wolfcreekgal
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What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Wyoming
Some of you here have responded to past threads of mine and I thank you all! My situation continues to weigh heavily on my heart and the hearts of my family. This time I have included my entire story. I didn't do that before as I didn't want to bore anyone, but I feel it's critical in order for everyone to understand.
My ex won custody of our four year son four months ago after leaving me penniless for another woman roughly nine months earlier. I did all the divorce proceedings myself confident ex would lose based on proof he had commited adultery and left my son and I having to rely on relatives for help.
*Footnote: Ex's dog bit son in the face (requiring an emergency room visit) the night he moved in with this other woman. Ex did NOT go to the hospital with me NOR did he even call for a period of two weeks to inquire about his son's injury. BTW, this dog had bitten son on 3 other occasions. Ex still has this dog. Ex came to pick up his belongings after two weeks and kissed his son good-bye.
I thought I had a great case, proof and everything during the divorce, but I'm no attorney. The judge acted like the ex had done nothing wrong even stating: "Everyone commits adultery these days, I'm not going to let this weigh on this case". My ex looked at me and grinned. I tried from that point to show the judge that he was negligent ( I showed the judge the photo of son's face after the bite) in not being with us at the hospital nor even contacting me about son's welfare for two weeks, but the judge just turned to Ex and said: "better keep a closer eye on the dog from now on". My jaw hit the floor so hard I had a bruise the next day.
The judge then granted the divorce, but nothing else I had asked for nor what ex had asked for so, I didn't feel so defeated. Then he ordered us into mediation before he would make a decision on custody of our little boy. In mediation we (ex and I) came to the conclusion (at the constant prompting of the attorney involved) that we would share custody of son. Ex would have him a month and I would have him a month. I wanted sole custody, but this attorney claimed judges here in WY leaned towards joint custody. Ex was CLEARLY not happy about this as the attorney told him he'd have to pay me a substantial amount of child support since he made WAY more than I did.
Before we went back to court, ex quit a very good paying job w/benefits to start his own business, telling me (in my driveway one night) he was doing this to "get out of so much child support". "Can't get no money if I ain't makin' no money" he added.
I might add that ex was very physically and emotionally abusive to me during our marriage, but I had no proof of this as I was way too afraid of him to get the police involved. He'd have killed me. He's also the poster child for "Narcissistic Personality Disorder" and will manipulate, fight, whatever it takes, to get his way and he's extremely adept at placing fault on everyone but himself. He has even gone as far as to say he's a mortal example of Jesus Christ Himself. Ok.
Like I said earlier, he won custody of our little boy and here's what happened in court that day. I believed everything was going to go as ordered in mediation, but ex had a different game plan entirely. He decided to ask for full custody and the sly SOB had a letter from our daycare provider stating he "seemed to be a better parent". There's absolutely NO doubt in my mind he paid her for that, but I had no proof. I had never even seen this letter before and was given only a few seconds to read it. I objected to it, but this judge from hell took it anyway. I had no idea what to do from that point forward and it showed.
The judge said he'd make a decision within a month and we'd both get his decision in the mail. I waited anxiously and finally the letter came (the same day I married my new husband, needless to say the honeymoon was short-lived). BTW, ex married the harlot he'd been carrying on with the very same day! He had won and I felt like I had been hit by a speeding freight train and that train kept backing up and running me over again and again.
It has been four months since that letter came and, during that time ex constantly called me to keep our son because he had to work. Even though the court order stated I was only to have son every other weekend, holidays, spring and summer vacations, etc., ex brought him to me (at least) 3 days a week. I never complained and loved the extra time with my child. Son and I began to adjust to this whole new way of life.
Fast forward to now:
Ex has now moved with son to Illinois with only a week's advance warning. An 1100 mile move away from mom. This was one month ago and, believe it or not, it's just fine in Wyoming! I talked to an attorney the day I found out about this and she said: "Hmmm**************..there's nothing you can do, unfortunately". Geez, ONLY in Wyoming!
Ex is now denying visitation telling me I have to come to Illinois if I want to see my son. (court order states he is responsible for all transportation costs since he is the party who moved). He's letting our son (whom you recall is only four) smoke cigarettes with him and I have recordings of all of this. This may or may not be legal, but how else do I get the PROOF this judge from hell is going to want? And, believe you me, I now KNOW how important PROOF is!
Ex is also manipulating son so much that our phone conversations have gone from lengthy and him screaming over and over "come pick me up now, mommy" to short and "well, gotta go, bye" and hanging up. All in the course of a month's time. Son now acts like he's got to watch everything he says to me and I can hear ex in the background telling him WHAT to say. The relationship I have with my child is so bizarre now, honestly, I don't even WANT to call. That's terrible, I know, but it's like reopening a deep wound every time he acts like I'm a stranger.
Ex is also, unquestionably, intoxicated when I have had the chance to talk to him. I've got him recorded slurring and repeating things three or four times before he can make it come out right. He also falsified the address he gave to me and the court so, I have no idea where my son actually is.
I am shaking my head in confusion and the situation has gotten to the point where it's affecting my new marriage. I feel like I have stepped, literally, through the gates of hell.
I know I need an attorney, but can't find one in the little town I live in. They are all too busy and the nearest larger town is over 100 miles away. My husband and I haven't the financial reserves to pay a lawyer that far away. What in God's name can I DO?
Some of you here have responded to past threads of mine and I thank you all! My situation continues to weigh heavily on my heart and the hearts of my family. This time I have included my entire story. I didn't do that before as I didn't want to bore anyone, but I feel it's critical in order for everyone to understand.
My ex won custody of our four year son four months ago after leaving me penniless for another woman roughly nine months earlier. I did all the divorce proceedings myself confident ex would lose based on proof he had commited adultery and left my son and I having to rely on relatives for help.
*Footnote: Ex's dog bit son in the face (requiring an emergency room visit) the night he moved in with this other woman. Ex did NOT go to the hospital with me NOR did he even call for a period of two weeks to inquire about his son's injury. BTW, this dog had bitten son on 3 other occasions. Ex still has this dog. Ex came to pick up his belongings after two weeks and kissed his son good-bye.
I thought I had a great case, proof and everything during the divorce, but I'm no attorney. The judge acted like the ex had done nothing wrong even stating: "Everyone commits adultery these days, I'm not going to let this weigh on this case". My ex looked at me and grinned. I tried from that point to show the judge that he was negligent ( I showed the judge the photo of son's face after the bite) in not being with us at the hospital nor even contacting me about son's welfare for two weeks, but the judge just turned to Ex and said: "better keep a closer eye on the dog from now on". My jaw hit the floor so hard I had a bruise the next day.
The judge then granted the divorce, but nothing else I had asked for nor what ex had asked for so, I didn't feel so defeated. Then he ordered us into mediation before he would make a decision on custody of our little boy. In mediation we (ex and I) came to the conclusion (at the constant prompting of the attorney involved) that we would share custody of son. Ex would have him a month and I would have him a month. I wanted sole custody, but this attorney claimed judges here in WY leaned towards joint custody. Ex was CLEARLY not happy about this as the attorney told him he'd have to pay me a substantial amount of child support since he made WAY more than I did.
Before we went back to court, ex quit a very good paying job w/benefits to start his own business, telling me (in my driveway one night) he was doing this to "get out of so much child support". "Can't get no money if I ain't makin' no money" he added.
I might add that ex was very physically and emotionally abusive to me during our marriage, but I had no proof of this as I was way too afraid of him to get the police involved. He'd have killed me. He's also the poster child for "Narcissistic Personality Disorder" and will manipulate, fight, whatever it takes, to get his way and he's extremely adept at placing fault on everyone but himself. He has even gone as far as to say he's a mortal example of Jesus Christ Himself. Ok.
Like I said earlier, he won custody of our little boy and here's what happened in court that day. I believed everything was going to go as ordered in mediation, but ex had a different game plan entirely. He decided to ask for full custody and the sly SOB had a letter from our daycare provider stating he "seemed to be a better parent". There's absolutely NO doubt in my mind he paid her for that, but I had no proof. I had never even seen this letter before and was given only a few seconds to read it. I objected to it, but this judge from hell took it anyway. I had no idea what to do from that point forward and it showed.
The judge said he'd make a decision within a month and we'd both get his decision in the mail. I waited anxiously and finally the letter came (the same day I married my new husband, needless to say the honeymoon was short-lived). BTW, ex married the harlot he'd been carrying on with the very same day! He had won and I felt like I had been hit by a speeding freight train and that train kept backing up and running me over again and again.
It has been four months since that letter came and, during that time ex constantly called me to keep our son because he had to work. Even though the court order stated I was only to have son every other weekend, holidays, spring and summer vacations, etc., ex brought him to me (at least) 3 days a week. I never complained and loved the extra time with my child. Son and I began to adjust to this whole new way of life.
Fast forward to now:
Ex has now moved with son to Illinois with only a week's advance warning. An 1100 mile move away from mom. This was one month ago and, believe it or not, it's just fine in Wyoming! I talked to an attorney the day I found out about this and she said: "Hmmm**************..there's nothing you can do, unfortunately". Geez, ONLY in Wyoming!
Ex is now denying visitation telling me I have to come to Illinois if I want to see my son. (court order states he is responsible for all transportation costs since he is the party who moved). He's letting our son (whom you recall is only four) smoke cigarettes with him and I have recordings of all of this. This may or may not be legal, but how else do I get the PROOF this judge from hell is going to want? And, believe you me, I now KNOW how important PROOF is!
Ex is also manipulating son so much that our phone conversations have gone from lengthy and him screaming over and over "come pick me up now, mommy" to short and "well, gotta go, bye" and hanging up. All in the course of a month's time. Son now acts like he's got to watch everything he says to me and I can hear ex in the background telling him WHAT to say. The relationship I have with my child is so bizarre now, honestly, I don't even WANT to call. That's terrible, I know, but it's like reopening a deep wound every time he acts like I'm a stranger.
Ex is also, unquestionably, intoxicated when I have had the chance to talk to him. I've got him recorded slurring and repeating things three or four times before he can make it come out right. He also falsified the address he gave to me and the court so, I have no idea where my son actually is.
I am shaking my head in confusion and the situation has gotten to the point where it's affecting my new marriage. I feel like I have stepped, literally, through the gates of hell.
I know I need an attorney, but can't find one in the little town I live in. They are all too busy and the nearest larger town is over 100 miles away. My husband and I haven't the financial reserves to pay a lawyer that far away. What in God's name can I DO?
