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[moldableman]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Alabama

Is there any way to limit communication about visitation. Every time it comes up, there is an argument about irrelevant issues. Very degrading remarks and comments are made that are of subject. Can this be controlled via a court order?

 

[moldableman]

I doubt your going to get much if any more help. Your previous posts speak for themselves. Might as well pay an attorney for all your questions.

Don't have to agree with me to give advice. Not everyone has the money to hire an attorney over every issue..

 

[Zephyr]

Why not discuss visitation through email and not address anything that is off topic?

Isn't visitation laid out in the court order?

 

[Antigone*]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Alabama

Is there any way to limit communication about visitation. Every time it comes up, there is an argument about irrelevant issues. Very degrading remarks and comments are made that are of subject. Can this be controlled via a court order?

I agree with you MW but I couldn't resist this one.

OP,

Very simple resolution: it takes two to tango. Don't play the game and stick to the issues.

5 virtual bucks says we're in for another 5 pager.

 

[moldableman]

Why not discuss visitation through email and not address anything that is off topic?

Isn't visitation laid out in the court order?

It is, but it is very vague in many places. Such as "Spring Break" This tends to be manipulated to try and add in the three day teacher work day that conjoins with the actual week of spring break. Thanksgiving is a big deal because it runs from Wednesday to Sunday, but if the child actually stays in Alabama until Sunday night, she will miss school due to travel.

All of those issues will have to go before the judge, but the concern is the verbal/cyber abuse that is incurred during interactions.

 

[Zigner]

Oh, THIS is the guy who thinks it's ok for the step-kids to call him DAD even when their DAD doesn't want it. Glad that was pointed out!

 

[moldableman]

I agree with you MW but I couldn't resist this one.

OP,

Very simple resolution: -t takes two to tango. Keep YOUR trap shut and the problem will go away on its own.

5 virtual bucks says we're in for another 5 pager.

I don't have to keep my mouth shut when it comes to my wife guys. Notice I am not referencing the child here..

 

[moldableman]

Oh, THIS is the guy who thinks it's ok for the step-kids to call him DAD even when their DAD doesn't want it. Glad that was pointed out!

Yea, I deserve that. I had the discussion with the wife and kid last night. I did hear y'all though.

 

[Antigone*]

I don't have to keep my mouth shut when it comes to my wife guys. Notice I am not referencing the child here..

I edited my post because I thought that I might have this all wrong. Well guess what... I didn't.

OP - you have no beef in this fight. Your involvement will makes things worse for your wife.

Yes - keep YOUR trap shut.

 

[Mississippian]

I edited my post because I thought that I might have this all wrong. Well guess what... I didn't.

OP - you have no beef in this fight. Your involvement will makes things worse for your wife.

Yes - keep YOUR trap shut.

We have a name for people who don't take up for their wives where I am from.. Probably get in trouble for saying it on here though

 

[Artemis_ofthe_Hunt]

We have a name for people who don't take up for their wives where I am from.. Probably get in trouble for saying it on here though

Here's the issue with this statement.... the court will not allow a third party (ie step-parent, bedwarmer, etc) to interfere in this setting. Its not about whether or not you are sticking up for your spouse! Its about LEGAL standing! Its about LEGAL RIGHTS! YOU HAVE NONE AS A STEP PARENT TO YOUR SPOUSES CHILDREN! You are the person married to the parent of the child... you are not the child's parent... PERIOD, unless at some point the agreement is made for you to adopt the child. Until that time, you have NO DOG IN THE FIGHT! Keep your trap shut, for the good of your spouse!

 

[Mississippian]

Here's the issue with this statement.... the court will not allow a third party (ie step-parent, bedwarmer, etc) to interfere in this setting. Its not about whether or not you are sticking up for your spouse! Its about LEGAL standing! Its about LEGAL RIGHTS! YOU HAVE NONE AS A STEP PARENT TO YOUR SPOUSES CHILDREN! You are the person married to the parent of the child... you are not the child's parent... PERIOD, unless at some point the agreement is made for you to adopt the child. Until that time, you have NO DOG IN THE FIGHT! Keep your trap shut, for the good of your spouse!

The word "trap" is so offensive. For edumacated people, y'all sure to have nasty mouths...

 

[Isis1]

We have a name for people who don't take up for their wives where I am from.. Probably get in trouble for saying it on here though

well, in the court, it's called interferring. the parents need to figure out how to work it out. a third party husband/boyfriend's only concern is only his manhood, not the best interest of the child.

 

[Zephyr]

It is, but it is very vague in many places. Such as "Spring Break" This tends to be manipulated to try and add in the three day teacher work day that conjoins with the actual week of spring break. Thanksgiving is a big deal because it runs from Wednesday to Sunday, but if the child actually stays in Alabama until Sunday night, she will miss school due to travel.

All of those issues will have to go before the judge, but the concern is the verbal/cyber abuse that is incurred during interactions.

You and mom have the kid basically all year, why in the world would you begrudge dad for wanting to add the weekend to his spring break? And really, does missing school the day everyone returns from spring break matter all that much?

Allowing dad more time than the absolute minimum that can be deduced from the court order is one way for mom to show the court that she supports the child's relationship with dad.

I also had a thought about your other thread. The child will less likely have trouble and emotional upset about not calling you dad if you and mom don't seem to be fighting it. And if you and mom are showing her support regarding her relationship with her dad. Feeding the upset is wrong, feeding the solution is not. You and mom need to put your personal feelings about dad to the side.

 

[Antigone*]

The word "trap" is so offensive. For edumacated people, y'all sure to have nasty mouths...

It is completely warranted with this poster. Check the overstepping step's history.