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[supersweett03]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Nevada

I just recently found out my husband has been having an affair on me. We live in Nevada. We have a 2 year old daughter together. I decided to get away for the weekend and have been staying with my parents in Oregon. I plan on moving back home with my parents. My question is where do I file for child support? We plan on getting a divorce but he has not been talking to me and I am a stay at home mom and have no income coming in right now?

 

[Proserpina]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Nevada

I just recently found out my husband has been having an affair on me. We live in Nevada. We have a 2 year old daughter together. I decided to get away for the weekend and have been staying with my parents in Oregon. I plan on moving back home with my parents. My question is where do I file for child support? We plan on getting a divorce but he has not been talking to me and I am a stay at home mom and have no income coming in right now?

Is Dad ok with you moving kiddo to Oregon?

 

[Banned_Princess]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Nevada

We live in Nevada

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then you need to file for divorce in nevada

We have a 2 year old daughter together. I decided to get away for the weekend and have been staying with my parents in Oregon.

did you leave the child with your husband?

I plan on moving back home with my parents

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does your husband agree you can take your child to live in oregon?

My question is where do I file for child support?

no, you file for divorce, and custody and visitation and CS will be ordered at that time.

We plan on getting a divorce but he has not been talking to me and I am a stay at home mom and have no income coming in right now?

too bad, you need a divorce.

 

[supersweett03]

right now he doesnt care about child custody. His main focus was what he wanted outta the house. Other than that he has not asked about his daughter or seen her and I havent heard from him since..... so do I go to the courthouse in the town we lived together in and file through them??? Or should I file in Oregon since i plan on staying here?

 

[Proserpina]

right now he doesnt care about child custody. His main focus was what he wanted outta the house. Other than that he has not asked about his daughter or seen her and I havent heard from him since..... so do I go to the courthouse in the town we lived together in and file through them??? Or should I file in Oregon since i plan on staying here?

You cannot file in Oregon until you meet the residency requirements.

You need to file where you're currently living. Count on Dad objecting to the move.

 

[supersweett03]

thank you. you have been answering all my questions. I appreciate it. So in order to file for child support-do we have to be legally separeted or divorced first??? Because as of right now im not receiving any money from him... and im not sure where to go to get all the papers? I dont think he will fight for child custody just because he has never been alone with our daughter. If I ever needed to go to the store or anything I would have to take her because he would never watch her for the 10 or 20 minutes id be gone.

 

[Proserpina]

thank you. you have been answering all my questions. I appreciate it. So in order to file for child support-do we have to be legally separeted or divorced first??? Because as of right now im not receiving any money from him... and im not sure where to go to get all the papers? I dont think he will fight for child custody just because he has never been alone with our daughter. If I ever needed to go to the store or anything I would have to take her because he would never watch her for the 10 or 20 minutes id be gone.

Fighting for custody is one thing, but if Dad finds out (and generally you WILL need permission from either him or the courts to move out of state with the child) that kiddo will be so far away I can see him filing to prevent you from moving the child - you of course need no permission to move yourself.

You'll also need to be working eventually; though the NCP will be paying child support (as a rule) spousal support is virtually guaranteed to be zero unless it's a long-term marriage (at least 10 years) in Nevada.

The law library of the Nevada Supreme Court has some really good resources for going pro se (without an attorney); check out the site, as it has links according to which county you're in:

http://lawlibrary.nvsupremecourt.us/selfHelp/resourcesSelf.php

 

[Just Blue]

thank you. you have been answering all my questions. I appreciate it. So in order to file for child support-do we have to be legally separeted or divorced first??? Because as of right now im not receiving any money from him... and im not sure where to go to get all the papers? I dont think he will fight for child custody just because he has never been alone with our daughter. If I ever needed to go to the store or anything I would have to take her because he would never watch her for the 10 or 20 minutes id be gone.

If you are given permission to move the child, plan on paying all transportation for Dad's visitation.

 

[Banned_Princess]

If you are given permission to move the child, plan on paying all transportation for Dad's visitation.

At least.

 

[supersweett03]

yeah i have been trying to find a cheap way to go about this. I cant afford attorney fees right now. I plan i going back to school an we were only married for 3 years.

 

[Just Blue]

yeah i have been trying to find a cheap way to go about this. I cant afford attorney fees right now. I plan i going back to school an we were only married for 3 years.

Make sure that you go to night school...You will need to work to support your child. Both you and Dad are responsible for the child's care. Plus you will need to pay for the transportation for visitation.

 

[RockMomster]

I left the Las Vegas area in 2001 with many of the same issues you are having. I was a stay-at-home mom, one child, family far away and a jerk husband who was unfaithful. My husband never took care of our son when we lived together, so my moving 2,000 miles away didn't matter. He made a bunch of noise about visitation and had paragraphs crafted in the final decree that would "protect" his access to The Boy which turned out to be a lot of sound a fury signifying nothing. The removal of me and The Boy allowed him to freely flourish in his new lifestyle. He made a big deal about "allowing" me to move to NC with The Boy. Yeah. Whatever. I did start a little Word document - just two columns, one for the date and one for the action - and I made a notation every time he missed a visit. I also wrote down everything I could remember from every communication with him, especially dates, times and anyone else who witnessed the communication. I did have to put my son on a plane ONE time to travel back to NV, but that was because his Nana had enough gambling credits to comp a ticket, not because my ex had any money. Get your child support payments handled by the Nevada Division of Welfare Child Support Enforcement Program and keep records yourself. When my ex did stop paying, these notes and records were crucial to having court matters settled in The Boy's favor. Even if he doesn't start paying right away, your folks aren't going to let your baby starve and he will be accruing and arrearage. I don't know what county you're in, but Clark County has a really great Family Law Self Help Center. They will also answer a few general questions by telephone just to point you in the right direction. In divorce, here are so many steps that seem important to us as mothers that seem to come AFTER matters that seem less important issues. It's a process - it's a far from perfect process.

 

[RockMomster]

Welcome to the Clark County Courts in Las Vegas

 

[supersweett03]

thank you! I live elko. Or did...The computer im on wont let me go to that website but i will try to find a way to get into it. Im really hoping that I can find a way to get help soon. Because as of right now im very low on cash and I have no vechicle. He has both of ours and tried to make me take the one that we owe money on...And he kept saying that if I took it he would continue to make the payments but hes been lying so much that i did not believe him and its not exactly liable-we constantly have it in the shop and i have tons of receipts that i kept to prove it. I would have taken the one that was paid off except the title was in his name-so i just thought that maybe the courts could figure all that stuff out eventually.