in arrears and offering to by daughter a car

[WittyUserName]

It's a federal mandate that they charge the $25/year to parents using the state's CSE that are not on state aid.

Yeah, that's what I had vaguely remembered - thanks! That seems very different than Advocate's quote:

"I'm not avoiding the fact that he owes you money, but the kids would actually see the money if he gives them it. The state will be getting the money, not you if you bring this car thing up. Also, at least he's giving something. Don't like the way the system works? Let California know they are charging an outrageous interest rate that only benefits the state and not the custodial parent or the children."

FWIW (and this is slightly off-topic) my parents were freaked out in a big way by misconceptions like that. Lots of hateful stuff back and forth. It could be helpful not to confuse the OP about her situation, y'know?

 

[californiamom3]

Yep, I was stressing when I read the post about me not seeing the CS money.
Thanks to all for clearing that up. Whew!

 

[californiamom3]

update

I asked dad how he could afford to donate toward the purchase of a car.
He said that the money would be coming from his dad.
So here's the problem: His dad is a registered sex offender (child molestation)
and is legally (on paper) not allowed to have contact with the children.
No, gifting money is officially not contact, but I take issue with this.
Any advice?

 

[Isis1]

I asked dad how he could afford to donate toward the purchase of a car.
He said that the money would be coming from his dad.
So here's the problem: His dad is a registered sex offender (child molestation)
and is legally (on paper) not allowed to have contact with the children.
No, gifting money is officially not contact, but I take issue with this.
Any advice?

yes, daughter got a car. be happy YOU didn't pay for it.