What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? North dakota
I have joint custody with primary physical custody of 3 kids ages 5,4 and 2. We went to a mediator for the divorce and agreed on reasonable visitation and had a default agreement if that didnt work. The default agreement stated he recieved him every other weekend from friday after school to monday morning with one midweek visit up to 4 hours on the weekend he has the kids and 2 midweek visits on the weeks he doesnt have the kids. My ex is unable to comprimise and things have to be his way so the reasonable visits set up between us have not worked. The last one he wanted to try was having them from thursday to friday evening on the weeks he doesnt have them on the weekends and thursday to sunday on the weekend he does have them. When this schedule didnt work he just kept them anyways. He also had changed the pick up time 2 other times in the past by a day or two and numerous times by hours. I told him we were going to have to go to the default agreement and gave him the kids thursday night. His girlfriend picked them up and i was suppose to pick them up later that evening. He calls and tells me he is keeping them until friday at 630pm. I have a lawyer but she thinks the judge will be mad because we are suppose to work this out ourselves and i would look bad because i am a little bitter. My ex has serious control issues and my kids are worried now that their dad is going to keep them, which he ends doing
what can i do
thanks
I have joint custody with primary physical custody of 3 kids ages 5,4 and 2. We went to a mediator for the divorce and agreed on reasonable visitation and had a default agreement if that didnt work. The default agreement stated he recieved him every other weekend from friday after school to monday morning with one midweek visit up to 4 hours on the weekend he has the kids and 2 midweek visits on the weeks he doesnt have the kids. My ex is unable to comprimise and things have to be his way so the reasonable visits set up between us have not worked. The last one he wanted to try was having them from thursday to friday evening on the weeks he doesnt have them on the weekends and thursday to sunday on the weekend he does have them. When this schedule didnt work he just kept them anyways. He also had changed the pick up time 2 other times in the past by a day or two and numerous times by hours. I told him we were going to have to go to the default agreement and gave him the kids thursday night. His girlfriend picked them up and i was suppose to pick them up later that evening. He calls and tells me he is keeping them until friday at 630pm. I have a lawyer but she thinks the judge will be mad because we are suppose to work this out ourselves and i would look bad because i am a little bitter. My ex has serious control issues and my kids are worried now that their dad is going to keep them, which he ends doing
what can i do
thanks