What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Oregon
My ex has supervised visitation, and the times and days are clearly spelled out in our Custody Order. The location and who is to to supervise is simply "to be determined by father." (My wife supervises at Chuck E. Cheese)
About a month after the order went into effect, my ex gave me 3 days notice that she would be going back to school and expected me to work around her schedule. I did, but only because I am trying to facilitate a relationship for my daughter. Since then (about 1 1/2 years) we have done visitation about and hour later than the CO states. Also, there are days when my ex 'has an appointment' or activity going on so I accommodate her by changing the day of visitation, and sometimes when it is nice they go to the park.
I don't want to get in trouble for not following the order to a T, but also don't want to get in trouble for not working with mom. Since no location is named, it would be very hard for her to prove contempt, as there is nothing in writing agreeing to meet at Chuck E. Cheese. I am thinking of sending an email to my ex stating that the custody order will be followed exactly, and at X location. I have read on here how important it is to follow the court order, but also that as CP that I need to be flexible. Is it really more important for me to completely follow the order than it is to work with mom?
Also, on her 'holiday' visitations, whose responsibility is it to confirm the visit? On my ex's birthday she never called to say she was going and so I didn't show up (it was my day off so I was going to be the supervisor). She never said anything about it to me, and I know if she was there waiting I would have gotten 10 calls every minute. She didn't mention it to my wife, and now my wife wants to remind her for holiday visitation. I am getting fed up and think that if she can't remember, or at least check the CO, then I shouldn't have to remind her. I am tired of trying to make her make our daughter a priority!
My ex has supervised visitation, and the times and days are clearly spelled out in our Custody Order. The location and who is to to supervise is simply "to be determined by father." (My wife supervises at Chuck E. Cheese)
About a month after the order went into effect, my ex gave me 3 days notice that she would be going back to school and expected me to work around her schedule. I did, but only because I am trying to facilitate a relationship for my daughter. Since then (about 1 1/2 years) we have done visitation about and hour later than the CO states. Also, there are days when my ex 'has an appointment' or activity going on so I accommodate her by changing the day of visitation, and sometimes when it is nice they go to the park.
I don't want to get in trouble for not following the order to a T, but also don't want to get in trouble for not working with mom. Since no location is named, it would be very hard for her to prove contempt, as there is nothing in writing agreeing to meet at Chuck E. Cheese. I am thinking of sending an email to my ex stating that the custody order will be followed exactly, and at X location. I have read on here how important it is to follow the court order, but also that as CP that I need to be flexible. Is it really more important for me to completely follow the order than it is to work with mom?
Also, on her 'holiday' visitations, whose responsibility is it to confirm the visit? On my ex's birthday she never called to say she was going and so I didn't show up (it was my day off so I was going to be the supervisor). She never said anything about it to me, and I know if she was there waiting I would have gotten 10 calls every minute. She didn't mention it to my wife, and now my wife wants to remind her for holiday visitation. I am getting fed up and think that if she can't remember, or at least check the CO, then I shouldn't have to remind her. I am tired of trying to make her make our daughter a priority!