Judge seems dirty, please help!

[TheGeekess]

It seems easy for you to call names and steriotype people. If you would have paid attention to what I have been asking, "I" realize that "I" have no rights when it comes to my stepdaughter. My wife on the other hand does. I stated in the beginning that I can assist her in any way that I desire, hence my right and RESPONSIBILITY as a husband. I do not intend on doing anything in court, MY WIFE DOES SMART GUY. Please pay attention to someone's intentions before you dump your opinions, and they are just opinions, on other people. You may have a law degree, but I am versed in motivations and emotional reasoning. You know how to screw people, I know how to help them.. Get it straight.. It seems to me that if you really cared about kids, as you are a GAL, then you would be more focused on the child's well being instead of "technical" biologic lines. I will tell you straight up, a court order may say something on paper, but what is written in the hearts of parents and children are two seperate things. Congratulations to you that you can manipulate situations in order to boost your self esteem in a court room, but in all honesty, that has nothing to do with genuine love or genuine parenting. There are dead beat dads and moms all across the country that get represented by self righteous attorneys, and win their cases just to leave children getting abused and neglected... so congratulations on being a part of that movement. I on the other hand am a step parent who has been loving a child since they were one year old while her "real" father was out whoring around, being strung out on drugs, and being an alcoholic. These are the facts, not opinions. So please do not write me again stating legal jargon. I want to know how to help my wife protect "OUR" child. I may be a stepdad, but we have real love for each other. No butthead attorney, judge, or court order will ever change that. It may come across as stupidity, but we are a family. It seems much more ignorant to me that someone as educated as you would suggest that I alienate my stepdaughter. This is what the court system wants. Please realize that we have two children of who, I am the "real" dad, that are my "fake" daughter's sisters. Get over it. She is a part of our family and she will be treated as such.

You do realize you're on a LEGAL SITE? That EMOTIONS play NO PART in the LEGAL PROCESS?? Your wife could very well lose custody (yes, even in the state of ALABAMA) for this kind of behavior from you. Judges don't like it when children are alienated from their parents.

Good luck with that attitude.

 

[Isis1]

where is the head thumping smiley?


OP, on a legal site, there is only MOM and DAD. in a courtroom, there is MOM and DAD.

all the love for the child in the whole world from a third party does nothing for the court room. if mom dies, you might never see your stepdaughter again. if you and mom divorce, you might never see your stepdaughter again. you are at the mercy of mom's choices. if you overstep, it may get to the point of mom getting supervised visitation, where you are not permited around the child.

don't allow it to get that point.

 

[moldableman]

Well since she is your and your wife's child there would be no reason to go to court and you don't need any advice now do you?

Better yet, why don't you petition the court for your child. Come back and let eveyone know how well that went.

I think I see where you are going with this now. What you are saying to me is that the court does not care about the emotions or mental health of the child, what they care about is that mom and dad argue about the child while nothing gets done to fix the problem. I get it now. So I guess what I need to do is tell my wife that I won't be there to support her and I should tell my stepdaughter that I have to alienate her now. Thanks for the advice. If there is anyone out there that wants to help a child from being abused, please lend a hand.

 

[Antigone*]

If there is anyone out there that wants to help a child from being abused, please lend a hand.

Dude,

You're on page three of this thread. Help came in page one, you just didn't like what you heard.

Stick a fork in us already.

 

[Ohiogal]

It seems easy for you to call names and steriotype people.

The word is STEREOTYPE and I have not done that. Nor have I called you names:

LEGALLY you are not the daddy. LEGALLY you are no one.
LEGALLY the evidence was not presented properly. The child should have had a GAL appointed. The people that WROTE the reports should have been called as witnesses to testify. The reports are inadmissible as hearsay. The social worker's testimony was hearsay if she witnessed nothing. Hearsay of that sort is NOT admissible Hence it was all excluded properly. Your major in counseling is worth NOTHING in court. I have a law degree and law license. That trumps you every time when it comes to court hearings. I am an attorney/GAL who represents children.

If you ever actually work as a counselor you would be a mandated reporter. Or you would lose your job and face criminal charges if you did not report. Understand? You don't get it. This is about the legalities of which you are showing amazing stupidity -- not just ignorance but stupidity.

I did state you were showing amazing stupidty which you are.

If you would have paid attention to what I have been asking, "I" realize that "I" have no rights when it comes to my stepdaughter. My wife on the other hand does.

No you don't realize that. You state that you do but you don't.

I stated in the beginning that I can assist her in any way that I desire, hence my right and RESPONSIBILITY as a husband. I do not intend on doing anything in court, MY WIFE DOES SMART GUY.

Your wife does a smart guy? She is cheating on you? And you would be proud to announce that headline on a public forum?

Please pay attention to someone's intentions before you dump your opinions, and they are just opinions, on other people.

They are legal opinions.

You may have a law degree, but I am versed in motivations and emotional reasoning.

Really? Because your emotional reasoning is lacking the reasoning aspect and is all emotion.

You know how to screw people, I know how to help them..

Actually you can't prove it by what you have posted here.

Get it straight.. It seems to me that if you really cared about kids, as you are a GAL, then you would be more focused on the child's well being instead of "technical" biologic lines.

It is not technical. It is legal. And a stepparent who oversteps HARMS a child's well being -- physical, mental and emotional.

I will tell you straight up, a court order may say something on paper, but what is written in the hearts of parents and children are two seperate things.

Maybe but the court order is law and needs to be followed.

Congratulations to you that you can manipulate situations in order to boost your self esteem in a court room, but in all honesty, that has nothing to do with genuine love or genuine parenting.

Or the emotional power play you are pulling. There is nothing genuine you have presented except a bunch of stuff about power.

There are dead beat dads and moms all across the country that get represented by self righteous attorneys, and win their cases just to leave children getting abused and neglected... so congratulations on being a part of that movement.

Part of what movement? Sorry but you have no clue what a GAL does. NONE. You also don't understand the law at all even though there have been attempts to educate you. Which means you are drowning in your stupidity.

I on the other hand am a step parent who has been loving a child since they were one year old while her "real" father was out whoring around, being strung out on drugs, and being an alcoholic.

Must be proud to know that YOUR WIFE was one of the FIRST WHORES he was with. Huh? Because if he was whoring around and he had sex with your wife, guess what -- makes her a whore. Oh wait -- you meant anyone but your wife. She chose him.

These are the facts, not opinions. So please do not write me again stating legal jargon.

The legal jargon is just too much for you. Its above the capabilities of your understanding.

I want to know how to help my wife protect "OUR" child.

Nope. Not your child.

I may be a stepdad, but we have real love for each other.

I heard a pedophile state that about the emotion he shared with his victim. Not company you want to share -- or maybe you do. After all, by your words, you married a whore.

No butthead attorney, judge, or court order will ever change that.

Then look for your wife to lose custody.

It may come across as stupidity, but we are a family. It seems much more ignorant to me that someone as educated as you would suggest that I alienate my stepdaughter.

I never said you should alienate your stepdaughter. Didn't say that at all.

This is what the court system wants. Please realize that we have two children of who, I am the "real" dad, that are my "fake" daughter's sisters. Get over it. She is a part of our family and she will be treated as such.

I don't have to get over it. You have to grow up however unless you want to risk your wife losing custody.

 

[moldableman]

You do realize you're on a LEGAL SITE? That EMOTIONS play NO PART in the LEGAL PROCESS?? Your wife could very well lose custody (yes, even in the state of ALABAMA) for this kind of behavior from you. Judges don't like it when children are alienated from their parents.

Good luck with that attitude.

I think that I have given the wrong ideas here. I am not trying to alienate the father. I know that i can't do anything. My wife and her ex have a terrible time communicating due to the fact that he is an abuser and very controlling. He abuses and controls the child in this situation as well. This has been proven through doctors, psychologists, school counselors, and the child's own testimony that is inadmissible because she is too young. Our attorney did not advise us to get a GAL, so it turned out bad. What I want to know is what can be done to provide safety for my stepdaughter. I think I at least have the right to ask that question. When it comes to court, my lips are sealed and I sit there quietly in support of my wife. It is hard not to become emotionally involved when the ex makes false allegations against me, the guy that doesn't count, for molestation. It was at this point that the abuse came out from my stepdaughter's own mouth about her father to the social worker that was questioning her for allegations against me. He can't stand the fact that I exist because of the relationship that the child and I possess. There are different types of relationships, IE paternal/maternal. All emotion aside, the facts are simple. A child is being abused and it needs to be proven. This information is being used to assist my wife in court while I silently sit in support of her.

 

[moldableman]

The word is STEREOTYPE and I have not done that. Nor have I called you names:

I did state you were showing amazing stupidty which you are.



No you don't realize that. You state that you do but you don't.


Your wife does a smart guy? She is cheating on you? And you would be proud to announce that headline on a public forum?


They are legal opinions.

Really? Because your emotional reasoning is lacking the reasoning aspect and is all emotion.


Actually you can't prove it by what you have posted here.


It is not technical. It is legal. And a stepparent who oversteps HARMS a child's well being -- physical, mental and emotional.



Maybe but the court order is law and needs to be followed.

Or the emotional power play you are pulling. There is nothing genuine you have presented except a bunch of stuff about power.


Part of what movement? Sorry but you have no clue what a GAL does. NONE. You also don't understand the law at all even though there have been attempts to educate you. Which means you are drowning in your stupidity.

Must be proud to know that YOUR WIFE was one of the FIRST WHORES he was with. Huh? Because if he was whoring around and he had sex with your wife, guess what -- makes her a whore. Oh wait -- you meant anyone but your wife. She chose him.

The legal jargon is just too much for you. Its above the capabilities of your understanding.


Nope. Not your child.


I heard a pedophile state that about the emotion he shared with his victim. Not company you want to share -- or maybe you do. After all, by your words, you married a whore.



Then look for your wife to lose custody.


I never said you should alienate your stepdaughter. Didn't say that at all.


I don't have to get over it. You have to grow up however unless you want to risk your wife losing custody.

You are the type of attorney that we need to hire. A narcissistic jerk that has no empathy, which by the way is a narcissistic characteristic. You must really suck as an attorney to feel the need to get your jollies off here in a discussion board. Who do you think you are calling my wife a whore?? Again, if you could read...the statement said that HE was out whoring around while she was at home trying to care for the child. They were married at conception just so you can understand that. Since when did they give cavemen/women law degrees. It is lawyers like you that people are supposed to look to for help in protecting their kids.. What a joke. It is people like you that enable abusers. There are also different types of love besides those of sexual reference. Reference your bible for that one. You know what really gets the goat, in spite of your hateful comments, just like the biological dad's, my relationships are thriving, and there ain't a thing that can be done about it. Show me a law that says that people can't care about each other and I'll tell you where to shove it.

 

[Ohiogal]

You are the type of attorney that we need to hire. A narcissistic jerk that has no empathy, which by the way is a narcissistic characteristic. You must really suck as an attorney to feel the need to get your jollies off here in a discussion board. Who do you think you are calling my wife a whore?? Again, if you could read...the statement said that HE was out whoring around while she was at home trying to care for the child. They were married at conception just so you can understand that. Since when did they give cavemen law degrees. It is men like you that people are supposed to look to for help in protecting their kids.. What a joke. It is people like you that enable abusers. There are also different types of love besides those of sexual reference. Reference your bible for that one. You know what really gets the goat, in spite of your hateful comments, just like the biological dad's, my relationships are thriving, and there ain't a thing that can be done about it. Show me a law that says that people can't care about each other and I'll tell you where to shove it.

You are entertaining in your stupidity. Seriously.

ETA: It doesn't surprise me that you like goats.

 

[wolfcreekgal]

check your private messages

 

[Ohiogal]

It is men like you


LOL

Maybe he is jealous that mine are bigger? ROTFLMAO

 

[moldableman]

You are entertaining in your stupidity. Seriously.

Yea I caught that one. I just now noticed that you are a woman. Probably confused in your sexuality though considering that you are so bitter as to pick fights with parents looking to help children on a free advice forum. If not a sexuality issue, definitely a control issue. I bet you are a control freak out the wazoo.. I would definitely say that you have some unresolved conflicts in your life. Perhaps with an absent father or an abusive step parent from your past. It is not normal behavior for someone to lash out as you have. I hope you can look inside of yourself to see that. I on the other hand have real concerns about protecting a child. If I am supposed to protect children, as a counselor, that I know are being abused, please explain how my own stepdaughter is omitted from my protection... I think what you really mean is that you don't think that it is any of my concern what her welfare is and that I should mind my own business. In the real world honey, it doesn't really work that way. On the other hand, you seem to be pretty intelligent, so what do you propose that my wife do in regards to protecting her child. Please omit any comments about step/bio and give straight up advice... If that is really what you are here for. If you are just looking for an argument please seek out someone else in need to harass.

 

[Ohiogal]

check your private messages

Nice message you left for him but he is NOT a parent and is only a stepparent. His rights are NOT the same as yours in your case.

 

[Ohiogal]

Yea I caught that one. I just now noticed that you are a woman. Probably confused in your sexuality though considering that you are so bitter as to pick fights with parents looking to help children on a free advice forum. If not a sexuality issue, definitely a control issue. I bet you are a control freak out the wazoo.. I would definitely say that you have some unresolved conflicts in your life. Perhaps with an absent father or an abusive step parent from your past. It is not normal behavior for someone to lash out as you have. I hope you can look inside of yourself to see that. I on the other hand have real concerns about protecting a child. If I am supposed to protect children, as a counselor, that I know are being abused, please explain how my own stepdaughter is omitted from my protection... I think what you really mean is that you don't think that it is any of my concern what her welfare is and that I should mind my own business. In the real world honey, it doesn't really work that way. On the other hand, you seem to be pretty intelligent, so what do you propose that my wife do in regards to protecting her child. Please omit any comments about step/bio and give straight up advice... If that is really what you are here for. If you are just looking for an argument please seek out someone else in need to harass.

Honey? See more stupidity from you. Just quit now. Lash out? Nope. I have tried to correct your idiocy and make you see just how wrong you are. Keep going the way you are. Step/bio? You still dont' get it. You really do not get it.

 

[moldableman]

Honey? See more stupidity from you. Just quit now. Lash out? Nope. I have tried to correct your idiocy and make you see just how wrong you are. Keep going the way you are. Step/bio? You still dont' get it. You really do not get it.

What is it that I do not get... Please make sure to spell it out for me since you have called me stupid now about ten times.

 

[Ohiogal]

What is it that I do not get... Please make sure to spell it out for me since you have called me stupid now about ten times.

Naw. I know a lost cause and I refuse to attempt anymore on you.