not legal?

[CourtClerk]

Bed buddy= I only use that term on here....most of you won't allow it any other way!

Like I said. There's nothing wrong with calling it what it is. That's what you guys are... that's what you are. So long as YOU know it and are ok with it... then the couple of us with an issue of the morality of it all (or lack thereof) should have nothing to say about it.

 

[CourtClerk]

I get the feeling that court clerk doesn't believe in unmarried couples living together......

My parents said married people live together. Other people just get used. Took me a while, but I figured out what they meant.

I personally don't care WHAT you do. It's usually the kids I feel sorry for.

 

[californiamom3]

I can respect your view. I don't feel the same way.
I asked a legal question, you gave me a moral opinion...... which by the way you have reprimanded me for before. You reminded me that this was a legal forum and not meant for moral issues.
From my experience courts go beyond the law when it comes to family matters.
There is legal rights and wrongs, but also simple life, common sense, street smart, moral **************you name it**************. rights and wrongs as well.
I see the family court judges (I've encountered) take all these matters into consideration when making decisions.

 

[CourtClerk]

I can respect your view. I don't feel the same way.
I asked a legal question, you gave me a moral opinion......

No, I gave you a LEGAL answer. Your BOYFRIEND has no business signing legal documents regarding your children. This is a fact, unless somewhere on the form it asks for the signature of someone other than parent/guardian, to which he is neither.

Correct me if i'm wrong. It's a different era. Do the forms now say parent/guardian/boyfriend/girlfriend or just who ever?

 

[CJane]

No, I gave you a LEGAL answer. Your BOYFRIEND has no business signing legal documents regarding your children. This is a fact, unless somewhere on the form it asks for the signature of someone other than parent/guardian, to which he is neither.

Correct me if i'm wrong. It's a different era. Do the forms now say parent/guardian/boyfriend/girlfriend or just who ever?

'Round here, and I'd imagine that outside your court room, round there too... the forms haven't changed. But Guardian is taken to mean 'the adult charged with the care of the child at the time this form is signed'.

One or two judges and a WHOLE LOT of us parents might have issues with that, but the school/doctor's office/whatever? Not so much. And quite honestly, I've seen/heard about FAR MORE people get slammed down for making a huge issue of it than I've seen/heard about the actual 3rd party getting slammed down.

He's the other adult in the household. That's all 'they' care about.

 

[californiamom3]

How sad... how unbelievably sad...

Your boyfriend has no business signing any legal document that concerns your child.
Sleeping with you for 6 years doesn't make him important to anyone else in this world but you.

My fault for assuming that since your first and third comments were opinion based that your second was as well. My apologies.
School is nearly here. I'll be getting all those infamous forms once again.
I'll be checking on the exact wording on the signature space.
No matter how it's worded and weather or not my BF is legally allowed to sign them....we'll have to wait and see.
I do know.... the school system is aware that BF is a reliable adult who can be and has been responsible for each of my three children no matter the legalities.
If form says "Guardian" and not "Legal Guardian" BF will be signing as he is just that.

 

[profmum]

How sad... how unbelievably sad...

Your boyfriend has no business signing any legal document that concerns your child.
Sleeping with you for 6 years doesn't make him important to anyone else in this world but you.

OP has not done anything that is "illegal". This is not a case of an overstepping significant other. Jumping down her throat with a knee jerk standard response is hardly useful.

 

[janM]

IMO...if the school/doctor/whatever doesn't have a problem with BF signing, then there is no problem.

 

[californiamom3]

update

School has been in session for the 3rd week now and I believe all the paperwork has been sent home and returned. Whew!
As for signatures requested on said papers....
Parent and or guardian. Not legal guardian.

 

[ecmst12]

If you wanted to cover your butt, you could put a POA in place so your BF CAN legally sign (as your proxy) when you are not available.

I don't have any moral problem with a committed couple that chooses not to legally sanctify the relationship, but I will point out that getting that piece of paper provides lots of protection to you, him, and the kids, that you don't get without it. The legal issues are totally separate from the moral ones and there are legal advantages to being married. Just something to think about, in a totally non-emotional and non-judgemental way.

 

[sammysmommy]

I don't have any moral problem with a committed couple that chooses not to legally sanctify the relationship, but I will point out that getting that piece of paper provides lots of protection to you, him, and the kids, that you don't get without it. The legal issues are totally separate from the moral ones and there are legal advantages to being married. Just something to think about, in a totally non-emotional and non-judgemental way.

Question, (hopefully this doesn't mean I am hijacking this thread and if I am, I am sorry), So, if a parent does get married, does that allow the step-parent to sign school and/or medical paperwork? For instance, permission slips for field trips.

Is a step-parent a "legal" guardian or just a guardian? Do they just need to make sure they don't represent themselves as the natural parent? (Assuming there is no court-ordered paperwork specifically stating otherwise).

 

[Isis1]

Question, (hopefully this doesn't mean I am hijacking this thread and if I am, I am sorry), So, if a parent does get married, does that allow the step-parent to sign school and/or medical paperwork? Is a step-parent a "legal" guardian or just a guardian? Do they just need to make sure they don't represent themselves as the natural parent? (Assuming there is no court-ordered paperwork specifically stating otherwise).

if the school is fine with it, and it is expressed it is the person signing the legal document is a legal stranger, then the courts usually don't have a problem with it.

however, if either parent is available or is not given the right to object, problems arise.

say dad says okay to going to an evolution exhibit. mom does not believe in evolution, so she would say no. but she is unable to because dad never told mom anything. now we got a problem.