X tried to pick kis up from school today

[jenndun]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? tx

Our divorce papers say that x is to have the kids 6pm friday - 6pm sunday. Because of past issues when I enrolled the kids into school this year I did not put him down becuase I knew this could happen. Turns out he tried to pick them up today. The school made him go get his papers and by the time he got back the kids were out and at daycare. How do I keep him from doing this again. We have joint cust. with me as the CP. I have only kept them from him once in two years and that was last visit after some issues with the kids health. I was waiting on the CPS investagation to be finished. I ended up letting the kids go this time. And know I have to until we go back to court and can change things. I just don't want him take them from school and I not get them back. Thanks

 

[wileybunch]

He didn't get the kids per the school's policy (the reason why you didn't list him as a pick up person) so end of story.

 

[Proserpina]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? tx

Our divorce papers say that x is to have the kids 6pm friday - 6pm sunday. Because of past issues when I enrolled the kids into school this year I did not put him down becuase I knew this could happen. Turns out he tried to pick them up today. The school made him go get his papers and by the time he got back the kids were out and at daycare. How do I keep him from doing this again. We have joint cust. with me as the CP. I have only kept them from him once in two years and that was last visit after some issues with the kids health. I was waiting on the CPS investagation to be finished. I ended up letting the kids go this time. And know I have to until we go back to court and can change things. I just don't want him take them from school and I not get them back. Thanks

Did you talk to him about it?

 

[jenndun]

I tried but he just laughed about it. They did let him add himself as a contact after he showed them his paper. I know he will try this again so it is not the end of the story. The only reason he was not able to take them is because they had left for the day.

 

[PQN]

???

So he tried to pick them up at 3:00pm-ish instead of 6pm??? I think you are overreacting.

 

[xxnatalixx]

So he tried to pick them up at 3:00pm-ish instead of 6pm??? I think you are overreacting.

As a mother who's had this happen, I understand. When my son did not get off the bus, I had no idea where he was or what had happend . It was quite scary.

 

[PQN]

true

As a mother who's had this happen, I understand. When my son did not get off the bus, I had no idea where he was or what had happend . It was quite scary.

Yes, that would be scary. I didn't think of showing up to get them and them being gone. Sorry.

Maybe you can put a note on their school file that the school needs to call you if dad picks them up. Or maybe set it up so he picks them up from school so they can skip daycare that day?

 

[starting over]

Yes, that would be scary. I didn't think of showing up to get them and them being gone. Sorry.

Maybe you can put a note on their school file that the school needs to call you if dad picks them up. Or maybe set it up so he picks them up from school so they can skip daycare that day?

I have a very strong opinion on this and Im having one of those days. Although Dad has a right to pick up his children from school, he really is only alloted that if Mom is in agreement. According to the order, Dad does not get the children for visitation until 6pm.

If Dad chooses to risk court proceedings by picking up the chldren outside his parenting time, then I guess in a way, that is a choice he's making. But at the very minimum, he should communicate the childrens whereabouts to Mom for safety reasons. I don't think the school or daycare should bear this responsibliity (even though I would still request they contact me)

Just my 2 cents. Personally, not legally, the first time I found out that Dad just took them & made me worry**************well, just use your imagination

 

[wileybunch]

I tried but he just laughed about it. They did let him add himself as a contact after he showed them his paper. I know he will try this again so it is not the end of the story. The only reason he was not able to take them is because they had left for the day.

OK, you probably should have said that in your first post.

Make it clear to Dad in writing what his parenting time is and that if he picks the child up early or returns the child late without a prior agreement from you, then that would be a violation of the court order you will pursue through the court.

That said, do you have a major objection why dad can't pick child up at that time on the day he gets child? Is there something you two can work out since Dad has the child that evening anyway?

 

[Ohiogal]

I tried but he just laughed about it. They did let him add himself as a contact after he showed them his paper. I know he will try this again so it is not the end of the story. The only reason he was not able to take them is because they had left for the day.

YOu just caused YOURSELF problems. The ONLY WAY you can stop him from picking the children up at school is to get a court order prohibiting him from picking the children up at school. The fact that you didn't list dad as DAD is an issue for you. Dad can make trouble for that. If dad does pick up the children at school, you file contempt.