are you kidding?

[obxsurf]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Virginia

I've posted before about dad missing time. He just sent me a text saying he can't take our daughter until Saturday...court order says Friday at six to Sunday at six. Do I have to allow this switch?

I don't want to be seen by the court as not willing to compromise but this is out of hand. Bottomline can I get in trouble for not turning her over Saturday?

Thanks so much

 

[Zigner]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Virginia

I've posted before about dad missing time. He just sent me a text saying he can't take our daughter until Saturday...court order says Friday at six to Sunday at six. Do I have to allow this switch?

I don't want to be seen by the court as not willing to compromise but this is out of hand. Bottomline can I get in trouble for not turning her over Saturday?

Thanks so much

What reason could you have for NOT allowing it? Are you trying to prove a point of some sort?

 

[Just Blue]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Virginia

I've posted before about dad missing time. He just sent me a text saying he can't take our daughter until Saturday...court order says Friday at six to Sunday at six. Do I have to allow this switch?

I don't want to be seen by the court as not willing to compromise but this is out of hand. Bottomline can I get in trouble for not turning her over Saturday?

Thanks so much

Yes...If he is coming to get the child within HIS TIME then you must provide the child to him. If it is something that happens VERY often then go back to court for a modification of custody.

 

[obxsurf]

Proving a point to him?

No. Not at all. If you review my prior post, you will see that this is not an isolated incident. I've sucked it up and have tried to take the high road for our daughter's sake. I'm trying to follow the court order as written. (Which he and his attorney wrote.) Why should he not?

I realize I am emotional about this, but it's been 3+ weeks since he's seen he or talked to her.

 

[Zigner]

No. Not at all. If you review my prior post, you will see that this is not an isolated incident.

Yeah...I'm not real in to digging in to past issues right now - got a lot of stuff to do.

I realize I am emotional about this, but it's been 3+ weeks since he's seen he or talked to her.

Then, wouldn't it be a GOOD thing to be accommodating so that your child can see her father?

 

[ProSeDadinMD]

I realize I am emotional about this, but it's been 3+ weeks since he's seen he or talked to her.

Nice. Dad hasn't seen your child in "3+ weeks", and you want to make it longer for both him AND your child...

Sure, makes sense to me.

 

[obxsurf]

Um...

His not seeing or speaking has been is choice. Our daughter has called him, no call back. He chose not to pick her up his last scheduled visitation weekend.

For prosedad I'm not trying to take his time. He takes it from himself**************.by choice.

 

[ProSeDadinMD]

His not seeing or speaking has been is choice. Our daughter has called him, no call back. He chose not to pick her up his last scheduled visitation weekend.

For prosedad I'm not trying to take his time. He takes it from himself**************.by choice.

Well, in this instance, you are trying to take it.

And I quote:

I've posted before about dad missing time. He just sent me a text saying he can't take our daughter until Saturday...court order says Friday at six to Sunday at six. Do I have to allow this switch?

I don't want to be seen by the court as not willing to compromise but this is out of hand. Bottomline can I get in trouble for not turning her over Saturday?

 

[obxsurf]

I didn't do those asterisks

So you know. No offense intended.

 

[gr8rn]

I know it's frustrating sometimes when NCP doesn't use all his time. I have to deal with the same issues as you. But you know what? No matter how miserable that person is, our son loves his father and if HE is willing to take a part of the weekend, even though he wants to go the whole weekend, if HE is ok with it, then who am I to come in the way.
And believe me, I am grateful for the time he does spend with our son. We all need a break sometimes.
I know where you are coming from, I really do. But you have to be the bigger person and understand that Dad is not obligated to take your child, but when it is his time, he can take the whole weekend or even just a few hours and that is fine with me.

 

[obxsurf]

No I'm not

I'm confused. To any parent having these issues you say follow the court order. Now you tell me to go out of the way**************which I have in past instances.

He has forgone six weekends in the space of 5 or so months, not including the week in summer and phone calls. All of his own volition.

 

[gr8rn]

Yes, sure, we all need to follow the court orders, but realize that this is his alotted time with your daughter. He is telling you ahead of time. He is not just blowing her off, he is utilizing his time in any way so he can still have the child for a day or a few hours.
There are some on this board who have to are not being told that Dad is working all weekend and child is staying with the grandparents or the girlfriend for the day or the whole weekend.
Myself, I prefer it this way than the other.

 

[obxsurf]

Fine, fine. i get it.

Take her and suck itup some more. Will do. Doesn't change that I'm ticked for her. I wouldn't pee on him if he were on fire.....unless of course I Lee's gasoline.

 

[sometwo]

Take her and suck itup some more

If you think its worth the money and time , take it to court and get it in the order that if he's not there within 30 minutes or so of his pickup time he forfeits the time.

 

[Proserpina]

I'm confused. To any parent having these issues you say follow the court order. Now you tell me to go out of the way**************which I have in past instances.

He has forgone six weekends in the space of 5 or so months, not including the week in summer and phone calls. All of his own volition.

The thing is...

Visitation is a right, not an obligation. If Dad wishes to not use his parenting time he's not going to be forced to do so... on the other hand if he does want to see her you are obliged to allow it according to the order. It might seem one-sided but truly - it's not.