Itemixed child support

[wdwfan20000]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? FL

My ex-husband is asking for an itemization of what child support is spent on. How do I itemize food, shelter, utilies? Is there a % of the mortgage and bills I can use?

Thanks

 

[Ohiogal]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? FL

My ex-husband is asking for an itemization of what child support is spent on. How do I itemize food, shelter, utilies? Is there a % of the mortgage and bills I can use?

Thanks

You tell him to pound sand and that he has NO RIGHT to an itemization. End of story.

 

[pittrocks]

NONE of his business.

 

[StampGirl]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? FL

My ex-husband is asking for an itemization of what child support is spent on. How do I itemize food, shelter, utilies? Is there a % of the mortgage and bills I can use?

Thanks

He can look all he wants. It isn't going to happen!!!

Like OG said, tell him to pound sand. You don't have to do everything he says ya know.

 

[Drake01]

If you're under a court order to account for it, which can and does happen when a court has questions about how the money is being spent, don't tell anyone to "pound sand." If you're not, it's not unreasonable for someone to want to know where their money is going. Becoming combative just because the system enables you to do so is going to breed nothing but contempt down the line. In short, if you tell someone to go pound sand on a reasonable requestion don't be surprised down the road when you need some extra help to spend the little one to basketball camp, buy a new computer, or what have you and your ex tells you to go pound sand because he can.

The most accurate way is just to factor the value of the child's room. As an adult you would still need all the other space in the home, so the only actual expense of the child are his/her quaters. A reasonable share of utilites depends on the age of the child, probably about a 25% share and the same (or less for very young children) for food.

 

[TinkerBelleLuvr]

She is NOT legally required to account for the child support. It is a REIMBURSEMENT for expenses that SHE paid for already.

A real simple answer for the question is: NO. Two letters, to further explanation needed.

 

[momofrose]

If you're under a court order to account for it, which can and does happen when a court has questions about how the money is being spent, don't tell anyone to "pound sand." If you're not, it's not unreasonable for someone to want to know where their money is going. Becoming combative just because the system enables you to do so is going to breed nothing but contempt down the line. In short, if you tell someone to go pound sand on a reasonable requestion don't be surprised down the road when you need some extra help to spend the little one to basketball camp, buy a new computer, or what have you and your ex tells you to go pound sand because he can.

The most accurate way is just to factor the value of the child's room. As an adult you would still need all the other space in the home, so the only actual expense of the child are his/her quaters. A reasonable share of utilites depends on the age of the child, probably about a 25% share and the same (or less for very young children) for food.

Umm...who exactly are you? You obviously do not know a legal thing about this- so i would suggest you not answer questions...You could actually not be more wrong! She need not provide a thing.

 

[Gracie3787]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? FL

My ex-husband is asking for an itemization of what child support is spent on. How do I itemize food, shelter, utilies? Is there a % of the mortgage and bills I can use?

Thanks

In some situations, FL law does allow a court to order a CP to give an accounting of how the CS is spent.

However, that is ONLY for situations where it is proven that the CP is not providing shelter, food, medial, etc.

So, as long as you are providing your child with the basics, you can tell him no way.

 

[Gracie3787]

If you're under a court order to account for it, which can and does happen when a court has questions about how the money is being spent, don't tell anyone to "pound sand." If you're not, it's not unreasonable for someone to want to know where their money is going. Becoming combative just because the system enables you to do so is going to breed nothing but contempt down the line. In short, if you tell someone to go pound sand on a reasonable requestion don't be surprised down the road when you need some extra help to spend the little one to basketball camp, buy a new computer, or what have you and your ex tells you to go pound sand because he can.

The most accurate way is just to factor the value of the child's room. As an adult you would still need all the other space in the home, so the only actual expense of the child are his/her quaters. A reasonable share of utilites depends on the age of the child, probably about a 25% share and the same (or less for very young children) for food.

A NCP demanding to know how the CS is spent is NOT a "reasonable" REQUEST. (not a "requestion").

 

[penelope10]

A NCP demanding to know how the CS is spent is NOT a "reasonable" REQUEST. (not a "requestion").

I've told this story before---my ex used to come into my home and adjust the thermostat. His justification was because part of the child support used was to pay the utilities. He now does not come into my home when he comes to pick up our daughter.

One does NOT have to give a dollar by dollar breakdown of how support is spent. Child support was determined at the time the couple went to court. Unless the court so orders a parent to come up with a breakdown, the other parent should go pound sand. And quite honestly, unless the child's needs are not being met, and there is proof that the child's needs are not being met, a court will not involve itself in this kind of nonsense.

Now it would be nice if an NCP chose to help pay for activities or a computer for a child, but unless it's in the order they aren't obligated to do so. A CP does not have to provide unnecessary info to the other parent in the hopes of getting something in return. The CP can buy the computer themselves, pay for the activities themselves, or have the kiddo earn the money to get said items.

There is a big difference in being nice and allowing someone to become intrusive in one's life.

 

[truebluemd]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? FL

My ex-husband is asking for an itemization of what child support is spent on. How do I itemize food, shelter, utilies? Is there a % of the mortgage and bills I can use?

Thanks

Is he asking in a motion to the court, or just asking you? If he's just asking you, I agree with others to tell him to pound sand. If he's asking through the court, file an objection (and explain why) and then call your ex and tell him to pound sand.

 

[TheGeekess]

Here are some answers for those nosy ex's:

• I buy feed for the animals.
  
• Thanks for making the phone and water payment!
  
• It's being used to fill my prescriptions.
  
• You're paying for the NetFlix subscription.
  
• The pool-boy's salary comes out of that.

As long as the child(ren) have food, shelter and appropriate clothing that's all that matters.

 

[penelope10]

Here's some answers for those nosy ex's:

• I buy feed for the animals.
  
• Thanks for making the phone and water payment!
  
• It's being used to fill my prescriptions.
  
• You're paying for the NetFlix subscription.
  
• The pool-boy's salary comes out of that.

As long as the child(ren) have food, shelter and appropriate clothing that's all that matters.

I love the pool-boy comment--that is truly priceless!

 

[hearts41]

I've told this story before---my ex used to come into my home and adjust the thermostat. His justification was because part of the child support used was to pay the utilities. He now does not come into my home when he comes to pick up our daughter.

One does NOT have to give a dollar by dollar breakdown of how support is spent. Child support was determined at the time the couple went to court. Unless the court so orders a parent to come up with a breakdown, the other parent should go pound sand. And quite honestly, unless the child's needs are not being met, and there is proof that the child's needs are not being met, a court will not involve itself in this kind of nonsense.

Now it would be nice if an NCP chose to help pay for activities or a computer for a child, but unless it's in the order they aren't obligated to do so. A CP does not have to provide unnecessary info to the other parent in the hopes of getting something in return. The CP can buy the computer themselves, pay for the activities themselves, or have the kiddo earn the money to get said items.

There is a big difference in being nice and allowing someone to become intrusive in one's life.

wow and I thought my x was an arrogant jerk! He acutally came in an adjusted your thermostat? priceless! My x tried the "give me a list of exactly what you spend the cs on" nonsense too. As if his $100 a month for two kids was SOOO much that I really needed to account for every cent!

 

[Just Blue]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? FL

My ex-husband is asking for an itemization of what child support is spent on. How do I itemize food, shelter, utilies? Is there a % of the mortgage and bills I can use?

Thanks

Two words come to mind...Can you guess what two they are??

hint: the second word is "off".