What have I gotten myself into????

[penelope10]

No! Really??????????

Hey. finally that four year degree in English (that took me six years to get because I paid for it myself without student loans) has finally paid off!

 

[>Charlotte<]

Not saying it's not the same person, but the misspelling of "took" isn't much evidence. That's a very common misspelling. There are lots of hits if you search "toke" on this site alone--and not just in the drug forums.

 

[CarrieWest]

I do not believe I have thrown up road blocks. I do not feel it is in my daughters best interest to see a man who in the first two years had no interest untill his wife got involved. Why did he have to wait 2 years before doing somethng? I offered him time to come see her over the two years but when he said his wife was coming I refuse to let another women interfere in something that has nothing to do with her. I believe if he is going to have overnight weekends his wife and the other children do not need to be involved. Those weekends are suppose to be for the two of them not the others. He has not accomplished anything in the last year. He moved from a small 2br apt and moved in with his parents boy that shows how much he realy is concerned that he would go back to living with them. His parents dislike me, and I do not want them showing that in front of my daughter. She does not need to see that at all. That is what is in her best interest....

 

[CarrieWest]

and by the way NO i am not posting as the other side. I have no idea if he comes her. what he does is his business not mine.

 

[>Charlotte<]

I do not believe I have thrown up road blocks.

I do not feel it is in my daughters best interest to see a man who in the first two years had no interest untill his wife got involved.

Roadblock.

Why did he have to wait 2 years before doing somethng? I offered him time to come see her over the two years but when he said his wife was coming I refuse to let another women interfere in something that has nothing to do with her.

Roadblock.

I believe if he is going to have overnight weekends his wife and the other children do not need to be involved.

Roadblock.

His parents dislike me, and I do not want them showing that in front of my daughter.

Roadblock.

She does not need to see that at all.

Roadblock.

 

[>Charlotte<]

News flash. You're not the only one who gets to have input as to what is in the child's best interest. She has two parents. Deal with it.

Why did he wait two years? I have no idea. Doesn't matter. He wants to do something now.

You also don't get to decide that his wife can't be in the presence of the child any more than he can decide, for instance, that your mother or your best friend can't be in the presence of the child. You might have to learn the hard way that "control freak" doesn't go over very well in court.

How he spends his weekends with her, whether he shares that with his family or not, is none of your business.

His parents have a right to dislike you. From the behavior you're admitting to in your posts I don't blame them.

The single most important thing you apparently have to learn right now is that this child has TWO parents, and you are not more of a parent or a better parent and do not have more rights than he simply because you have custody and are bitter about the past.

 

[RaineeDemas]

girl you have one heck of a large head. What do you expect him to do when he has overnight visits pay for a hotel? Ha that is very unlikely to happen. It sounds as though dad is trying to make an effort and no matter what you are not letting him. I hope this judge sees through what you are trying to do, and it is very likely that that will happen. Do not be suprised if you are the one who has to have supervised visits and having to prove yourself to them.

So dad has known for a year he is the dad and you have fought him the whole way? I am glad he did not fight the supervised visits looks like he used his head in order to prove he is a good father.

You may not want her involved but unless she has harmed your daughter in any way, you have nothing to stand on. Step parents have no rights when it comes to a step child but they do have a right to stay in there own homeunless proven other wise. It sounds like all she is doing is standing behind her husband and supporting him 100%. Do you have a boyfriend or a husband? Put yourself in his shoes do you think he likes that other person involved? I am preety sure he does not but he is not raising cane about it which shows he is handling this like an adult....

 

[>Charlotte<]

Do you have a boyfriend or a husband?

If she did she'd be asking how to terminate Dad's rights so he could adopt.

 

[CarrieWest]

Yes I am married have been for 9 months we have been together a year and a half. I would much rather my husband adopt her so this could all be over with and I did not have to deal with him any more but was told he had to sighn over his rights and he has already stated he is not doing that. My daughter calls my husband daddy and calls my ex Daddy Mike thats all she knows and I do not see anything wrong with this. I have on occassion heard her call her step mother mommy and her step mother has corrected and told her she is Mrs Angela. I have told my daughter she has one mommy and no more then that....

 

[>Charlotte<]

Can I call 'em, or what?

 

[RaineeDemas]

Seems you have a real problem. You have no problem with her havig two daddys but not two mommys. It seems his wife made the correction and is trying to handle this the best way with out causing waves in the water. I believe you said there was other children in the house. If your daughter has been with them and hears them call her mommy then she is doing the typical monkey see monkey do. Your daughter is young and you are confusing the hell out of her. You should have approached this much diffrently by simply telling her yes she has two daddys and two mommys and they all love her very much and left it alone. When she gets alittle older to understand it can be readdressed but she is little and does not understand and you are making it much worse then need be.....

 

[Just Blue]

Yes I am married have been for 9 months we have been together a year and a half. I would much rather my husband adopt her so this could all be over with and I did not have to deal with him any more but was told he had to sighn over his rights and he has already stated he is not doing that. My daughter calls my husband daddy and calls my ex Daddy Mike thats all she knows and I do not see anything wrong with this. I have on occassion heard her call her step mother mommy and her step mother has corrected and told her she is Mrs Angela. I have told my daughter she has one mommy and no more then that....

Ahh...So your daughter has only ONE mommy but you think it's okay to pass off your hubby as daddy? So DD has TWO fathers?

I hope DAD files for PC and gets it.

 

[Just Blue]

Can I call 'em, or what?

You are good!!!!

 

[Ohiogal]

I do not believe I have thrown up road blocks. I do not feel it is in my daughters best interest to see a man who in the first two years had no interest untill his wife got involved. Why did he have to wait 2 years before doing somethng? I offered him time to come see her over the two years but when he said his wife was coming I refuse to let another women interfere in something that has nothing to do with her. I believe if he is going to have overnight weekends his wife and the other children do not need to be involved. Those weekends are suppose to be for the two of them not the others. He has not accomplished anything in the last year. He moved from a small 2br apt and moved in with his parents boy that shows how much he realy is concerned that he would go back to living with them. His parents dislike me, and I do not want them showing that in front of my daughter. She does not need to see that at all. That is what is in her best interest....

He does NOT have to kick his family out of the house. Maybe you should consider only having the baby around you and NEVER anyone else. After all your time is strictly for you and other people do not need to be involved.

I can understand why his parents dislike you. I DISLIKE YOU based on your statements here and I do not even know you. So I can imagine how easy it is for people who do know you and are affected by the actions you have stated you have done to dislike you.

Time for your husband and stepson to leave whenever the child is with you. THEY do not need to be anywhere near this child of yours EVER.

Oh what is that? Oh -- you are a hypocrite.

 

[Ohiogal]

If she did she'd be asking how to terminate Dad's rights so he could adopt.

She does. On her other thread she made a big deal about how she didn't get the home study done because her STEPSON wasn't allowed to be present and he HAD TO BE there or she wasn't going to do it. So she is not only married but a BUD.