom has no money( she does but spends about 80 for movies every weekend!!!) i would rather just give my daughter the money when she's older.

 

[CourtClerk]

I came to the point to showing my daughter my check stubs from yrs ago & amount (she was surprised).

YOU WERE WAYYYYY OUT OF LINE. How DARE you involve your daughter in such issues?

she has complained that they dont have what they need because mom has no money( she does but spends about 80 for movies every weekend!!!)

That i'm sure your daughter was watching... happily. Not that YOU know how much she was spending on movies, unless she submitted the receipts to you. Pretty craptastic parenting dad...

 

[thedoctorisin]

YOU WERE WAYYYYY OUT OF LINE. How DARE you involve your daughter in such issues?

It was the mother who first chose to involve the daughter in those issues.

 

[thedoctorisin]

Does it mean that when my daughter graduates at age 17

No, it means you must follow the custody order and pay child support to the mother until your daughter turns 18.

 

[CourtClerk]

It was the mother who first chose to involve the daughter in those issues.

So I guess if you have 1 parent behaving badly, you should go ahead and do the same, huh?

 

[thedoctorisin]

So I guess if you have 1 parent behaving badly, you should go ahead and do the same, huh?

If you have one parent behaving badly, and that parent chooses to not only involve a minor child in an adult matter, but to lie to the minor child about that matter, then sometimes the best possible course of action is to make sure that the minor child knows the truth about that matter.

 

[CourtClerk]

If you have one parent behaving badly, and that parent chooses to not only involve a minor child in an adult matter, but to lie to the minor child about that matter, then sometimes the best possible course of action is to make sure that the minor child knows the truth about that matter.

What he showed her were check stubs from "years ago," what good was what happened years ago to whatever the situation is today? What was on the check stubs? Was it an automatic deduction directly to mom? Was mom's name on the check stub? I think not. I suppose my ex could one day come up and show check stubs to say that money was being paid... but it in no way proves who it was paid to.

So now what you have is mom telling the daughter her version of the truth and dad telling daughter his version of the truth. Dad is not privy to the household expenses. Dad has no idea where the money is going, what it's going on, etc. and if a judge caught wind to what was going on with these two, the judge would have an issue with BOTH of them because again, both of them are behaving badly.

 

[thedoctorisin]

What he showed her were check stubs from "years ago," what good was what happened years ago to whatever the situation is today?

It depends on what the mother was lying about. If the mother said that the father hadn't paid any child support for years and years, then checks from "years ago" are exactly what is needed to establish the truth.

In any event, when one bad parent lies to a minor child about an adult matter, it is not always the best course of action to let that lie go unchallenged.