Can my ex get more child support?

[stealth2]

My son is deaf, has a neurological disorder ( not yet diagnosed ), childhood disinigrative disorder, and a disinigrative Mitochondrial disorder, mood disorder, and severe develpomentally delayed.

I didn't read this before I posted, so apparently you have TWO disabled children - one of whom you have custody of, and the other you don't. When you think about it *seriously* and without malice towards anyone... do you think it truly appropriate that you pay only $50 a month for one of your disabled childen? Would you be okay if the father of the other paid you no more than that? You've got some serious problems, and I suspect you're going to have to find more money somehow.

(ETA) And he has TWO disabled kids at home.

 

[MichelleGilliam]

No I don't have serious problems. I take care of my obligation to my children and I help pay medical bills for all my children. All I was looking at is if I would possibally have to pay him more when he has a great paying job and I don't. I did not ask you people to judge me but to give me some legal advise. I love all my children and I take darn good care of them.

 

[stealth2]

I don't know where my son's dad is to even get help from him.

Time to find him. Really.

 

[CourtClerk]

And if you get custody of your younger kids in your pending divorce, you'll probably be getting cs from that ex husband to help with the expenses for those 2 kids.

Given her thought process and since she can't work. The new STBX should only pay her $50/mo. That's what she pays to her other ex with 2 kids... right? So that should be an acceptable amount.

I wonder though. She says she "can't" work because she has a disabled child. How is she going to support herself and (presumably) the children after the divorce? Or does she expect the ex to continue to support them?

 

[stealth2]

Given her thought process and since she can't work. The new STBX should only pay her $50/mo. That's what she pays to her other ex with 2 kids... right? So that should be an acceptable amount.

I wonder though. She says she "can't" work because she has a disabled child. How is she going to support herself and (presumably) the children after the divorce? Or does she expect the ex to continue to support them?

Nah - she'll find someone else to marry and foot the bill.

 

[MichelleGilliam]

Nah - she'll find someone else to marry and foot the bill. I am so glad you have my life planned out for me. I was getting worried about that. Thanks!

 

[CourtClerk]

I am so glad you have my life planned out for me.

I can guarantee you, if you let Stealth plan out your life, you wouldn't have ANY of these children. You can't handle it.

 

[MichelleGilliam]

My children are gifts from God and my children are not lacking in any area. If they were lacking do you honestly think I would have them in my home? I can assure you that these are only your opinions and who are you to say who can and cannot have children. I think yall need to stick to legal advise and quit trying to judge peoples lives. I have been reading several of your posts and yall continue to cut people down when it comes to there lives. You know I have come to a new conclusion. You down others lives because yours isn't so great so you have to insert your lame opinions on others and make judgements about people you don't even know. You don't know what someone has went through in there lives and I am very upset that you would even try. I will say again this is a legal forum not a life forum. Keep the snide remarks to yourself and give only legal advise.

 

[Ohiogal]

My children are gifts from God and my children are not lacking in any area. If they were lacking do you honestly think I would have them in my home? I can assure you that these are only your opinions and who are you to say who can and cannot have children. I think yall need to stick to legal advise and quit trying to judge peoples lives. I have been reading several of your posts and yall continue to cut people down when it comes to there lives. You know I have come to a new conclusion. You down others lives because yours isn't so great so you have to insert your lame opinions on others and make judgements about people you don't even know. You don't know what someone has went through in there lives and I am very upset that you would even try. I will say again this is a legal forum not a life forum. Keep the snide remarks to yourself and give only legal advise.

You don't have one of your children in your home. He lives with his father. YOU don't even financially support him and want to find out a way to minimize that. So I guess that child is lacking. Oh and I can vouch that the seniors that have responded to you have dynamite lives. We meet in the Carribean monthly with our families and vacation at our condos there.

Stealth will you host the first dinner night next month? Or should that be left to CC? I have the bar night planned for my place.

 

[wileybunch]

This is going a little off course, but in the interest of clarity, you have 4 children -- 2 live with Dad1/you have visitation, 1 lives with Dad2, 1 lives with you from Dad2.

So these statements are confusing:

I don't know where my son's dad is to even get help from him. My son's dad keeps saying that he wants to give up his rights because he cannot handle his disabilities.

I have two children who are ill. My oldest son who lives with his dad was diagnosed in January with three conginital heart defect and my youngest was born with his disibilities.

Which Dad is it you can't find?

 

[nextwife]

This is going a little off course, but in the interest of clarity, you have 4 children -- 2 live with Dad1/you have visitation, 1 lives with Dad2, 1 lives with you from Dad2.
Which Dad is it you can't find?

I now have a son who depends on me to be at home full time to take care of him. My son from my new husband ,who I am divorcing.

In post 1, she says he's the son of her STBX.

 

[MichelleGilliam]

I have four children 14,10,7 and 6 years old. The 14 and 10 year olds are from my ex husband and they live with their dad. The 7 and 6 year old live with me and are by my husband now. I don't know where the 7 and 6 year old's dad is. He says that he can't handle my son who is disabled and decided to leave.

Oh and so far as me not supporting my children that live with there dad it is not true. I pay my child support that is ordered and take care of medical bills that are ordered. I also go beyond that and make sure my kids have all school supplies, food, school clothes, field trips and I by there meds that they have to have on a monthly basis. I bought my son and my daughter thier instruments for school. He did not and does not help me with any of these things. I don't know where you get off saying I do not take care of them just because I asked a simple question of did you think a judge would make me pay more. Just because they live with him does not mean I don't take care of my children. I guess someone with money doesn't have to worry about things like this. I wish I could go to the Carribean every month and waste money instead of giving back to the community. I may not have alot of money and my kids are okay with that. At least they know that I love them and they are happy with what they got.

 

[stealth2]

No I don't have serious problems. I take care of my obligation to my children and I help pay medical bills for all my children. All I was looking at is if I would possibally have to pay him more when he has a great paying job and I don't. I did not ask you people to judge me but to give me some legal advise. I love all my children and I take darn good care of them.

Well, no... if you're not working, and you're only paying $50 a month in support for an ill child... you'Re NOT taking care of your obligation.

And you will still have to find your husband of you want to divorce - and then you can hit him up to help (operative word, there) support the children you have at home.

 

[MichelleGilliam]

I do have a job. It may not be a paying job and you may not want to reconize what I do as a job. There alot of parents of special needs children who have a full time non paying job. I take care of my obligation that the courts have set and go beyond what is ordered so I don't know where you get off saying that I don't take care of my obligation. Really I think this has gotten off course and out of hand. Thanks.

 

[stealth2]

I do have a job. It may not be a paying job and you may not want to reconize what I do as a job. There alot of parents of special needs children who have a full time non paying job. I take care of my obligation that the courts have set and go beyond what is ordered so I don't know where you get off saying that I don't take care of my obligation. Really I think this has gotten off course and out of hand. Thanks.

Do you seriously believe that $50 a month covers the needs of the two children you are not caring for, especially when one is special needs? That Dad makes "good" money is moot - you are as responsible as he is to provide financially for them. Would you be cool with the father of your two younger children paying you $50 a month in support for them? Seriously - you NEED to find a way to make enough money to support yourself and your children.

The answer to your initial question remains YES, he could get an increase in support. You are voluntarily unemployed.