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[tenndistress]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Tennessee

for the past 4yrs i have been lead to believe a child was mine when other thoughts have prgressed. i found out a innocent child was mine after she was 9months old but a seperate man has been on the childs birth certificate since the day she was born. i never intended on signing the b.c. anyway since i was always lead to believe he was the father since she was born until i took a private dna test. now the mother wants me to voluntarily sign the b.c. and ive never seen the child no more than 5 times my entire life. when we did have court dates on this matter and paternity test set-up through juvenlie courts the mother didnt show and after 3 or 4 no-show court dates the judge issued a warrant for her arrest which has been resolved on her behalf but to the extent of that i do not kno. i havent spoken to guy who signed the birth certificate since the last court date which was almost 4 yrs ago. I dont kno what to do cause even when i did see the child i had no real emotions towards the child simply because i dont see her and plus all the lies of deceit the mother has brought into the situation. she says his name is not on the b.c. anymore but how is that so when no one has stepped up to adopt the child (remind you she calld one day out the clear blue sky askn me to sign the b.c.) But im not being coldhearted but when/if we do get back into the court process which im sure is goin to happen and im proven to be ther father under tennessee juvenile law and not by a private dna test will i have the option to voluntarily sign my parental rights over even though i never signed the b.c. and another man's name has been on the b.c. since DAY 1????????????What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?

 

[Indiana Filer]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Tennessee

for the past 4yrs i have been lead to believe a child was mine when other thoughts have prgressed. i found out a innocent child was mine after she was 9months old but a seperate man has been on the childs birth certificate since the day she was born. i never intended on signing the b.c. anyway since i was always lead to believe he was the father since she was born until i took a private dna test. now the mother wants me to voluntarily sign the b.c. and ive never seen the child no more than 5 times my entire life. when we did have court dates on this matter and paternity test set-up through juvenlie courts the mother didnt show and after 3 or 4 no-show court dates the judge issued a warrant for her arrest which has been resolved on her behalf but to the extent of that i do not kno. i havent spoken to guy who signed the birth certificate since the last court date which was almost 4 yrs ago. I dont kno what to do cause even when i did see the child i had no real emotions towards the child simply because i dont see her and plus all the lies of deceit the mother has brought into the situation. she says his name is not on the b.c. anymore but how is that so when no one has stepped up to adopt the child (remind you she calld one day out the clear blue sky askn me to sign the b.c.) But im not being coldhearted but when/if we do get back into the court process which im sure is goin to happen and im proven to be ther father under tennessee juvenile law and not by a private dna test will i have the option to voluntarily sign my parental rights over even though i never signed the b.c. and another man's name has been on the b.c. since DAY 1????????????What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?

If you are found to be the father of this child, you will get ordered to pay child support most likely. You don't have to see the child, but you will have to support her. The only way you can not pay support would be if another man adopts this child.

I just hope she has someone in her life who will care, because, well...

 

[stealth2]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Tennessee

for the past 4yrs i have been lead to believe a child was mine when other thoughts have prgressed. i found out a innocent child was mine after she was 9months old but a seperate man has been on the childs birth certificate since the day she was born. i never intended on signing the b.c. anyway since i was always lead to believe he was the father since she was born until i took a private dna test. now the mother wants me to voluntarily sign the b.c. and ive never seen the child no more than 5 times my entire life. when we did have court dates on this matter and paternity test set-up through juvenlie courts the mother didnt show and after 3 or 4 no-show court dates the judge issued a warrant for her arrest which has been resolved on her behalf but to the extent of that i do not kno. i havent spoken to guy who signed the birth certificate since the last court date which was almost 4 yrs ago. I dont kno what to do cause even when i did see the child i had no real emotions towards the child simply because i dont see her and plus all the lies of deceit the mother has brought into the situation. she says his name is not on the b.c. anymore but how is that so when no one has stepped up to adopt the child (remind you she calld one day out the clear blue sky askn me to sign the b.c.) But im not being coldhearted but when/if we do get back into the court process which im sure is goin to happen and im proven to be ther father under tennessee juvenile law and not by a private dna test will i have the option to voluntarily sign my parental rights over even though i never signed the b.c. and another man's name has been on the b.c. since DAY 1????????????What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?

Wow. Poor kid.

 

[Proserpina]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Tennessee

for the past 4yrs i have been lead to believe a child was mine when other thoughts have prgressed. i found out a innocent child was mine after she was 9months old but a seperate man has been on the childs birth certificate since the day she was born. i never intended on signing the b.c. anyway since i was always lead to believe he was the father since she was born until i took a private dna test.

If you thought he was the father you wouldn't have wanted to have your name on the birth certificate anyway - that would be fraud.

Now, did the presumed father sign an affidavit of paternity? (being on the birth certificate does not necessarily mean he's the legal father).

now the mother wants me to voluntarily sign the b.c. and ive never seen the child no more than 5 times my entire life.

Do you mean she wants you to petition to establish paternity and have the other guy's paternity disestablished?

when we did have court dates on this matter and paternity test set-up through juvenlie courts the mother didnt show and after 3 or 4 no-show court dates the judge issued a warrant for her arrest which has been resolved on her behalf but to the extent of that i do not kno. i havent spoken to guy who signed the birth certificate since the last court date which was almost 4 yrs ago.

Is the court case over? What happened?

I dont kno what to do cause even when i did see the child i had no real emotions towards the child simply because i dont see her and plus all the lies of deceit the mother has brought into the situation.

I hope to god you're a troll.

On the offchance that you're not....are you seriously punishing a CHILD for what her mother has done? Nice.

she says his name is not on the b.c. anymore but how is that so when no one has stepped up to adopt the child (remind you she calld one day out the clear blue sky askn me to sign the b.c.)

Go to the court house and check the records. If Other Guy filed to disestablish paternity (and often this is possible) and is excluded he can be removed from the birth certificate without there being someone to adopt.

But im not being coldhearted ...

Yes. Yes you are. You want to reject and abandon your child because of Mom's actions.

 

[tenndistress]

So Im The Bad Guy Huh?

So Im The Bad Guy Huh?.....You guys are makin me seem like im the bad guy in the situation. If i sat down at the computer rite now and told you all the ENTIRE situation and story you would probaly wanna find the mother and put her in therapy for some kind of disorder or som'n. When the case was in the court syustem she missed 3-5 court dates which lead the judge to put a warrant out for her arrest when all along i showed up and did my part from jump street. but yes i have been petionied recently to take another dna test but now im askn how is that the "other guy" can file to disestablish paternity when he signed the b.c. as soon as she was born? I've never been on te birth certificate and never been asked to sign or anything until now. none of this makes since but the ? i was askn is whats the law on my behalf if he is still playn father and i dont wanna pout my name on the b.c.?

 

[Proserpina]

So Im The Bad Guy Huh?.....You guys are makin me seem like im the bad guy in the situation. If i sat down at the computer rite now and told you all the ENTIRE situation and story you would probaly wanna find the mother and put her in therapy for some kind of disorder or som'n. When the case was in the court syustem she missed 3-5 court dates which lead the judge to put a warrant out for her arrest when all along i showed up and did my part from jump street. but yes i have been petionied recently to take another dna test but now im askn how is that the "other guy" can file to disestablish paternity when he signed the b.c. as soon as she was born? I've never been on te birth certificate and never been asked to sign or anything until now. none of this makes since but the ? i was askn is whats the law on my behalf if he is still playn father and i dont wanna pout my name on the b.c.?

What you want or don't want doesn't enter the equation.

The other guy can indeed disestablish paternity if you are proven to be the father.

There are other considerations though. I want you to clarify a few points.

Did "other guy" actually sign an affidavit of paternity? (being on the birth certificate is NOT necessarily the same thing).

You said first you found out when the child was 9 months old. And you've known about this possibility since then, yes? You've assumed for the past four years that this child is yours biologically, yes? So why do you also say that you always thought HE was the father all along anyway?

Which is it?

And for pete's sake please use correct grammar and spelling - it really does help!

 

[Proserpina]

(actually I'm not sure further responses are necessary - the bottom line is that if you're legally established as father, you cannot sign over your rights just like that)

More information might change things.

 

[tenndistress]

You sayn this like your an expert or somn Mr. Dogmatique

And as for my grammer it really doesnt matter cause this is not a graded project and your not a professor. So wat gives you the credibility to answer the ?'s the way you do? tell me that

 

[Proserpina]

And as for my grammer it really doesnt matter cause this is not a graded project and your not a professor. So wat gives you the credibility to answer the ?'s the way you do? tell me that

And in all of your apparent dismay and stress, this is what's troubling you the most?! You're more pissed that you were asked to use correct spelling and grammar?

Tell you what. Go and pay an attorney to tell you the same things that you've been told here.

(one more thing. I'm not a Mr. Just so's you know.)