Peek-A-Boo Daddy Issue

[nythng4mygrl]

ANyway, without the "failure to exercise visitation" era, dad still is in contempt for several issues. We have joint/physical custody currently. Several of my questions have gone unanswered, and TOO much focus on the new BILL that I brought up.

Thanks anyway....

 

[Ohiogal]

It was a bill that went into effect 8/15/08. what is the difference?

I posted the actual law. It was to go into effect IF it became a law. I cannot find where it became a law.

 

[Ohiogal]

ANyway, without the "failure to exercise visitation" era, dad still is in contempt for several issues. We have joint/physical custody currently. Several of my questions have gone unanswered, and TOO much focus on the new BILL that I brought up.

Thanks anyway....

I answered your questions.

 

[wileybunch]

1. How old is your child? (asked by another poster, but not answered yet)

2. How do you know it's his wife emailing and not him? Is she signing the email "Regards, Stepmom" or something of that nature? You can't assume it's here just because they share an email account that has her name on it and use that excuse to pretend like you're not being contacted.

3. If you're absolutely sure this is not Dad's weekend, a simple direct response to that effect and letting him know when his next weekend is is appropriate. And, there is nothing wrong with email so don't play that game. In fact, email is entirely appropriate for this sort of thing and the judge has already ordered that email can be used so that answers that.

4. You cannot require Dad to do anything that isn't in the court order already, as has been mentioned, such as stepping up visitation from some lower level to the level he's already allowed per court order. You would have to modify the CO. How successful you will be depends on if it's truly in the best interests of the child. I haven't seen my grandson in almost a year and I wouldn't expect him to freak out next time we see each other so would be curious if your child would want to freak out if she hasn't seen Dad in a similar (or even longer) period of time.

 

[2Mistakes]

I haven't seen my grandson in almost a year and I wouldn't expect him to freak out next time we see each other so would be curious if your child would want to freak out if she hasn't seen Dad in a similar (or even longer) period of time.

Good point. My dad was in the military when I was growing up. I often went more than 4 months without seeing him, and one time is was a year and a half. I certainly didn't freak out when I saw him again. It was like Christmas morning. I couldn't have been more excited.

My kids often go more than 4 months without seeing their mom, and they don't freak out when they do see her. Granted, the 15 year old would rather not see her anymore, but for the next 3 years, that's not her choice.

 

[Newlydivmomto4]

I'm confused, Dad has been out of the picture for months, so you have had the child on his weekends many times and you don't want to let the child go see Dad on your weekend? That just seems purely selfish to me.

 

[nythng4mygrl]

TO ALL:

WIFE emailed me as HERSELF, that is how I know the email did not come from dad. Dad will not answer his phone for me to speak to him. I am not withholding our daughter, as we have plans to go out of town to see MY dad. Not my fault he just showed up un-announced wanting to see her again.

I will say this ONE LAST TIME....I FULLY INTEND ON COMPLYING WITH THE ORDER.

As for gradually increasing visitation, I am only trying to keep our daughter stable. I can't work around dad's schedule to make my own as it is not fair. what is fair is sufficient notice from dad and NOT his wife.

I am not responding until I hear from my attorney since the email was from wifey, and included a few issues that I need not discuss on this forum because I already know those answers.


Also, I just wrote the senator, and OG, IT IS a law. Please see below:

TO SENATOR: Good afternoon! I was doing some research and would like to know if this bill passed and became a law.

It regards failing to exercise visitation.

I would really appreciate any info you can give to me.

FROM LEGAL ASST: Yes, this bill passed and became Act 671. If I can be of any further assistance, please do not hesitate to call me.

Sincerely,
Judy Pontin
Legislative Assistant


Have a GREAT day.

 

[Ohiogal]

TO ALL:

WIFE emailed me as HERSELF, that is how I know the email did not come from dad. Dad will not answer his phone for me to speak to him. I am not withholding our daughter, as we have plans to go out of town to see MY dad. Not my fault he just showed up un-announced wanting to see her again.

I will say this ONE LAST TIME....I FULLY INTEND ON COMPLYING WITH THE ORDER.

As for gradually increasing visitation, I am only trying to keep our daughter stable. I can't work around dad's schedule to make my own as it is not fair. what is fair is sufficient notice from dad and NOT his wife.

I am not responding until I hear from my attorney since the email was from wifey, and included a few issues that I need not discuss on this forum because I already know those answers.


Also, I just wrote the senator, and OG, IT IS a law. Please see below:

TO SENATOR: Good afternoon! I was doing some research and would like to know if this bill passed and became a law.

It regards failing to exercise visitation.

I would really appreciate any info you can give to me.

FROM LEGAL ASST: Yes, this bill passed and became Act 671. If I can be of any further assistance, please do not hesitate to call me.

Sincerely,
Judy Pontin
Legislative Assistant


Have a GREAT day.

Goody goody gumdrops. DO have the senator answer your questions in the future then. Or your attorney. Either one.

 

[Gum_Drop]

Which senator did you send that to?

 

[nythng4mygrl]

Julie Quinn, and maybe I will look to them for further answers. They were much nicer and more helpful. It is sad that you are all so worked up to prove that you are always right, and never imperfect, then you get cokky when someone out of the legal system digs deeper, and ended up right the whole time.

 

[stealth2]

Still waiting for you to answer how old your child is.

 

[Ohiogal]

Julie Quinn, and maybe I will look to them for further answers. They were much nicer and more helpful. It is sad that you are all so worked up to prove that you are always right, and never imperfect, then you get cokky when someone out of the legal system digs deeper, and ended up right the whole time.

Again, good for you. You were right. Bravo. What do you expect that law to do quite frankly? Now we are going to have children put into situations where they can get abused because custodial parents like you want to FORCE parents to take visitation. Okay so a parent is FORCED to do that to avoid contempt and the morons who run your state haven't looked at the consequences to the children. Bravo. Please send them my regards as to how stupid they are. How many more cases of child abuse are going to be dealt with? Neglect? Nice job. Louisiana legislators are morons. As are the idiotic people who pushed for this. NOT TO MENTION the parents who want to force it on the other parents to mandate they take their time or face contempt.

And may the legislature issue an apology to the first child killed by a NCP taking their time because they don't want to risk contempt. May those idiots lose their jobs.

 

[Ohiogal]

Julie Quinn, and maybe I will look to them for further answers. They were much nicer and more helpful. It is sad that you are all so worked up to prove that you are always right, and never imperfect, then you get cokky when someone out of the legal system digs deeper, and ended up right the whole time.

Tell Julie QUinn next time you talk to her that the legislature better hope that no child dies or is abused because of this stupidity. Because that is what is going to happen. Mark my words.

 

[nythng4mygrl]

I never said I would take him to court for contempt on that issue. I said he is in contempt for that issue. Why would I want to force her to go to him for 6 to 8 weeks out of the summer, every other holiday give him a week, and extend weekend visits longer than normal? I'm not that stupid! I was just stating all of the stipulations that he is in contempt for. Some of you were the ones pushing the issue about the bill that was recently passed, and I only dug deeper because of the comments you all made about it.

 

[stealth2]

how old is the child?!?!