What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? IN and FL
I will try to make this short and sweet and if you need additional info I will gladly provide it. Several years ago I had a child with an ex-boyfriend (never married). He denied the child was his all throughout my pregnancy and after she was born. He did not sign the birth certificate. We broke up shortly after she was born. Lots of domestic violence issues etc. After I left him he all of sudden told me it was his child and he has a right to see her. I agreed with this because no matter how bad our relationship, it is what it is. Although shortly after this new revelation he continued to threaten and harrass me and call CPS on me, never was a case opened. I told him he would not see her until he decided to do things the right way, through the court system. The police told him in order to his child he needs to establish paternity etc and they told me I was doing nothing wrong because right now ex was a legal stranger. Finally when she was 16 months old he filed to establish paternity. We both agreed during mediation that daughter was his and signed the parternity affidavit. After several visitiations which became extremely heated because he couldnt help but attack me in front of her I let my mother bring her to the drop off point. He was not happy about this and wrote me an email telling me he would not return her, proving once again this was all about harrassing me. I picked her up that evening and received another email from him telling me that he was in absolute "duress" and should have never signed the paternity paper and he still doesn't know if my daughter was his. We had a court hearing that following Monday to up the visitation hours and clear up why he failed to pay any child support. That Monday I asked the judge for a paternity test and he was furious. I showed her the email and many other emails I had stating he was not the father and that I wanted it done for the record so he could stop denying our child. I also asked for a drug test because of his history of substance abuse and his recent behavior had me concerend. She agreed to both and ordered the drug test to be done on both of us after court. (Because he came back accusing me of doing drugs)The baliff was to take both of us to the test center across the street. he said he had to go get money from the ATM and would return. We waited and waited. SO I went ahead and did my test and he never showed. I received an email from him 3 days later asking for the address to the DNA test center. I responded to him with the address to which I got a nearly 3 page hateful email in return. I went with my daughter to the testing place. We were to be back in court in 3 weeks. Needless to say he never showed for either test and the case was dismissed and I didn't hear from him for awhile. (He has never really had a stable living arrangement. Hotels, motels, friends couches, no job) Impossible to find him.
About 2 years later he started sending me threatening emails to which I replied to have his lawyer contact me so we could straighten things out once and for all. I could not reason with him because he would not focus on our child, only me and harrassing me. I told him unless he had a lawyer contact me I was not going to speak with him because it was never about her. Nothing.
3 years after this court case I moved to Indiana (sorry this all took place in Florida). My parents lived here and they offered for me to live with them so I could save money and they could help with my daughter. I went back to school, got my nursing degree and bought a home. My daughter is now 8. Over the years I have received hate email from him threatening to take me to court, he knows where my father lives, where I live (he claims in email) etc. Recently he has told me that he is reopening the case and I will have to pay for all travel expenses or move back to Florida because I kidnapped and concealed his daughter for so long. He also said since he is unemployed I will get no child support and I will have to pay him because I have a good job. He found out where I work from googling my name and seeing me participate in Hospital Events and charity work etc. I spoke with a friend who is a police officer and he believes that is he wants to open another paternity case that he will have to come to Indiana because we have established residency and have lived her for almost 5 years. I worry about my daughter being 8 how are the courts going to handle this? Will I have to put her on a plane? Will I have to go to Florida to handle this case or is my friend right about IN having jurisdiction now? Isn't this considered abandonment? I mean, he blew the first case and waited this long? Thank you in advance for your help.
I will try to make this short and sweet and if you need additional info I will gladly provide it. Several years ago I had a child with an ex-boyfriend (never married). He denied the child was his all throughout my pregnancy and after she was born. He did not sign the birth certificate. We broke up shortly after she was born. Lots of domestic violence issues etc. After I left him he all of sudden told me it was his child and he has a right to see her. I agreed with this because no matter how bad our relationship, it is what it is. Although shortly after this new revelation he continued to threaten and harrass me and call CPS on me, never was a case opened. I told him he would not see her until he decided to do things the right way, through the court system. The police told him in order to his child he needs to establish paternity etc and they told me I was doing nothing wrong because right now ex was a legal stranger. Finally when she was 16 months old he filed to establish paternity. We both agreed during mediation that daughter was his and signed the parternity affidavit. After several visitiations which became extremely heated because he couldnt help but attack me in front of her I let my mother bring her to the drop off point. He was not happy about this and wrote me an email telling me he would not return her, proving once again this was all about harrassing me. I picked her up that evening and received another email from him telling me that he was in absolute "duress" and should have never signed the paternity paper and he still doesn't know if my daughter was his. We had a court hearing that following Monday to up the visitation hours and clear up why he failed to pay any child support. That Monday I asked the judge for a paternity test and he was furious. I showed her the email and many other emails I had stating he was not the father and that I wanted it done for the record so he could stop denying our child. I also asked for a drug test because of his history of substance abuse and his recent behavior had me concerend. She agreed to both and ordered the drug test to be done on both of us after court. (Because he came back accusing me of doing drugs)The baliff was to take both of us to the test center across the street. he said he had to go get money from the ATM and would return. We waited and waited. SO I went ahead and did my test and he never showed. I received an email from him 3 days later asking for the address to the DNA test center. I responded to him with the address to which I got a nearly 3 page hateful email in return. I went with my daughter to the testing place. We were to be back in court in 3 weeks. Needless to say he never showed for either test and the case was dismissed and I didn't hear from him for awhile. (He has never really had a stable living arrangement. Hotels, motels, friends couches, no job) Impossible to find him.
About 2 years later he started sending me threatening emails to which I replied to have his lawyer contact me so we could straighten things out once and for all. I could not reason with him because he would not focus on our child, only me and harrassing me. I told him unless he had a lawyer contact me I was not going to speak with him because it was never about her. Nothing.
3 years after this court case I moved to Indiana (sorry this all took place in Florida). My parents lived here and they offered for me to live with them so I could save money and they could help with my daughter. I went back to school, got my nursing degree and bought a home. My daughter is now 8. Over the years I have received hate email from him threatening to take me to court, he knows where my father lives, where I live (he claims in email) etc. Recently he has told me that he is reopening the case and I will have to pay for all travel expenses or move back to Florida because I kidnapped and concealed his daughter for so long. He also said since he is unemployed I will get no child support and I will have to pay him because I have a good job. He found out where I work from googling my name and seeing me participate in Hospital Events and charity work etc. I spoke with a friend who is a police officer and he believes that is he wants to open another paternity case that he will have to come to Indiana because we have established residency and have lived her for almost 5 years. I worry about my daughter being 8 how are the courts going to handle this? Will I have to put her on a plane? Will I have to go to Florida to handle this case or is my friend right about IN having jurisdiction now? Isn't this considered abandonment? I mean, he blew the first case and waited this long? Thank you in advance for your help.
