longsally111
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no, its " your honor, she emptied the house, wrecked the car you court ordered me to have, has not allowed me to talk to the boy since she left even when I ask, did not hand him over for visitation as court ordered, damaged the house and wont pay to fix it, took all the babies clothes and yet I paid her car payment and insurance for her, let her speak 2-3 times a day on the phone with the baby even though she would curse at me in the process, gave her money even though support is not court ordered, and listened to her threaten me with not returning the baby".
I have attached a copy of the letter he sent to his attorney:
To XXXXXX:
I am writing this letter to you to outline my concerns concerning the actions of my wife since the separation and start of divorce proceedings. xxxxx has been showing over and over again her utter lack of respect for the court and the judges rulings and orders. My concerns are as follows:
1. She broke a window in the marital home, ordered and paid for the replacement glass and now will not give the glass so the damage she caused can be repaired. When asked where the glass is, I have been told that she is “confused as to the glass and when to bring it” even though she has been repeatedly reminded and has promised during the last two visitations with our daughter to bring it.. She refers me to her father who refers me back to her. I can only assume that this confusion is due to her continued consumption and abuse of prescription narcotics.
2. I was awarded custody of the marital home for myself and our 2 year old daughter. Upon xxxxx refusing to move and her being threatened with contempt of court, she moved out in the middle of the night taking almost all the furniture, dishes, towels, sheets, food, the babies medicine and all her clothing that fit her and left the house in such disarray with piles of trash everywhere that it was uninhabitable for our daughter for over 1 week. We have asked for an itemized list of what she took and she has not complied. My father has kindly purchased things for the home to assist me. ( I took pictures of the mess and damage left by her)
3. The judge awarded me visitation with xxxxx. I spoke with xxxx on Thursday and was informed by her as to the pick up location for xxxxx and when I drove to xxxxxx to collect him, I arrived early and xxxxx father was contacted about early pickup. He told us to come on and get him. Upon our arrival, xxxxx was not present, only her father and others who REFUSED to give him to me, in direct violation of the court order. (The police were called and information collected by the officer for use in court.) xxxxx was being sequestered in a back room with two adults and was under obvious duress. I believe that this was done in retaliation for my not altering the pick up and drop off location for my daughter as xxxxx requested. Her request was that I drive my daughter to within 40 minutes of her home in xxxxxx for drop off and pick up as well as drive to her home for drop off and pickup of xxxxx. It is a two and a half hour drive each way for both of us on alternating weekends. I was also unable to have visitation with xxxxx on Saturday February 17th, 2008 as there was a death in xxxxx family. The funeral was Thursday and I missed visitation at xxxxx request that xxxxx be allowed to grieve with her family over the weekend.
4. I have not denied visitation of our daughter to xxxx and yet, when she has her, as on her last visit, she has called my phone up to 18 times a day yelling at me and generally harassing me. I do not call my daughter during visits so not to interfere with xxxx visitation. ( I have phone records for proof) She also threatened not to return the baby to us unless we drove to xxxxxx to retrieve her.
5. xxxx does not allow me phone visitation with xxxx even though I have not denied her phone visitation with the baby and it is not court ordered.
6. xxxxx has now filed charges against me in xxxxx behind the back of the xxxxxx judge alleging I threatened to hurt xxxx. That has now required me to spend more money getting a second attorney in another state to defend myself. ( I have a copy of the charges from court)
7. xxxxx returned my car at the vehicle exchange with the spare tire missing, rims missing and the vehicle had been in an auto accident that she did not report to me or my attorney. She stated the two cars hit bumpers. The insurance company has since informed me that the accident was xxxxx fault, that she hit the other car in the door. This is her second accident in eight months. (Insurance gave a copy of the report to us). I have to assume that this accident was due to her continued consumption of prescription narcotics and alcohol. Due to her previous DUI, I was already paying higher than normal rates for car insurance and now, due to her accidents, my rates are rising beyond what I can afford to have her covered.
8. xxxxx relationship with his sister is now severely hampered due to xxxxx actions as he cannot speak to her on the phone.
9. xxxx has yet to secure a job for herself and continues to be the only family member using the health insurance to pay for her drugs at an enormous financial cost to myself
At this juncture, it has become apparent that xxxxx has no regard for the judge or his orders and is more interested in trying to cause damage and hurt than about the relationship the children have with each other and ending this marriage in a mature and amicable fashion. She has been using xxxxx as a “weapon” with no regard for his feelings or well being, however, I am aware that I hold no legal claim to him and he is probably beyond my help. I am concerned for the physical and psychological safety of my daughter. I pray that the court will reconsider its previous order on visitation due to the fact that our daughter is in imminent danger of flight risk and is being driven in a vehicle by someone who is under the influence of large amounts of narcotic (pain) medications and alcohol usage. We are asking for an emergency order for supervised visitation in xxxxxx for xxxxx to be expedited as xxxxx has visitation on March 6th, 2009. We are also requesting that it be ordered that xxxxxx secure and pay for her own car and health insurance within 30 days time.
As I stated in my earlier post, his attorney filed contempt charges against her for the emptying of the house ( she was told to take only her clothes) and not allowing visitation with the son. He also filed something ( i dont know what it is called) that asks the judge to make her bring the boy to him this weekend when she shows up to get the baby.
I have attached a copy of the letter he sent to his attorney:
To XXXXXX:
I am writing this letter to you to outline my concerns concerning the actions of my wife since the separation and start of divorce proceedings. xxxxx has been showing over and over again her utter lack of respect for the court and the judges rulings and orders. My concerns are as follows:
1. She broke a window in the marital home, ordered and paid for the replacement glass and now will not give the glass so the damage she caused can be repaired. When asked where the glass is, I have been told that she is “confused as to the glass and when to bring it” even though she has been repeatedly reminded and has promised during the last two visitations with our daughter to bring it.. She refers me to her father who refers me back to her. I can only assume that this confusion is due to her continued consumption and abuse of prescription narcotics.
2. I was awarded custody of the marital home for myself and our 2 year old daughter. Upon xxxxx refusing to move and her being threatened with contempt of court, she moved out in the middle of the night taking almost all the furniture, dishes, towels, sheets, food, the babies medicine and all her clothing that fit her and left the house in such disarray with piles of trash everywhere that it was uninhabitable for our daughter for over 1 week. We have asked for an itemized list of what she took and she has not complied. My father has kindly purchased things for the home to assist me. ( I took pictures of the mess and damage left by her)
3. The judge awarded me visitation with xxxxx. I spoke with xxxx on Thursday and was informed by her as to the pick up location for xxxxx and when I drove to xxxxxx to collect him, I arrived early and xxxxx father was contacted about early pickup. He told us to come on and get him. Upon our arrival, xxxxx was not present, only her father and others who REFUSED to give him to me, in direct violation of the court order. (The police were called and information collected by the officer for use in court.) xxxxx was being sequestered in a back room with two adults and was under obvious duress. I believe that this was done in retaliation for my not altering the pick up and drop off location for my daughter as xxxxx requested. Her request was that I drive my daughter to within 40 minutes of her home in xxxxxx for drop off and pick up as well as drive to her home for drop off and pickup of xxxxx. It is a two and a half hour drive each way for both of us on alternating weekends. I was also unable to have visitation with xxxxx on Saturday February 17th, 2008 as there was a death in xxxxx family. The funeral was Thursday and I missed visitation at xxxxx request that xxxxx be allowed to grieve with her family over the weekend.
4. I have not denied visitation of our daughter to xxxx and yet, when she has her, as on her last visit, she has called my phone up to 18 times a day yelling at me and generally harassing me. I do not call my daughter during visits so not to interfere with xxxx visitation. ( I have phone records for proof) She also threatened not to return the baby to us unless we drove to xxxxxx to retrieve her.
5. xxxx does not allow me phone visitation with xxxx even though I have not denied her phone visitation with the baby and it is not court ordered.
6. xxxxx has now filed charges against me in xxxxx behind the back of the xxxxxx judge alleging I threatened to hurt xxxx. That has now required me to spend more money getting a second attorney in another state to defend myself. ( I have a copy of the charges from court)
7. xxxxx returned my car at the vehicle exchange with the spare tire missing, rims missing and the vehicle had been in an auto accident that she did not report to me or my attorney. She stated the two cars hit bumpers. The insurance company has since informed me that the accident was xxxxx fault, that she hit the other car in the door. This is her second accident in eight months. (Insurance gave a copy of the report to us). I have to assume that this accident was due to her continued consumption of prescription narcotics and alcohol. Due to her previous DUI, I was already paying higher than normal rates for car insurance and now, due to her accidents, my rates are rising beyond what I can afford to have her covered.
8. xxxxx relationship with his sister is now severely hampered due to xxxxx actions as he cannot speak to her on the phone.
9. xxxx has yet to secure a job for herself and continues to be the only family member using the health insurance to pay for her drugs at an enormous financial cost to myself
At this juncture, it has become apparent that xxxxx has no regard for the judge or his orders and is more interested in trying to cause damage and hurt than about the relationship the children have with each other and ending this marriage in a mature and amicable fashion. She has been using xxxxx as a “weapon” with no regard for his feelings or well being, however, I am aware that I hold no legal claim to him and he is probably beyond my help. I am concerned for the physical and psychological safety of my daughter. I pray that the court will reconsider its previous order on visitation due to the fact that our daughter is in imminent danger of flight risk and is being driven in a vehicle by someone who is under the influence of large amounts of narcotic (pain) medications and alcohol usage. We are asking for an emergency order for supervised visitation in xxxxxx for xxxxx to be expedited as xxxxx has visitation on March 6th, 2009. We are also requesting that it be ordered that xxxxxx secure and pay for her own car and health insurance within 30 days time.
As I stated in my earlier post, his attorney filed contempt charges against her for the emptying of the house ( she was told to take only her clothes) and not allowing visitation with the son. He also filed something ( i dont know what it is called) that asks the judge to make her bring the boy to him this weekend when she shows up to get the baby.
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