STILL battling ex... but it's getting better

[yolandanewell]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? CA

(the seniors MAY remember my case which is why I'll keep this short)

My ex waltzed into family court 7 months ago with a repeated request for visitation schedules that had been denied repeatedly by our mediator. He was shot down AGAI and proceeded to present a letter to the court stating that he wanted to do away with his visitation rights with our daughter for 7 months... Judge "L" changed our visitation order to 0% for dad 100% for me and set a long cause hearing for Jan 21, 2009 - which we just had.

At the long cause hearing it was evident to Judge "D" (I was SO happy to see him back as he'd presided over our case since the divorce in 2004 but was deployed last year just after having told my ex to QUIT FILING PAPERS) that my ex had NOT utilized the 7 months of absence from our daughter to come up with a logical visitation schedule that would benefit our soon to be 5 year old daughter from more of the same chaos that was stopped last year by way of locking down his visitation and pick up times to that of a reasonable schedule and safe exchange place. So Judge "D" set us out for another 8 weeks to go see the mediator again.

I was not thinking properly and when my exhusband asked that his address not be revealed to me... I really didn't care... ... UNTIL... I realized WHY he was doing it... he does not want me to have it so that I cannot bill him properly for his portion of the daycare bills (he owes over 10 grand in child care).

Do any of you know if I should approach DCSS (Department of child support services) with assistance with this? Or would that just be asking for more trouble? They have actually stepped in and taken over the contempt charges (which blew me away) and I don't want to rock the boat - and at the same time he is ordered to pay these fees (even though he won't) and I'd like them on record as his owing them.

That wasn't so short was it???? SORRY!!!!!

 

[LdiJ]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? CA

(the seniors MAY remember my case which is why I'll keep this short)

My ex waltzed into family court 7 months ago with a repeated request for visitation schedules that had been denied repeatedly by our mediator. He was shot down AGAI and proceeded to present a letter to the court stating that he wanted to do away with his visitation rights with our daughter for 7 months... Judge "L" changed our visitation order to 0% for dad 100% for me and set a long cause hearing for Jan 21, 2009 - which we just had.

At the long cause hearing it was evident to Judge "D" (I was SO happy to see him back as he'd presided over our case since the divorce in 2004 but was deployed last year just after having told my ex to QUIT FILING PAPERS) that my ex had NOT utilized the 7 months of absence from our daughter to come up with a logical visitation schedule that would benefit our soon to be 5 year old daughter from more of the same chaos that was stopped last year by way of locking down his visitation and pick up times to that of a reasonable schedule and safe exchange place. So Judge "D" set us out for another 8 weeks to go see the mediator again.

I was not thinking properly and when my exhusband asked that his address not be revealed to me... I really didn't care... ... UNTIL... I realized WHY he was doing it... he does not want me to have it so that I cannot bill him properly for his portion of the daycare bills (he owes over 10 grand in child care).

Do any of you know if I should approach DCSS (Department of child support services) with assistance with this? Or would that just be asking for more trouble? They have actually stepped in and taken over the contempt charges (which blew me away) and I don't want to rock the boat - and at the same time he is ordered to pay these fees (even though he won't) and I'd like them on record as his owing them.

That wasn't so short was it???? SORRY!!!!!

I just reviewed your posting history and I am not at all sure what to advise you...because if you do that, its likely to start another round of harassment.

You could give him the bill in person, in front of the mediator.

 

[yolandanewell]

I just reviewed your posting history and I am not at all sure what to advise you...because if you do that, its likely to start another round of harassment.

You could give him the bill in person, in front of the mediator.

I think that is what I'll do... it makes sence... I'll do it VERY quietly though -

Our lives have been pretty peaceful (with the exception of a couple of incidents propelled by him) over these past months... our daughter went through some pretty tough times - through some advice from CPS (I was hooked into their system when he falsely accused me of abuse... however they have some great people with wonderful programs for she and I) we managed to get her over the hump of sudden absence of her dad... breaks my heart to think we're in for another round if his visitation resumes...

Thank you for your response...