BubblyBrunette
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What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? CA
Some background:
My son lives in OR with his father & has been for the last two yrs. I agreed to let him go move there very reluctantly but with the stipulation that he could revisit the situation in six months if he wasn't happy. Sure enough the following summer he didn't want to go back. I filed papers to get the custody modified and while we were waiting for our court date my ex came and took him back to OR with him. After working on him for awhile my son changed his mind again. By the time we went through the whole court process (I even got him an atty) it was too close to the end of the school year so the judge said that she wouldn't be making a change at that time yet I was free to come back at a later time. I told myself I wasn't going to continue if he wasn't willing to say that he wants to live here.
Now fast forward to this weekend. I flew him in on Sat. and he told me that he was really upset and is not going back to OR? I asked him what happened and he said that he cannot take his step-mom anymore and told his dad that unless she changes he would rather come back here and live with me. His dad made him sleep in the truck on Fri. night and then drove him to the airport in the morning. When he got off the plane he didn't even have a shirt though he did have a sweatshirt. He had no medication with him that he is supposed to take daily.
I tried to call his dad when we got home to find out what happened and he refuses to talk to me. He just sends me e-mails repeating that I need to send our son home on his scheduled flight today.
I'm very conflicted yet I know that if I don't put him on the plane I'll be in contempt of court. (By the way, I just had his dad down here in court on contempt charges for not sending him in March because he thought the flight I arranged was too early in the morning 7 a.m. He almost went to jail but I dropped it with predjudice as long as he agrees to the flights I arrange in the future. I pay for all travel expenses & child support).
Any suggestions???
Some background:
My son lives in OR with his father & has been for the last two yrs. I agreed to let him go move there very reluctantly but with the stipulation that he could revisit the situation in six months if he wasn't happy. Sure enough the following summer he didn't want to go back. I filed papers to get the custody modified and while we were waiting for our court date my ex came and took him back to OR with him. After working on him for awhile my son changed his mind again. By the time we went through the whole court process (I even got him an atty) it was too close to the end of the school year so the judge said that she wouldn't be making a change at that time yet I was free to come back at a later time. I told myself I wasn't going to continue if he wasn't willing to say that he wants to live here.
Now fast forward to this weekend. I flew him in on Sat. and he told me that he was really upset and is not going back to OR? I asked him what happened and he said that he cannot take his step-mom anymore and told his dad that unless she changes he would rather come back here and live with me. His dad made him sleep in the truck on Fri. night and then drove him to the airport in the morning. When he got off the plane he didn't even have a shirt though he did have a sweatshirt. He had no medication with him that he is supposed to take daily.
I tried to call his dad when we got home to find out what happened and he refuses to talk to me. He just sends me e-mails repeating that I need to send our son home on his scheduled flight today.
I'm very conflicted yet I know that if I don't put him on the plane I'll be in contempt of court. (By the way, I just had his dad down here in court on contempt charges for not sending him in March because he thought the flight I arranged was too early in the morning 7 a.m. He almost went to jail but I dropped it with predjudice as long as he agrees to the flights I arrange in the future. I pay for all travel expenses & child support).
Any suggestions???