dad says he's taking daughter to chiropractor

[californiamom3]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? CA
Dad and I have split legal. I have physical. Dad has visitations one diner per week and every other Sunday.
16 year old Daughter has been experiencing headaches. She also complains of poor vision.
She has an eye appointment next week.
Dad wrote to tell me that he's taking her to a chiropractor.
I told him that I would not agree to such treatment at this time.
Dad wrote, "Fine, I will take her to get analyzed but not treated."
I suppose there's no harm in getting analyzed. Except for I have no doubt the chiropractor will convince our daughter that she needs to be treated by him to correct her headaches.
Do dad and I have to agree on a visit or just treatment?

 

[Rushia]

Is there some reason you really object to a chiropractor? I've found that they can relieve some severe headaches I've had. Your neck muscles get pinched and twisted and it can offer some relief.

I know this isn't LEGAL advice, but just wanted to give a thought.

 

[californiamom3]

Is there some reason you really object to a chiropractor? I've found that they can relieve some severe headaches I've had. Your neck muscles get pinched and twisted and it can offer some relief.

I know this isn't LEGAL advice, but just wanted to give a thought.

It's a matter of personal opinion. I don't think that a chiropractor should be the first line of treatment for headaches. As I said, she complains of poor vision as well.
She will go to the eye Dr. and we can go from there.
Dad and I both have a right to our opinions. If we don't agree, then what?

 

[ecmst12]

What does your court order say?

 

[Proserpina]

Is there some reason you really object to a chiropractor? I've found that they can relieve some severe headaches I've had. Your neck muscles get pinched and twisted and it can offer some relief.

I know this isn't LEGAL advice, but just wanted to give a thought.

Ack...again, this isn't legal advice, but I have a rather nasty taste of chiropractors in my mouth. My other half swears by his, but I unfortunately watched a relative suffer a stroke at the hands of an inept chiropractor.

OP, your husband and you really want to try and have the cause of those headaches diagnosed before anything else - and a chiropractor is not going to be able to do this alone. If the cause is benign then absolutely, consider the various possible treatment options. But diagnosis is the first step.

 

[californiamom3]

My apologies..."dad" is my Ex. LOL!
There is nothing specific in the order about about who makes decisions on medical care.
I assumed that when parents have 50/50 legal they must decide on these things together.
I have been the sole legal/physical for 6 years until recently. I am new to this sharing thing.
Obviously we need to get "super specific" during our next hearing.
So...legally where do we stand on this?

 

[LdiJ]

My apologies..."dad" is my Ex. LOL!
There is nothing specific in the order about about who makes decisions on medical care.
I assumed that when parents have 50/50 legal they must decide on these things together.
I have been the sole legal/physical for 6 years until recently. I am new to this sharing thing.
Obviously we need to get "super specific" during our next hearing.
So...legally where do we stand on this?

I would seriously object to chiropractic treatment at this point...I would even let the chiropractor know that you do not agree to any treatment.

 

[Isis1]

My apologies..."dad" is my Ex. LOL!
There is nothing specific in the order about about who makes decisions on medical care.
I assumed that when parents have 50/50 legal they must decide on these things together.
I have been the sole legal/physical for 6 years until recently. I am new to this sharing thing.
Obviously we need to get "super specific" during our next hearing.
So...legally where do we stand on this?

legally, dad is capable of having a consult.

personally, i hate chiropracters. i cannot stand the sound of bones snapping. okay, i KNOW the bones aren't really snapping, but it really freaks me out. but i did go to one at one time. i yelped everytime that man touched me. it was NOT relaxing. but that pinched nerved was finally relaxed.

so go to the consult WITH dad. schedule an appointment for two weeks after the eye appointment, and go from there.

 

[Ohiogal]

Did you get dad's input about taking her to an eye doctor? Or did you just decide that is where she would be going and what type of treatment she would get? Do you expect to have the say so about all treatment?

Regarding this:

I would seriously object to chiropractic treatment at this point...I would even let the chiropractor know that you do not agree to any treatment.

Therefore dad should IMMEDIATELY be on the phone to the eye doctor and state that he does NOT agree to any treatment with said practitioner. After all, they don't agree and mom is not the supreme being here.

 

[Ohiogal]

legally, dad is capable of having a consult.

personally, i hate chiropracters. i cannot stand the sound of bones snapping. okay, i KNOW the bones aren't really snapping, but it really freaks me out. but i did go to one at one time. i yelped everytime that man touched me. it was NOT relaxing. but that pinched nerved was finally relaxed.

so go to the consult WITH dad. schedule an appointment for two weeks after the eye appointment, and go from there.

Really? Mom gets to schedule an appointment and dad doesn't? They have JOINT legal. Seriously.

 

[Isis1]

Really? Mom gets to schedule an appointment and dad doesn't? They have JOINT legal. Seriously.

i'm confused. i never said dad couldn't make an appointment

 

[LdiJ]

Really? Mom gets to schedule an appointment and dad doesn't? They have JOINT legal. Seriously.

There is still a lot of doubt out there about chiropractic visits, even in the mainstream medical community. Insurance often doesn't cover them as a result of this doubt.

You KNOW this, therefore its gratuitious for you to make those kinds of comparisions.

 

[CJane]

There is still a lot of doubt out there about chiropractic visits, even in the mainstream medical community. Insurance often doesn't cover them as a result of this doubt.

You KNOW this, therefore its gratuitious for you to make those kinds of comparisions.

I've NEVER had an insurance policy that doesn't cover chiropractic. Ever.

And they ARE my first line of treatment for all sorts of ailments because I KNOW that they work FOR ME and that a "mainstream doctor" would prescribe narcotics for the type of chronic pain I experience.

That said, I think it's silly to even fight over it. Dad wants chiropractic, Mom wants the eye doctor. So totally not a hill to die on, and unless the order specifically states that treatment must be agreed upon in advance, Mom would be out of line to prohibit child from seeing/being treated by a chiropractor or any other practitioner dad chooses.

 

[Proserpina]

There is still a lot of doubt out there about chiropractic visits, even in the mainstream medical community. Insurance often doesn't cover them as a result of this doubt.

You KNOW this, therefore its gratuitious for you to make those kinds of comparisions.

I didn't read it that way at all - the only comparison made was between it being OK for Mom to schedule an appointment but not for Dad. The nature of the appointments didn't appear to be the point at all.

 

[californiamom3]

Eye appointment is a regular check up that just happens to coincide with the headaches. Dad does not disapprove of this eye appointment.

I looked over the order.
It says that the mediators recommendation is to be granted.
"Joint legal custody. That the parties shall share and have access to information as medical, dental, school records etc. Ms. ___ shall make copies of notices/documents that Mr. ___ should be made aware of as report cards, school meetings, wrestling schedule, etc."
It doesn't say anything about who makes the decisions regarding medical care.
As I said, I assumed that when parents have 50/50, things such as this need to be agreed upon by both parents.