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What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? TX

K. I have a huge issue. I watch a boy who is 15 months old. His mom is 20 a lives with her bf (not the hcilds dad). She has been in abusive relationships b4. Well last week she was going to leave her bf and move in with her mom. She told me she wasnt allowed to hang pictures of her son up in their apartment because BF thought he was ugly, BF call him a ugly mexican baby , nothign physical but alot a verbal stuff. Well she decided to stay with him and give him another chance for the 3rf time, This morning she calls me a warns me that this boy has some brusing because he fell out of his crib. I told her he should be fine. She brings him over and I about drop my DD. From the middle of his forhead to the back middle of his head is black and RED. His eye is swollen, his ear is so black from being bruised. I wanteed to cry for him. she did want to take him in. She said he is acting normal. Well I call this nurse I wantch a kid for and she says she needs to take him in. So the mother was still thinking about it. Well the nurse comes over and said she NEEDED to take him in because if somethign is wrong and she waits CPS will get involved. So the mom left to take him. The nurse tells me it does not look like he feel out of his crib but that he looks beat. After she said that I told her what had been going on with moms bf, I want to take this child from her but I know I cant, I just feel so hopeless. She is at the hospital now. I could not take pictures because the mom was here the whole time. Well mom called me fom hospital, she is not allowed to leave the hospital with her son. They told her there is no way he fell from his crib and it looks like he has been beaten up. CPS and the Cops have both done interviews with her. CPS is on there way to her apt to take pics of her place. I told her that if they do put him in foster care that he can stay with me if they allow it, since he knows me. Also, they did a full body look on him and found a bunch of bruises on his butt. I have never seen them even when I change his diaper so they must have not been very big or bright. So they might be interviewing me as well....dunno? I went to the hospital last night and CPS, the mother, and I sign paper work that I have temp gardian ship. CPS did background checks and house chk on me. Today Grandma came over to chk on him. She didnt seem to know him very well. Didnt know his age. Then she told me she wanted to get custody of him. I said thats great since she i family and I called the CPS worker and left a message. I told her that I would call her as soon as I heard anything. Her response: well I have a pretty busy week next week. Just doesnt sound like she cares. Also, she has to leave her home at 5AM and doesnt get home until 7PM M-Fri. So he would be in daycare all day with someone he doesnt even know! Then she tells me the mother of the boy moved in with her today. But she wants custody? The mother is allowed no contact with the boy until further notice. How does all this work? Will they really make him live with someone knew that he doesnt know that well and put him in daycare ALL day?
 


summerdawn

Senior Member
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? TX

K. I have a huge issue. I watch a boy who is 15 months old. His mom is 20 a lives with her bf (not the hcilds dad). She has been in abusive relationships b4. Well last week she was going to leave her bf and move in with her mom. She told me she wasnt allowed to hang pictures of her son up in their apartment because BF thought he was ugly, BF call him a ugly mexican baby , nothign physical but alot a verbal stuff. Well she decided to stay with him and give him another chance for the 3rf time, This morning she calls me a warns me that this boy has some brusing because he fell out of his crib. I told her he should be fine. She brings him over and I about drop my DD. From the middle of his forhead to the back middle of his head is black and RED. His eye is swollen, his ear is so black from being bruised. I wanteed to cry for him. she did want to take him in. She said he is acting normal. Well I call this nurse I wantch a kid for and she says she needs to take him in. So the mother was still thinking about it. Well the nurse comes over and said she NEEDED to take him in because if somethign is wrong and she waits CPS will get involved. So the mom left to take him. The nurse tells me it does not look like he feel out of his crib but that he looks beat. After she said that I told her what had been going on with moms bf, I want to take this child from her but I know I cant, I just feel so hopeless. She is at the hospital now. I could not take pictures because the mom was here the whole time. Well mom called me fom hospital, she is not allowed to leave the hospital with her son. They told her there is no way he fell from his crib and it looks like he has been beaten up. CPS and the Cops have both done interviews with her. CPS is on there way to her apt to take pics of her place. I told her that if they do put him in foster care that he can stay with me if they allow it, since he knows me. Also, they did a full body look on him and found a bunch of bruises on his butt. I have never seen them even when I change his diaper so they must have not been very big or bright. So they might be interviewing me as well....dunno? I went to the hospital last night and CPS, the mother, and I sign paper work that I have temp gardian ship. CPS did background checks and house chk on me. Today Grandma came over to chk on him. She didnt seem to know him very well. Didnt know his age. Then she told me she wanted to get custody of him. I said thats great since she i family and I called the CPS worker and left a message. I told her that I would call her as soon as I heard anything. Her response: well I have a pretty busy week next week. Just doesnt sound like she cares. Also, she has to leave her home at 5AM and doesnt get home until 7PM M-Fri. So he would be in daycare all day with someone he doesnt even know! Then she tells me the mother of the boy moved in with her today. But she wants custody? The mother is allowed no contact with the boy until further notice. How does all this work? Will they really make him live with someone knew that he doesnt know that well and put him in daycare ALL day?
If the mother is living with the grandmother, the child will not be allowed to live there until mom satisfies enough of the reunification plan requirements to convince a judge to send the child back with her. Make sure to let the social worker know that mom is living there.

Where is the child's father?
 
the father is another long story. She got preg during spring break. Moved in with the guy and he started to beat her. So she left and met some other guy who is in the Army while she was still preg. Moved in with him and when she had the baby the Army guy signed the BC stating he was the father. The real father knows this and wants nothing to do with the child. Two weeks ago the guy who is on the birth certificate (not the real father) lost his son to the state and he is in foster care. His son is 12. I dont know the reason as to why. She moved back here in Oct (texas) as they broke up. Long messed up situation.
 
Also what happens if she (the mother) moved out and they give this baby to the gmother. But the gmother lets the mother see the baby even if she is not suppose to. (i have a feeling). They would not be able to prove it unless they caught it.
 

summerdawn

Senior Member
the father is another long story. She got preg during spring break. Moved in with the guy and he started to beat her. So she left and met some other guy who is in the Army while she was still preg. Moved in with him and when she had the baby the Army guy signed the BC stating he was the father. The real father knows this and wants nothing to do with the child. Two weeks ago the guy who is on the birth certificate (not the real father) lost his son to the state and he is in foster care. His son is 12. I dont know the reason as to why. She moved back here in Oct (texas) as they broke up. Long messed up situation.
CPS will look for the child's father. If it can't be proven that the father is unfit, he could get custody-if they can even find out who he is with that convoluted story...
 
I did tell CPS this. I just dont know who the "real" father is. I dotn think they would be able to prove him unfit as he has other children . Do you think they will put him with the gmother while in foster care? What abotu her schedule workin 5AM-7PM? Would they consider letting him stay with me Mon-Fri since he has stayed with me like that since Oct and her have him on the weekends? She cant drop him off with me b4 work as she lives 45 min away
 

summerdawn

Senior Member
I did tell CPS this. I just dont know who the "real" father is. I dotn think they would be able to prove him unfit as he has other children . Do you think they will put him with the gmother while in foster care? What abotu her schedule workin 5AM-7PM? Would they consider letting him stay with me Mon-Fri since he has stayed with me like that since Oct and her have him on the weekends? She cant drop him off with me b4 work as she lives 45 min away
In the first post you stated that the mother, who is not currently allowed contact with the child, is staying with the grandmother currently. Is this correct?
 
yes. she moved in with her today. But grandmother wants temp custody instead of me. I am all for the child going with family. I just feel they will say mom "moved" out to get the child back with mom. I am not 100% sure mom did this. I am thinking it was either her boy friend or her. Her stories are just not matching up. But I am a nieve person when it comes to this because I cant see ANYONE harming a child this way. CPS is 100% sure it was mom. Mom is under the impression she will get her son back on Monday. CPS told me that they will try to keep him with me when he officially goes into state care. But this was befor the grandmother. I have to take him to special doc on Tues for abused children to see how old everything really is. She is denying she knew anything of it or did anything to him. The BF said he never did anything either. So everyone is denying everything. This little boy looks awful. They also found hand prints that are bruises on his bottom. I just dont want to see this little boy be bouncing from somone (even though family) he hardly knows that will put him in a new daycare 90% of the time, after everything he has gone through. I know I am not family I am just vERY attached to him. The only reason CPS let me take into my care is because I called the hospital and warned them she was coming in and I didnt think it was a fall....that came form CPS
 

summerdawn

Senior Member
To be quite honest, from a legal perspective, I am surprised that you were able to obtain temporary custody in this situation considering you are not a relative. At this point all you can do is cooperate with CPS, and tell them that mother is living in grandmother's house, and hope for the best.
 
The reason why it happened this way was because she has no family here besides her mother. Her father , sister, and the babies BC dad all live in another state. She called her mom when everything was happening and her mom told her she was to busy to talk. This was around 1PM and she still has not gotten ahold of her when I got him at 6ish.
 

txmom512

Member
To be quite honest, from a legal perspective, I am surprised that you were able to obtain temporary custody in this situation considering you are not a relative. At this point all you can do is cooperate with CPS, and tell them that mother is living in grandmother's house, and hope for the best.

The TX foster care system is way overloaded, there is a huge shortage of good foster care down here. CPS is nearly always willing to place a child in a good home (like OP said, they do a home check, etc.) if there is someone the child is familiar with, especially if there is no other family.

In this case, it is HIGHLY unlikely they would give the child to the grandmother because she is in contact with the mother and the mother is not to be in contact with the child. They are pretty careful of that.

I do agree, though. Cooperate with CPS right now. Tell them what you know and work with them.
 

summerdawn

Senior Member
The TX foster care system is way overloaded, there is a huge shortage of good foster care down here. CPS is nearly always willing to place a child in a good home (like OP said, they do a home check, etc.) if there is someone the child is familiar with, especially if there is no other family.

In this case, it is HIGHLY unlikely they would give the child to the grandmother because she is in contact with the mother and the mother is not to be in contact with the child. They are pretty careful of that.

I do agree, though. Cooperate with CPS right now. Tell them what you know and work with them.

Thanks for the clarification, txmom. OP, if grandmother were to get the child I believe she would be subject to random visits by the social worer so it would be hard to hide if mom was living with her. (Unless Texas doesn't do random visits on foster families like the workers out here do?):confused:
 
I believe they do random visits as the papers I sign state that both the mother and I are allowed random visits and phone calls from CPS
 

Zigner

Senior Member, Non-Attorney
It's too bad that CPS decided to place the child with a caregiver who didn't call the police IMMEDIATELY upon seeing the major bruising, etc.
 

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