wolfcreekgal
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What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Wyoming
I am wondering if anyone has been through this and had a good outcome. My ex-husband was awarded primary physical custody of our four year old son four months ago. Both of us have legal custody. Neither of us had legal representation in the courtroom and neither of us had much of any idea as to what to do.
The judge awarded my ex custody based on "scant evidence", a letter from our daycare provider, indicating that (in the ten minutes or so) she saw both of us, my ex seemed to be a better parent. I never saw this letter prior to it being presented in court. I objected that it be admitted into evidence, but the judge took it anyway. My ex also stated that he had just bought a house, started his own business which was doing very well and planned to stay in Wyoming forever as it was such a wonderful place to raise a child. Lies!
Three weeks ago, I got a letter from my ex stating he was moving to Illinois with our little boy. I got the letter in the mail only a week before he actually moved. The house he told the judge he "bought" here turned out to be a rental. His business, obviously, wasn't doing well as he told the judge as he stated in his letter to me "due to economic and financial reasons", I have to relocate. And, "staying in Wyoming" forever was also a crock.
Our little boy had just began to adjust to only seeing me every other weekend. I don't think I ever adjusted to that. I had been a stay-at-home mom since his birth and have always been very attached to my son.
Now, all I have are phone conversations with him where he gets very upset when I tell him I can no longer pick him because his father took him a long way away. At four, he has absolutely NO concept of distance and it breaks my heart into a zillion little pieces hearing him beg me to pick him up and how much he misses me.
I now know that the address (in Illinois) my ex gave me prior to his move is NOT where he is living with my son. It is his Father's address. So, I have no idea where my son actually is. I only have a cell# for my ex which is still a WY#.
I also began to record telephone conversations when I found out he was moving (completely legal in WY). I have one where my little boy is telling me his Father lets him smoke cigarettes with him! Of course, I nearly dropped dead on the spot when I heard that!
His Father refuses to tell me where he is employed and is required to do so by the courts. I have no earthly idea where my little boy is or how he is being cared for. His Father has already missed my Mother's Day visitation with my son and plans on missing Memorial Day too. I am supposed to have him eight weeks this summer, but his Dad tells me only "if he can afford it".
The past two weeks my son has sounded extremely sick on the phone (coughing, wheezing, etc.) and tells me his Dad can't afford to take him to the doctor and can I take him? Bloody hell! How CAN I take him when he's 1100 miles away???? I am sick with worry.
I have taken measures of action on my part, but am totally clueless about modifying our custody order. I don't want this manipulative ******* to win again! He has always lied to get his way and it's the only way he knows to conduct himself. The sad thing is, it's always worked for him.
My new husband keeps telling me to wait until we have all our ducks in a row, but just how many ducks are there? I worry about this constantly and need to know what some of you would do if you were in my position.
Thanks for any and all help!
I am wondering if anyone has been through this and had a good outcome. My ex-husband was awarded primary physical custody of our four year old son four months ago. Both of us have legal custody. Neither of us had legal representation in the courtroom and neither of us had much of any idea as to what to do.
The judge awarded my ex custody based on "scant evidence", a letter from our daycare provider, indicating that (in the ten minutes or so) she saw both of us, my ex seemed to be a better parent. I never saw this letter prior to it being presented in court. I objected that it be admitted into evidence, but the judge took it anyway. My ex also stated that he had just bought a house, started his own business which was doing very well and planned to stay in Wyoming forever as it was such a wonderful place to raise a child. Lies!
Three weeks ago, I got a letter from my ex stating he was moving to Illinois with our little boy. I got the letter in the mail only a week before he actually moved. The house he told the judge he "bought" here turned out to be a rental. His business, obviously, wasn't doing well as he told the judge as he stated in his letter to me "due to economic and financial reasons", I have to relocate. And, "staying in Wyoming" forever was also a crock.
Our little boy had just began to adjust to only seeing me every other weekend. I don't think I ever adjusted to that. I had been a stay-at-home mom since his birth and have always been very attached to my son.
Now, all I have are phone conversations with him where he gets very upset when I tell him I can no longer pick him because his father took him a long way away. At four, he has absolutely NO concept of distance and it breaks my heart into a zillion little pieces hearing him beg me to pick him up and how much he misses me.
I now know that the address (in Illinois) my ex gave me prior to his move is NOT where he is living with my son. It is his Father's address. So, I have no idea where my son actually is. I only have a cell# for my ex which is still a WY#.
I also began to record telephone conversations when I found out he was moving (completely legal in WY). I have one where my little boy is telling me his Father lets him smoke cigarettes with him! Of course, I nearly dropped dead on the spot when I heard that!
His Father refuses to tell me where he is employed and is required to do so by the courts. I have no earthly idea where my little boy is or how he is being cared for. His Father has already missed my Mother's Day visitation with my son and plans on missing Memorial Day too. I am supposed to have him eight weeks this summer, but his Dad tells me only "if he can afford it".
The past two weeks my son has sounded extremely sick on the phone (coughing, wheezing, etc.) and tells me his Dad can't afford to take him to the doctor and can I take him? Bloody hell! How CAN I take him when he's 1100 miles away???? I am sick with worry.
I have taken measures of action on my part, but am totally clueless about modifying our custody order. I don't want this manipulative ******* to win again! He has always lied to get his way and it's the only way he knows to conduct himself. The sad thing is, it's always worked for him.
My new husband keeps telling me to wait until we have all our ducks in a row, but just how many ducks are there? I worry about this constantly and need to know what some of you would do if you were in my position.
Thanks for any and all help!
