Travel Holiday Woes, AGAIN ...

[Proserpina]

I know it's late, and you've maybe already sent your email, but here's my .02.

Explaining yourself so thoroughly only makes it sound like you feel the need to explain yourself... which only happens when you know you're in the wrong. Right?

So why not do as Wiley said and leave it at:

It is my job to arrange flights. Judge XXXX was exceedingly unhappy with kiddo flying to either of our homes very late at night, and so there are no options other than first flight on Saturday, as it's important that she miss no more school than is absolutely necessary.

End of story.

Or I coulda just said ditto CJane lol

 

[TinkerBelleLuvr]

Here's the revised going out today

I listened to y'all on this:

The attorney sent out a copy of the order for review back in September with a seven-day window that allowed for any corrections. This was sent to BOTH parties at their address on record. After three weeks, with no response, the order was submitted to the judge for signature. I will resend you a copy of the one signed by the judge.

I am tired of listening you lambaste my attorney about court orders that were NOT written by her. If you were to READ the rules, you would KNOW that it was the REFEREE who wrote the 2004 order.

Your reference to the 21-day rule does NOT apply since we were in front of a judge, and not a referee.

It is my job to arrange flights. Judge xxxxxx was exceedingly unhappy with SweetPea flying to either of our homes very late at night, and so there are no options other than first flight on Saturday, as it's important that she miss no more school than is absolutely necessary.

In addition, I would like to remind you of all the troubles we had two years ago with the inclement weather that caused SweetPea's flight to be delayed overnight. I am not comfortable with her traveling on a last-flight-of-the-day when we are talking possible snowstorms up there. If necessary, we can stay in Further Airport more comfortably during the day until a flight can leave in the event of a snowstorm.

If you can convince the Friend of the Court that Friday is reasonable, then I'll reconsider my choice. Until then, my ticket stands. Since you have replied to me from the eticket sent by Favorite Airlines, you have all the necessary information for pickup.

Signed,

Oh most reasonable one

 

[TinkerBelleLuvr]

Let me clarify that my note to Friend of the Court will be elaborate, like the first draft. I will also include the flight schedules.

 

[wileybunch]

IMO, this is too emotional.

How about:

A few things:

The attorney sent out a copy of the order for review back in September with a seven-day window that allowed for any corrections. This was sent to both parties at their address on record. After three weeks, with no response, the order was submitted to the judge for signature. I will resend you a copy of the one signed by the judge. Since we were in front of a judge, not a referee, your reference to the 21-day rule is not correct.

Per the court order, I arrange flights. SweetPea is ticketed on the first flight after she gets out of school for her holiday break, keeping in mind that Judge xxxxxx expects us to use good judgment and not have SweetPea on flights that have her landing very late at night and that taking the last flight of the day has been an issue in the past with inclement weather.

If you pursue this with the Friend of the Court and they seem that Friday is reasonable, then I'll reconsider my choice. Otherwise, I have sent you the eticket sent by Favorite Airlines so you have all the necessary information to pick up SweatPea.

Thanks in advance,

Frustrated Mother That's So Glad She's no Longer Married to You

 

[Artemis_ofthe_Hunt]

IMO, this is too emotional.

How about:

A few things:

The attorney sent out a copy of the order for review back in September with a seven-day window that allowed for any corrections. This was sent to both parties at their address on record. After three weeks, with no response, the order was submitted to the judge for signature. I will resend you a copy of the one signed by the judge. Since we were in front of a judge, not a referee, your reference to the 21-day rule is not correct.

Per the court order, I arrange flights. SweetPea is ticketed on the first flight after she gets out of school for her holiday break, keeping in mind that Judge xxxxxx expects us to use good judgment and not have SweetPea on flights that have her landing very late at night and that taking the last flight of the day has been an issue in the past with inclement weather.

If you pursue this with the Friend of the Court and they seem that Friday is reasonable, then I'll reconsider my choice. Otherwise, I have sent you the eticket sent by Favorite Airlines so you have all the necessary information to pick up SweatPea.

Thanks in advance,

Frustrated Mother That's So Glad She's no Longer Married to You

OH I LOVE that part!

 

[TinkerBelleLuvr]

OMG Wiley - thanks for the laugh!!

Love the "final" version of yours.

The reason for the lambaste para is because I have been listening to this accusation for FIVE years now. I want it on RECORD that he's WRONG. But, I will defer, AGAIN.

Thanks in advance,

Frustrated Mother That's So Glad She's no Longer Married to You

 

[CJane]

OMG Wiley - thanks for the laugh!!

Love the "final" version of yours.

The reason for the lambaste para is because I have been listening to this accusation for FIVE years now. I want it on RECORD that he's WRONG. But, I will defer, AGAIN.

The problem with that is that he's never going to ADMIT he's wrong, so you're not GAINING anything.

 

[wileybunch]

The problem with that is that he's never going to ADMIT he's wrong, so you're not GAINING anything.

Exactly.
And, does it really matter? You say the sky is blue; he says it's gray. Thank goodness you don't have to sleep with him any more.

Also keep in mind you only have to answer what really NEEDS to be answered. You don't have to prove anything that isn't really central to what needs to be accomplished.

And, if you show emotion, it lets him know he has power over you. And, he may enjoy that (some ppl are weird that way and it gives them a kick).

 

[TinkerBelleLuvr]

Update:

Talked with the FOC worker on my case. Technically, I will be violating the court order because I won't have the child in Michigan on Friday at 6 pm. In order to get her there, I have to NOT let her go to school tomorrow. Sounds perfectly logical to me - NOT.

So, I'm sticking to my original ticket and will chance having to visit the judge, AGAIN.

The worker asks me if there is any possibility of adding the back end? Nope, not unless I have to have her miss school on THAT end.

If he goes for contempt, I'll be having my attorney modify the court order that allows for me to get her as close to these times WITHOUT requiring me to have her miss school.

I find this sad because in his eyes, it's NOT about what is good for the child; it's only what's good for him.

And kiddo is now saying how she doesn't want to go while X's GF is there.

 

[LdiJ]

Update:

Talked with the FOC worker on my case. Technically, I will be violating the court order because I won't have the child in Michigan on Friday at 6 pm. In order to get her there, I have to NOT let her go to school tomorrow. Sounds perfectly logical to me - NOT.

So, I'm sticking to my original ticket and will chance having to visit the judge, AGAIN.

The worker asks me if there is any possibility of adding the back end? Nope, not unless I have to have her miss school on THAT end.

If he goes for contempt, I'll be having my attorney modify the court order that allows for me to get her as close to these times WITHOUT requiring me to have her miss school.

I find this sad because in his eyes, it's NOT about what is good for the child; it's only what's good for him.

And kiddo is now saying how she doesn't want to go while X's GF is there.

I cannot imagine the judge holding you in contempt because you cannot get her there by the time, without taking her out of school. In fact, I would try to get the order modified that she has to be there the day after she gets out of school, by 6PM.