Is this legal??

[moldableman]

Its not about doing what's right when your surrounded by reasonable people.

Its about doing what's right even when you aren't.

Doing what is right is protecting a child from abuse...not catering to someone because of a title..

 

[moldableman]

Doing what is right is protecting a child from abuse...not catering to someone because of a title..

Good night miserable little people. I have to go tuck my "fake" daughter" and my real ones into bed now...

 

[moldableman]

Which your wife nor you have failed to call cps for.

So neither of you are protecting a child you consiter to be abused.

yes we have.. as has the childs psychologist and DHS.

 

[Rushia]

We are working with the psychologist in an attempt to show neglect. For someone that is so matter of fact, you should know that if you run to the judge with every issue, they get a bit upset. Please find a legitimate source of self esteem instead of getting it from a free advice site. Are you still wondering why you constantly criticize people on this site instead of actually helping them.. I mean really, you've been at it all day.

I have been trying to help you and all you've been doing is trying to dx me. I have no issues with dysfunction. I have no issues with self esteem. I am happy with my life, happily married, happy kids blah blah blah. Actually, my current issue is that my children don't want to go to bed and I don't think a legal site or even a shrink can help me with that.

Your wife filing to keep the child in counseling is a legitimate petition. When parents have joint legal and can't come to an agreement, court or mediation is the way to go.

The only person I have criticized is YOU. Your priorities disgust me. You claim that your stepdaughter is being abused and neglected and instead of you or your wife LEGALLY attending to the situation, you sit here and complain cause she can't call you dad, you complain cause we tell you that LEGALLY she can't call you dad. I'm pointing out the holes in your story cause I'VE BEEN THERE. Don't tell me that child will be alienated cause she can't call you dad, will feel less love cause she can't call you dad. My children go back and forth calling steps mom and dad to their real names. Doesn't matter what they call their steps, those kids KNOW that their parents and steps love them.

 

[moldableman]

Good grief, it doesn't matter who you are in the situation if your wife and you are claiming abuse and your wife doesn't even care enough to call cps about her own child.

In fact, I just had to file a report with CPS on a child that I have no connection to because it doesn't matter who I am but I did care about the child involved.

You are so caught up in being right that you can't even see that you seem to be the problem for this child right now. Not dad.

elaborate please

 

[Proserpina]

One more time.

Repeat after me:

I am not Dad, and I must not overstep my boundaries.

I am not Dad, and I must not overstep my boundaries.

I am not Dad, and I must not overstep my boundaries.

I am not Dad, and I must not overstep my boundaries.

I am not Dad, and I must not overstep my boundaries.

I am not Dad, and I must not overstep my boundaries.

Rinse, repeat ad nauseum until you actually get it.

ETA: I give up. Your obsession with being "right" and being seen as the martyred step-father has apparently suffocated any residual drop of reason that may once have existed.

 

[moldableman]

I have been trying to help you and all you've been doing is trying to dx me. I have no issues with dysfunction. I have no issues with self esteem. I am happy with my life, happily married, happy kids blah blah blah. Actually, my current issue is that my children don't want to go to bed and I don't think a legal site or even a shrink can help me with that.

Your wife filing to keep the child in counseling is a legitimate petition. When parents have joint legal and can't come to an agreement, court or mediation is the way to go.

The only person I have criticized is YOU. Your priorities disgust me. You claim that your stepdaughter is being abused and neglected and instead of you or your wife LEGALLY attending to the situation, you sit here and complain cause she can't call you dad, you complain cause we tell you that LEGALLY she can't call you dad. I'm pointing out the holes in your story cause I'VE BEEN THERE. Don't tell me that child will be alienated cause she can't call you dad, will feel less love cause she can't call you dad. My children go back and forth calling steps mom and dad to their real names. Doesn't matter what they call their steps, those kids KNOW that their parents and steps love them.

I feel ya.. We have never had to deal with this before, and all I know is that my stepdaughter breaks down and cries every time we have the discussion. Hence, the attempts to go to a psychologist to help her deal with the issues...

 

[Rushia]

I feel ya.. We have never had to deal with this before, and all I know is that my stepdaughter breaks down and cries every time we have the discussion. Hence, the attempts to go to a psychologist to help her deal with the issues...

I would too if I had been LIED to about "daddy" my entire life. Sheesh.

 

[moldableman]

One more time.

Repeat after me:

I am not Dad, and I must not overstep my boundaries.

I am not Dad, and I must not overstep my boundaries.

I am not Dad, and I must not overstep my boundaries.

I am not Dad, and I must not overstep my boundaries.

I am not Dad, and I must not overstep my boundaries.

I am not Dad, and I must not overstep my boundaries.

Rinse, repeat ad nauseum until you actually get it.

THe real father is an abuser

The real father is an abuser

The real father is an abuser...

Hey, I got it!!

 

[Rushia]

elaborate on what? The fact that you claim abuse and your wife and yet you fail to do nothing about it?

They aren't failing at nothing cause that's exactly what they are doing. They are failing to do anything.

 

[moldableman]

I would too if I had been LIED to about "daddy" my entire life. Sheesh.

If we told the truth about that guy, it would entail abuse, adultery, drug use, alcoholism, neglect, abandonment, violence, get the picture.. The truth is that he popped into the picture out of nowhere after telling mom that he didn't want anything to do with daughter...

 

[moldableman]

They aren't failing at nothing cause that's exactly what they are doing. They are failing to do anything.

I know, they suck as parents... What losers..

 

[TheGeekess]

In Alabama he had to be absent with no contact for five years. He came back at four and a half...

Really. Can you quote the statute that supports that bit of nonsense?

I've just been all over the Alabama State Code. Doesn't exist. You just keep on, though....

 

[cyjeff]

I feel ya.. We have never had to deal with this before, and all I know is that my stepdaughter breaks down and cries every time we have the discussion. Hence, the attempts to go to a psychologist to help her deal with the issues...

Okay... enough... especially with the "I feel ya" crap.

I am a stepfather. A proud one. The kids my heart tells me to love are great. The heart does not make a distinction.

I certainly pay enough for both as well.

However, to one child, I have exactly the same legal rights as you do ... or my next door neighbor or that guy in the plane above.

None.

Even if.

You don't get to claim a title that doesn't belong to you and then get all pissy when the guy that DOES deserve the title wants it.

This is not a frigging playground. You are adding a level of complexity to this situation that is unforgivable.

You are not the father. You sit the girl down and say, "I love you, I will always love you and I will always be there for you. However, I am not your father... only the person that gave you half the genes that make you so special can be called that. It is the name he gets to be called because he actually participated in the miracle that created you. In the meantime, what do you want to call me... anything except smelly old guy has a fair chance... and all the other people that love me call me Don."

So will look at you, say, "So I can call you Don?" and that will be the end of that.

Stop staking a claim... you don't have a dog in this fight.

If you want to pull them out and measure them, at least do it where the kids won't be a party to it.

 

[moldableman]

I know, they suck as parents... What losers..

Good night world.. Rushia.. I look forward to debating with you again soon. Thanks for the therapy..