Can my ex get more child support?

[CourtClerk]

Do you seriously believe that $50 a month covers the needs of the two children you are not caring for, especially when one is special needs? That Dad makes "good" money is moot - you are as responsible as he is to provide financially for them. Would you be cool with the father of your two younger children paying you $50 a month in support for them? Seriously - you NEED to find a way to make enough money to support yourself and your children.

The answer to your initial question remains YES, he could get an increase in support. You are voluntarily unemployed.

Give up already, Stealth. This poor child needs a support group, not a legal forum. She got the answer in post #2, and didn't like it. She's not going to like the answer on page 2 either. She just wants/needs someone to feel sorry for her.

 

[hearts41]

)

I do have a job. It may not be a paying job and you may not want to reconize what I do as a job. There alot of parents of special needs children who have a full time non paying job. I take care of my obligation that the courts have set and go beyond what is ordered so I don't know where you get off saying that I don't take care of my obligation. Really I think this has gotten off course and out of hand. Thanks.


Michelle,

Its a shame you received such judgemental, rude remarks to your questions. Its just the way it is around here, almost everyone is fair game. You just have to have tough skin.
With that said, you are right about one thing, you do pay what is ordered, someone thought that was enough CS at one point and time, either the judge or your ex. Being a parent of four kids is a tough job (rewarding but tough) having a child with disabilites is even harder. I commend you for the job you are doing. Perhaps some kind of home health could help you a few days a week? Is that a possibility?
I don't think kids suffer because a lower CS is ordered in a case. My sons father only paid $100.00 a month for over 5 years, he made good money but his sons never saw any of it. I was a single mom for over half that time, but my sons did not suffer. I made sure they did not even know what CS was or lack there of it. Its our job to insure they are cared for and don't even know what CS is or how much, etc. Keep up the good work, best of luck to you. God bless..

 

[AHA]

My children are gifts from God and my children are not lacking in any area. If they were lacking do you honestly think I would have them in my home? I can assure you that these are only your opinions and who are you to say who can and cannot have children. I think yall need to stick to legal advise and quit trying to judge peoples lives. I have been reading several of your posts and yall continue to cut people down when it comes to there lives. You know I have come to a new conclusion. You down others lives because yours isn't so great so you have to insert your lame opinions on others and make judgements about people you don't even know. You don't know what someone has went through in there lives and I am very upset that you would even try. I will say again this is a legal forum not a life forum. Keep the snide remarks to yourself and give only legal advise.

Everyone here is on the children's sidfe, and the most reasonable thought process is that if you can't afford x number of kids you should not create x number of kids. Love will not feed them, dress tem and keep a warm roof over their heads until they are old enough to move out.

My life is awesome, thank you very much. Because of that I can see the reality in the bad situation others have either been forced into or chosen to be in. For many people the truth is what they need to be told, because they can't see the different sides of their situation (that's pretty much why you come here). Getting defensive straight off the bat, without opening the mind to the words being said will not help you one bit, but that will be your choice entirely.
No one gets paid to talk here, so what would we possible gain by telling you lies?

 

[hearts41]

get real

Everyone here is on the children's sidfe, and the most reasonable thought process is that if you can't afford x number of kids you should not create x number of kids. Love will not feed them, dress tem and keep a warm roof over their heads until they are old enough to move out.

My life is awesome, thank you very much. Because of that I can see the reality in the bad situation others have either been forced into or chosen to be in. For many people the truth is what they need to be told, because they can't see the different sides of their situation (that's pretty much why you come here). Getting defensive straight off the bat, without opening the mind to the words being said will not help you one bit, but that will be your choice entirely.
No one gets paid to talk here, so what would we possible gain by telling you lies


Being on the child's side, nothing wrong with that. "Truth is what people need to be told, that is why they come here" what an arrogant statement. Your "truth" and that of the "seniors" on this board does not interest me. Many belittle most of the people that come on this board asking questions. They are not looking for your "truth" about their lives. The fact that you post that and actually believe it is not only pompous but funny.
People don't post on here so you can attempt to belittle their lives, they ask for legal advice, thats it. Nothing more.

 

[Ohiogal]

Being on the child's side, nothing wrong with that. "Truth is what people need to be told, that is why they come here" what an arrogant statement. Your "truth" and that of the "seniors" on this board does not interest me. Many belittle most of the people that come on this board asking questions. They are not looking for your "truth" about their lives. The fact that you post that and actually believe it is not only pompous but funny.
People don't post on here so you can attempt to belittle their lives, they ask for legal advice, thats it. Nothing more.

Well then don't come here quite frankly. We also don't have to give just "legal advice" because people dont' like legal advice. They want candy coated sugar spun into pretty delicacies. OhSweetness is a big hit with people like this OP because she is so much like spun sugar she causes cavities. Thankfully she has not been posting lately.

 

[hearts41]

lol

Well then don't come here quite frankly. We also don't have to give just "legal advice" because people dont' like legal advice. They want candy coated sugar spun into pretty delicacies. OhSweetness is a big hit with people like this OP because she is so much like spun sugar she causes cavities. Thankfully she has not been posting lately.
_______________
Anyone is free to come here, an voice an opinion, you, me, anyone. Of course you don't have to give "just" legal advice you can give unwanted and quite often mean spirited advice if you so desire. It says way more about the poster doing the advice giving than the poster that asked the original question. Perhaps you think they just want their hand held and you are doing them a favor by giving them the hard cold "facts" I now understand why people need to go on and about how superior their lives are to others. Whatever makes you feel comfortable, you have your style of posting and I have mine, and quite frankly just because they don't mesh doesn't mean I am leaving.

 

[Ohiogal]

Anyone is free to come here, an voice an opinion, you, me, anyone. Of course you don't have to give "just" legal advice you can give unwanted and quite often mean spirited advice if you so desire. It says way more about the poster doing the advice giving than the poster that asked the original question. Perhaps you think they just want their hand held and you are doing them a favor by giving them the hard cold "facts" I now understand why people need to go on and about how superior their lives are to others. Whatever makes you feel comfortable, you have your style of posting and I have mine, and quite frankly just because they don't mesh doesn't mean I am leaving.

Where has been your legal advice for this poster? Because quite frankly DAD CAN GET MORE CHILD SUPPORT FROM HER. That is the legal answer to her question. She is the one who has decided there are reasons WHY she should NOT pay more. However DAD can get a higher award. That is what she is being told and what she doesn't like to hear. She is the one who came up with excuses as to why she shouldn't pay more. She was being told that those excuses do not matter necessarily. Just like any other parent (read father if you want) who would ask if they should have to support their first child when they have had other children.

 

[stealth2]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? South Carolina

My ex-husband has custody and I pay childsupport. I am always on time and I am paid up. I only pay him $50.00 a month because he has a great job and at the time of calculation I only worked part time. I now have a son who depends on me to be at home full time to take care of him. My son from my new husband ,who I am divorcing. My son's doctor provided a letter for me to take to the court house and present it to Child Support Enforcement. They were doing a review to see if I would need to pay more. The lady who was incharge told my ex that she could not raise my child support because of the doctors statement I gave her. He did not like the answer and asked for it to go in front of a Judge. She did go on to say that the guidelines call for me to pay $100.00 a month now but my response to that is I don't have it. I am not even getting support for my two boys that I have at home, yet.

I have two kids from my ex and two kids from a marriage that I am ending.

Do you think a Judge would make me pay more to him based on what CSE says or do you think he would keep it the same since I can not work?

What you don't seem to understand, hearts41, is that OP is voluntarily unemployed. While her reason for it is quite understandable, it does not negate her obligation to her other children - the ones she pays support for. A judge is entirely likely to increase her CS to what the guidelines currently call for.

 

[hearts41]

The legal advice given was correct, no sense in saying over again what was posted to her. She could be ordered to pay more CS, or imputed income. My opinion (objection) was the nastiness that followed. I see nothing wrong with putting the law out there and the op can take that and do with what they will. However, to go forth and malign someones life is just not necessary. Her choices and life is her own, just as mine and yours our, its not open for debate or scrutiny. I dont think we will agree on this so how bout agree to disagree?

 

[hearts41]

i understand

What you don't seem to understand, hearts41, is that OP is voluntarily unemployed. While her reason for it is quite understandable, it does not negate her obligation to her other children - the ones she pays support for. A judge is entirely likely to increase her CS to what the guidelines currently call for.
__________________
I totally understand that. I got that the first go round. The first child deserves to be supported, it was her choice to have subsuquent children but child number 1 still needs and deserves to be supported. As I read it she is paying the court ordered support and will probably be paying more in the future because like you stated and others too the judge may very well impute income. If a person is voluntarily unempolyed or underemployed the judge can opt to impute income. In fact in my current order I automatically imputed income to myself (my x and I stipulated) I felt it only fair. My only point on this was.... its perfectly fine to put the facts of a case out there, but why be nasty? But opinions are just that..... everyone has them.....

 

[>Charlotte<]

My only point on this was.... its perfectly fine to put the facts of a case out there, but why be nasty? But opinions are just that..... everyone has them.....

The fact is, you're not going to stop anybody from saying what they want, how they want, when they want, and to whom they want. Ironically, by sniping back and forth about how the "nastiness" isn't necessary, you're only contributing to the hostility you say shouldn't exist.

This site doesn't need a hall monitor. That's what the moderator is for. They use their rules, not yours, and if the posts to which you take exception are contrary to those rules they'll disappear.

 

[AHA]

Everyone here is on the children's sidfe, and the most reasonable thought process is that if you can't afford x number of kids you should not create x number of kids. Love will not feed them, dress tem and keep a warm roof over their heads until they are old enough to move out.

My life is awesome, thank you very much. Because of that I can see the reality in the bad situation others have either been forced into or chosen to be in. For many people the truth is what they need to be told, because they can't see the different sides of their situation (that's pretty much why you come here). Getting defensive straight off the bat, without opening the mind to the words being said will not help you one bit, but that will be your choice entirely.
No one gets paid to talk here, so what would we possible gain by telling you lies


Being on the child's side, nothing wrong with that. "Truth is what people need to be told, that is why they come here" what an arrogant statement. Your "truth" and that of the "seniors" on this board does not interest me. Many belittle most of the people that come on this board asking questions. They are not looking for your "truth" about their lives. The fact that you post that and actually believe it is not only pompous but funny.
People don't post on here so you can attempt to belittle their lives, they ask for legal advice, thats it. Nothing more.

Since I wasn't talking to you, I believe that makes you a massive pompous a$$.
Why exactly do YOU think people come to this legal board? To get emotional support?? You are a joke and living in fluffy dreamland. GET WITH THE PROGRAM!

Since you still haven't figured out how to use the quote function, you are clearly something else too, but I'll keep that to myself since you are afraid of the truth.

 

[hearts41]

from fluffy dreamland

Since I wasn't talking to you, I believe that makes you a massive pompous a$$.
Why exactly do YOU think people come to this legal board? To get emotional support?? You are a joke and living in fluffy dreamland. GET WITH THE PROGRAM!

Since you still haven't figured out how to use the quote function, you are clearly something else too, but I'll keep that to myself since you are afraid of the truth.

I dont give a rats hiney who you were talking to. People come to this board for legal advice, which I said in my post, NOT for people to take pot shots about their lives. I have a life, my "dreamland, program, and fluffyland" is none your business.
BTW, thanks.. I always wanted to be "something else" ANd, at least you kept SOMETHING to your self. I may be afraid of somethings but your version of the truth does not frighten me and I am sure that is likewise.

 

[TinkerBelleLuvr]

The reality for this poster is that she may not be able to afford childcare to be able to work outside the home because of the disabled child. What's the point of working if childcare is more than your take home pay.

What she does need to do is to see if there is assistance available thru the county to help pay for childcare so that she can get better educated in order to get a better paying job.

We can all say, "Why have more children if you can't afford the ones you have?" True. But hind sight is a wonderful thing, but reality is that the children are here - NOW.

My neighbor who didn't want to work outside the home did find a job to work as a legal secretary IN.HER.HOUSE. It gives her the flexibility she needs to run her children here, there and everywhere.

Where there is a will, there is a way.

 

[hearts41]

)

Good post Ginny.
I was thinking that perhaps she could get some type of home health to give her some assistance as well. If she is imputed income and ordered to pay at or close to guidelines maybe she could find some work at home to do. You are right, we do what we need to do.