Overnights with newborn

[Nicaho]

Oh honey, this is painfully simple.

If you wanted the exact same rights as Mom to see your child, you should have married Mom.

It's painful, and it hurts, but it's also the truth...y'know?

That was the plan! And yea I know. Would have probably ended up divorced soon enough but at least I would have had equal rights to my daughter.

 

[mommyof4]

Gosh I hope so, I'm in trouble if it's not....wedding is next fall and still no babies!

Congratulations on your upcoming marriage.

 

[CJane]

Don't be sorry for having questions.

And don't let the Ubermommie-types here rolleyes:) freak you out: you are not "creepy" for wanting to see and spend time with your newborn child. It's just a double standard of theirs -- you don't need to take on their unfair and unkind attitudes. The Ubermommies would see nothing "creepy" about another of their sort wanting to spend time "bonding" with the baby. Only Dads are "creepy" to them. Evaluate their crud for what it's worth.

Go forth and be the best Daddy you can be.

Wow. Thanks. Don't think I've ever, in several years on this site, been called an "ubermommie-type", nor had what I've posted been called crud.

 

[Silverplum]

Wow. Thanks. Don't think I've ever, in several years on this site, been called an "ubermommie-type", nor had what I've posted been called crud.

Sure you have. We all have.

That's not the point. The point is that he wanted to see his newborn, and all the Mommies jumped on him and called him creepy. That's just wrong.

 

[CJane]

Sure you have. We all have.

That's not the point. The point is that he wanted to see his newborn, and all the Mommies jumped on him and called him creepy. That's just wrong.

I called him creepy first. And no, NOT because he wants to see his newborn, but because he thinks he has the RIGHT to ask Mom not to have her current BF/husband/whatever there with HER after giving birth because HE wants to spend the night.

In MY world, all three times I gave birth, the babies weren't out of my room for more than the time it took for me to take a shower. I wouldn't want my EX there with me/the baby the whole time.

It IS creepy. They broke up for a reason, and while I think it's GREAT that he wants to step up and actually BE a Dad, his request to spend the night in Mom's room with no one else present is WEIRD and CREEPY.

Fo' Sho'.

 

[frylover]

I'm just wondering why it's such a horrible thing to be "mom-centric" as so many here are accused of, but it's perfectly OK to be "dad-centric?"

 

[mommyof4]

I'm just wondering why it's such a horrible thing to be "mom-centric" as so many here are accused of, but it's perfectly OK to be "dad-centric?"

Well...as for me? I'm not Mom-centric or Dad-centric.

I'm CHILD-centric.

If that ticks of Moms or Dads, too bad. I view it as kinda' proving the point that Mom's or Dad's first priority is not the child, but herself or himself.