Bad weather.

[lostd93]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? ct

Can a visit be rescheduled to a later weekend bc of bad weather? There is heavy snow and ice in forecast for tonight during transport times and a pretty far drive for all parties involved. Resistance from the father on the issue.

 

[LdiJ]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? ct

Can a visit be rescheduled to a later weekend bc of bad weather? There is heavy snow and ice in forecast for tonight during transport times and a pretty far drive for all parties involved. Resistance from the father on the issue.

Well, if dad agreed it certainly could be. If the weather is bad enough that the authorities are recommending that people avoid being on the roads unnecessarily, you would still be in contempt if dad does not agree, but a judge may view that as reasonable action on your part.

However, its morning now, and not evening...so don't make any final decisions until you know for certain the state of the weather and roads.

 

[stealth2]

Well... it IS a major winter storm coming through. Here in NJ, it's been snowing since ~6:30am, so should still be pretty light in CT. Why not ask Dad if he'd like to get the kids earlier (like.... ASAP) to avoid any seriously bad roads?

And this might be me being silly, but... this storm didn't come from nowhere. The severity has been predicted for a good two days. Wouldn't it have made sense to ask Dad if he wanted to take the kids last night or first thing this morning before now?

 

[haiku]

well its not snowing yet-have you considered an earlier drop time to get it done before the surge?

Barring that, as LDiJ says if the authorities close the roads to non emergency traffic this evening, (I'd copy it off the weather pages online) if the falther balks, you will at least have that to back you up.

 

[haiku]

Well... it IS a major winter storm coming through. Here in NJ, it's been snowing since ~6:30am, so should still be pretty light in CT. Why not ask Dad if he'd like to get the kids earlier (like.... ASAP) to avoid any seriously bad roads?

And this might be me being silly, but... this storm didn't come from nowhere. The severity has been predicted for a good two days. Wouldn't it have made sense to ask Dad if he wanted to take the kids last night or first thing this morning before now?

or I coulda said this!

 

[BL]

If the authorities issue an advisory , it means potential danger exist .

If they issue a No unnecessary travel advisory , it means stay off the road .

You would be putting your children in danger ,even if Dad stated he handled all transportation .

Be safe and don't worry .

If no advisory or a rash of off roads , then visits should go forward .

 

[Ohiogal]

Well, if dad agreed it certainly could be. If the weather is bad enough that the authorities are recommending that people avoid being on the roads unnecessarily, you would still be in contempt if dad does not agree, but a judge may view that as reasonable action on your part.

However, its morning now, and not evening...so don't make any final decisions until you know for certain the state of the weather and roads.

Actually I don't think she would be in contempt because contempt requires a willing, voluntary action/inaction on the part of the parent. Listening to the recommendations of the authorities to stay off the roads due to dangerous conditions takes that out of her hands. It would be similar to a child being in the hospital and mom not being able to take said child from the hospital to the pickup point for the other parent to pickup for their visitation time. That would not be contempt either. However there needs to be recommendations/warnings not to travel and not just mom not wanting to drive because it is snowing.

 

[lostd93]

Well... it IS a major winter storm coming through. Here in NJ, it's been snowing since ~6:30am, so should still be pretty light in CT. Why not ask Dad if he'd like to get the kids earlier (like.... ASAP) to avoid any seriously bad roads?

And this might be me being silly, but... this storm didn't come from nowhere. The severity has been predicted for a good two days. Wouldn't it have made sense to ask Dad if he wanted to take the kids last night or first thing this morning before now?

I did offer him an earlier pickup with a changed dropoff time, trying to avoid the worst of the storm and roads. Father is not interested in any change or compromise to the CO schedule.

 

[Ohiogal]

If the authorities issue an advisory , it means potential danger exist .

If they issue a No unnecessary travel advisory , it means stay off the road .

You would be putting your children in danger ,even if Dad stated he handled all transportation .

Be safe and don't worry .

If no advisory or a rash of off roads , then visits should go forward .

I should have read ahead and just cosigned this or said ditto or precisely.

Also the same with Stealth.

 

[stealth2]

Then I wouldn't sweat it.

 

[stealth2]

I do want to thank you, though, OP - you got me to thinking. My youngest is at her Dad's this w/e. We're in the NE corridor, so in the middle of the storm. She flew up yesterday and is scheduled to come home tomorrow night. Well... there are likely to be delays and cancellations, so I was thinking that maybe she should just reschedule her return until Monday. And then it occurred to me that I was really being stupid - why not just tell her to stay, as she was due to fly back up on Thursday anyway!

My son can bring her some extra clothes (or... her Dad can take her shopping) and her missed schoolwork. I can get the (school) turtle we were to watch over the break, and cover her dog-sitting jobs until she gets home.

She'll get extra time with her Dad and her grandmother who she doesn't see often.

Yes, I'll miss her, but... life's all about rolling with the punches. So thanks for making me think.

 

[lostd93]

I do want to thank you, though, OP - you got me to thinking. My youngest is at her Dad's this w/e. We're in the NE corridor, so in the middle of the storm. She flew up yesterday and is scheduled to come home tomorrow night. Well... there are likely to be delays and cancellations, so I was thinking that maybe she should just reschedule her return until Monday. And then it occurred to me that I was really being stupid - why not just tell her to stay, as she was due to fly back up on Thursday anyway!

My son can bring her some extra clothes (or... her Dad can take her shopping) and her missed schoolwork. I can get the (school) turtle we were to watch over the break, and cover her dog-sitting jobs until she gets home.

She'll get extra time with her Dad and her grandmother who she doesn't see often.

Yes, I'll miss her, but... life's all about rolling with the punches. So thanks for making me think.

I wish "dad" here was as accommodating. I emailed the entire situation, my concerns and a couple suggestions. He wont take her earlier for extra time, drop her off earlier before the worst of the storm hits, or even keep her until the storm passes by. Refuses to consider the dangers of driving in the Winter Weather Advisory that is posted now for our area. Refuses to consider any alternate plans of attack to get around the storm. He has notified me that he WILL find the time to file a police report against me and bring me to court if I dont show up though. FUN.

 

[Ohiogal]

I wish "dad" here was as accommodating. I emailed the entire situation, my concerns and a couple suggestions. He wont take her earlier for extra time, drop her off earlier before the worst of the storm hits, or even keep her until the storm passes by. Refuses to consider the dangers of driving in the Winter Weather Advisory that is posted now for our area. Refuses to consider any alternate plans of attack to get around the storm. He has notified me that he WILL find the time to file a police report against me and bring me to court if I dont show up though. FUN.

And he will get slammed by the court for his ignorance and stupidity. Print out the emails you have written him. Print out the WWA that is posted for your area. For even more evidence, take pictures with a time/date stamp of the conditions now, at the time you are supposed to leave and throughout his time. Let him know that until the storm subsides that you will not be risking your child AND that he is okay to make up his time when the storm has passed in a variety of fashions (give him choices).

 

[Hisbabygirl77]

I wish "dad" here was as accommodating. I emailed the entire situation, my concerns and a couple suggestions. He wont take her earlier for extra time, drop her off earlier before the worst of the storm hits, or even keep her until the storm passes by. Refuses to consider the dangers of driving in the Winter Weather Advisory that is posted now for our area. Refuses to consider any alternate plans of attack to get around the storm. He has notified me that he WILL find the time to file a police report against me and bring me to court if I dont show up though. FUN.

Since Im in Arizona and its a great 70 degrees outside I don't know how bad the weather is lol but since I do see the weather channel I would say that the judge would seriously fault the DAD for not taking his child's safety in mind. Let dad file the police report and explain to the judge why his child safety wasn't worth any compromise and save the Emails.

 

[ecmst12]

Coparenting means being flexible.