Mothers terminating parental rights

[ImNotYogi]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? North Carolina

In December 2008 I started dating a girl and she became pregnant. There was a situation and she wasn't sure who the father was, we broke up and she went with the other guy. Apparently they got an in utero paternity test and he isn't the father, so she got in contact with me saying we can get a paternity test but she doesn't want to be a parent and will give up parental rights.

How easy will it be for her to terminate her rights and can she come back later on seeking visitations, rights etc?

Since she isn't an addict, dealer, etc, how hard will it be for me to get full custody?

Thanks in advance.

 

[Antigone*]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? North Carolina

In December 2008 I started dating a girl and she became pregnant. There was a situation and she wasn't sure who the father was, we broke up and she went with the other guy. Apparently they got an in utero paternity test and he isn't the father, so she got in contact with me saying we can get a paternity test but she doesn't want to be a parent and will give up parental rights.

How easy will it be for her to terminate her rights and can she come back later on seeking visitations, rights etc?

Since she isn't an addict, dealer, etc, how hard will it be for me to get full custody?

Thanks in advance.

How old and where is the baby now?

 

[ImNotYogi]

I'm 21 and the mother is 22. The baby is due in late November.

 

[CJane]

I'm willing to bet that they did NOT get a paternity test yet. There's NO WAY to do a pre-birth test that isn't invasive and risky.

 

[Artemis_ofthe_Hunt]

I'm willing to bet that they did NOT get a paternity test yet. There's NO WAY to do a pre-birth test that isn't invasive and risky.

Invasive and risky yes, but he DID say that she doesn't want to be a parent... Its possible... if you don't care.

 

[ecmst12]

She can give you full custody but she can't sign away her rights unless you were married and your wife was willing to adopt the baby.

 

[LdiJ]

Invasive and risky yes, but he DID say that she doesn't want to be a parent... Its possible... if you don't care.

You would have to find a doctor who was willing to do it...and there is almost no way that you would find a doctor willing to do an amnio on a 21 year old. The doctor wouldn't want that liability.

Potential dad needs to wait until the baby is born and then find out if he is the daddy, and take it from there.

 

[Artemis_ofthe_Hunt]

You would have to find a doctor who was willing to do it...and there is almost no way that you would find a doctor willing to do an amnio on a 21 year old. The doctor wouldn't want that liability.

Potential dad needs to wait until the baby is born and then find out if he is the daddy, and take it from there.

Thats not the point I was trying to make. It was said that it wasn't possible to do a DNA previous to birth. It IS possible. I never said that it would likely to find a doctor to perform the procedure, only that it was possible. You wouldn't think that you'd be able to find a doctor to perform a partial birth abortion either.

But yes, I agree that he should wait until after the birth to push the DNA testing.

 

[nextwife]

Thats not the point I was trying to make. It was said that it wasn't possible to do a DNA previous to birth. It IS possible. I never said that it would likely to find a doctor to perform the procedure, only that it was possible. You wouldn't think that you'd be able to find a doctor to perform a partial birth abortion either.

But yes, I agree that he should wait until after the birth to push the DNA testing.

The DNA test could heave been done secondary to an amnio or CVS test done for a different reason. CVS can be done earlier than can an amnio. If genetic material had been obtained for some other reason, DNA testing could have also been done on it with no additional risk.. We have no idea if this woman has a family genetic history that might warrant such a test.

 

[Artemis_ofthe_Hunt]

The DNA test could heave been done secondary to an amnio or CVS test done for a different reason. CVS can be done earlier than can an amnio. If genetic material had been obtained for some other reason, DNA testing could have also been done on it with no additional risk.. We have no idea if this woman has a family genetic history that might warrant such a test.

Having had an amnio myself, I don't recommend it to ANYONE. However if its necessary, as mine was, the inherent risks of the amnio needle, plus the fact that it can push a woman into contractions, are very large considerations.

 

[nextwife]

One can get access to genetic material now without an amnio. I had a CVS test done. (for good reason). Chorionic villus sampling (CVS) takes a small piece of the placenta.

http://www.webmd.com/baby/chorionic-villus-sampling-cvs

"Chorionic villi are tiny finger-shaped growths found in the placenta. The genetic material in chorionic villus cells is the same as that in the baby's cells. During CVS, a sample of the chorionic villus cells is taken for biopsy. The chorionic villus cells are checked for problems. The procedure is generally done late in the first trimester, most often between the 10th and 12th weeks."

 

[ImNotYogi]

I should clarify. I was told that a paternity test was done, I haven't seen any evidence of it. I'll be getting a test done when the baby arrives.