Rude Posters.....

[Isis1]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? USA

me too!

I have noticed since I have been posting on here for a short period of time that some of the posters on here are just plain rude!! I say if you are not on here to help someone and give them positive advice than find another forum to spread your rudeness.

too late. most of us ARE on other forums. we love spreading knowledge. and gaining additional knowledge in the process.

I know a lot of us come on sites like this to get advice and maybe just someone to talk to about our situation. And then all you get is people trying to twist what you have said and call you a bad parent!

then stop taking it personal and learn to be a BETTER parent. for the sake of the child.

Well I am not a bad parent by any means and I know there are a lot of good parents on here that get the same types of responses as I do and get down and think they are doing something wrong.

maybe they are. maybe they can do something better to enrich the lives of the children???

Well you are not!! Do not listen to the people who are on here to catch you saying something wrong or tell you you did the wrong thing!! They don't know!!

telling people to NOT listen to legal advice? are you trying ot make sure everyone loses their children?

That was just proven to me in my last response from some "poster". I think it is funny but I know there are others on here who might take these responses to heart and I am here to say DON'T!! Please!!

i hope everyone DOES take it to heart. there is nothing more powerful then changing who you are, for the betterment of an innocent child.

We are not all bad!! Some of us really do love our children!!

no one is calling anyone bad. love your children? then act like it.

 

[drama247]

As was proven to me the past couple of days, some posters here have a certain know-it-all arrogance that is really over-the-top. People think that hiding behind the anonymity of the internet gives them a free pass to be a sarcastic a-hole.

So I know exactly what you mean. Manners have gone out the window.

 

[boriley]

me too!



too late. most of us ARE on other forums. we love spreading knowledge. and gaining additional knowledge in the process.



then stop taking it personal and learn to be a BETTER parent. for the sake of the child.



maybe they are. maybe they can do something better to enrich the lives of the children???



telling people to NOT listen to legal advice? are you trying ot make sure everyone loses their children?



i hope everyone DOES take it to heart. there is nothing more powerful then changing who you are, for the betterment of an innocent child.



no one is calling anyone bad. love your children? then act like it.

Thank you for proving my very point IsabellaSoriano!!

You cannot judge everyone on a forum bc maybe you had a bad experience!! That is my point!! This is not a place to bash people but to help; you are right!! So if you have legal advice then give your "legal advice" but please make sure it is correct and also in a way that people won't take it wrong.

 

[drama247]

telling people to NOT listen to legal advice? are you trying ot make sure everyone loses their children?

It's not the legal advice that is being provided that is in question. It is the additional crap that is irrelevant and insanely rude. Not just with me, but with a LOT of the posters on here, people are assuming things based on a few typed lines of information. Ask the questions, get the answers, and go by only the info given. Assume nothing. It helps no one.

 

[boriley]

And if anyone thinks I am wrong by saying this then I will be happy to take it down but it is just very irritating dealing with close minded people.

Thanks

 

[boriley]

It's not the legal advice that is being provided that is in question. It is the additional crap that is irrelevant and insanely rude. Not just with me, but with a LOT of the posters on here, people are assuming things based on a few typed lines of information. Ask the questions, get the answers, and go by only the info given. Assume nothing. It helps no one.

Amen!!! I am not on here to be told I am lying! I am here to get advice!! Which I have from a few very nice posters and I appreciate that!

 

[txmom512]

Been a Long time lurker...
Yes - there are a few who have been in rare form these past few days.

It goes in phases. I think they all get PMS at the same time...

 

[boriley]

Been a Long time lurker...
Yes - there are a few who have been in rare form these past few days.

It goes in phases. I think they all get PMS at the same time...

I have only been on here for a couple days and I am like man this is crazy how I am accused of lying and did the wrong thing! Insane to me!!

 

[Isis1]

Thank you for proving my very point IsabellaSoriano!!

You cannot judge everyone on a forum bc maybe you had a bad experience!! That is my point!! This is not a place to bash people but to help; you are right!! So if you have legal advice then give your "legal advice" but please make sure it is correct and also in a way that people won't take it wrong.

WRONG! i didn't have a bad experience. i had a wonderful experience. i got jumped on by OG my first day. but i also was able to take my own head out of my own rear and listen. i'm stubborn. if i'm wrong, i want to know WHY. i'm a better person because of it. i can handle the stress better.

you don't want to learn? you don't want to be a better parent? that's on you. poor kids.

 

[boriley]

WRONG! i didn't have a bad experience. i had a wonderful experience. i got jumped on by OG my first day. but i also was able to take my own head out of my own rear and listen. i'm stubborn. if i'm wrong, i want to know WHY. i'm a better person because of it. i can handle the stress better.

you don't want to learn? you don't want to be a better parent? that's on you. poor kids.

Oh my!! You are so bitter honey!! Please just try to relax!! Look at what you write please and I think others will agree with me that you are just plain RUDE!!

 

[ProSeDadinMD]

... People think that hiding behind the anonymity of the internet gives them a free pass to be a sarcastic a-hole.
.

Hey, I resemble that remark. But it's ok, I am the same way in real life too.

Most of the time, it really is the person posting the thread that is driving any "bashing", thru attitude, and not being willing to listen to the advice that they actually are getting.

Plus, it's always nice when somebody gets 3 pages of the same, legally sound, advice that they don't want to agree with and argues against, only to rail on with the "thank you, thank you so much" to the 1 poster who tells them what they want to hear.

 

[drama247]

WRONG! i didn't have a bad experience. i had a wonderful experience. i got jumped on by OG my first day. but i also was able to take my own head out of my own rear and listen. i'm stubborn. if i'm wrong, i want to know WHY. i'm a better person because of it. i can handle the stress better.

you don't want to learn? you don't want to be a better parent? that's on you. poor kids.

This is exactly what OP is talking about. You are twisting her words. Just because she does not want to be condescended to, you are telling her she doesn't want to learn and be a better parent. How in the world does one even make that jump in reasoning?!

 

[BL]

You're not the first one ,nor will be the last to post about perceived rudeness , etc.

You also generalize your statements .

If you think the ones here that post good legal advice on here or rude along with the advice , take it preparation of what you may encounter from the Judge and opposing lawyers in a court hearing/trial .

Emotions are not taken into account in the decisions made Family Law - generally speaking .

Plus read this : Remember garbage in - garbage out .


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[drama247]

If you think the ones here that post good legal advice on here or rude along with the advice , take it preparation of what you may encounter from the Judge and opposing lawyers in a court hearing/trial .

But see, no one is looking for courtroom practice when they come here. They are looking for advice. Not interrogation, not character attacks. Save it for the courtroom. The people in the actual courtroom when that time comes will be much better informed than a bunch of internet strangers, so any negativity at THAT time might actually be warranted.

 

[Isis1]

This is exactly what OP is talking about. You are twisting her words. Just because she does not want to be condescended to, you are telling her she doesn't want to learn and be a better parent. How in the world does one even make that jump in reasoning?!

because when a poster is so busy defending themselves, instead of taking a step back and looking at themselves, they aren't here for their children. they are here to justify their own actions. it's very telling.

if you think this is condecending, WAIT until you as an overstepping stepparent walks in front of a judge. it's not pretty. i've seen stepparents removed out of a courtroom by a bailiff. i've seen stepparents removed out of the mediation waiting room because they felt entitled to have their say.

worst of all, i've seen children caught in the confusion admist all the angry adults. THAT my friend is our purpose. to get parents to stop treating their children like pawns. to open their eyes.