refuses to call me mom

[hugemistake]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? mo

i called my daughter last night for her birthday. she kept calling me by my name and i would tell her i am her mom and she kept telling me no. she kept telling me she lived with her mom. she lives with my ex and his wife. i got on the phone and told my husband he needed to quit allowing her to call his wife mom and he said he has and she keeps calling her mom and he CLAIMS she argues with them that his wife is her mom and i'm not. she is 4 years old and i think they are making her do this. what can i do?

 

[Newlydivmomto4]

This reminds me of a cadnece that we always sang in the Navy:
Here we go again
Same old Shot again...


Turn over a new stone for the new year, EARN the right to be called "MOM." Obviously, if your 4yo child is not calling you Mom, then you have not earned it.

 

[Ohiogal]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? mo

i called my daughter last night for her birthday. she kept calling me by my name and i would tell her i am her mom and she kept telling me no. she kept telling me she lived with her mom. she lives with my ex and his wife. i got on the phone and told my husband he needed to quit allowing her to call his wife mom and he said he has and she keeps calling her mom and he CLAIMS she argues with them that his wife is her mom and i'm not. she is 4 years old and i think they are making her do this. what can i do?

It is possible that they are trying to dissuade the child from calling her mom -- look at the age. Look at your past history -- https://forum.freeadvice.com/search.php?searchid=2612964

I can just about understand that your ex is telling the truth and your child is fighting it. You have NOT been a mother at all. Your child may be being corrected and resisting that due to the fact that she cannot reconcile your behavior with what she believes a mother is.

Does that mean that she should be told that his wife is her mom? No. Nor does it mean that your ex should encourage the child to be calling his wife mom. HOWEVER, it is possible that she is voluntary doing so and that your ex is correcting it.

 

[Zephyr]

This reminds me of a cadnece that we always sang in the Navy:
Here we go again
Same old Shot again...


Turn over a new stone for the new year, EARN the right to be called "MOM." Obviously, if your 4yo child is not calling you Mom, then you have not earned it.

Many children try to call others by parental monikers- for various reasons, if you can't be helpful please don't post.

 

[CJane]

I need to C&P this to my clipboard so I don't have to type it all the time...

As a mother of a nearly 4 year old, I can tell you that they're nuts. They say crazy junk all the time... and my son who lives with me full time and loves me to distraction tells me on a regular basis that I'm not his Mom, that FILLINTHEBLANK is. And FILLINTHEBLANK varies every 10 minutes or so.

He's also recently seen Coraline, and it took me awhile to figure out that when he says "You're not a mother", he doesn't mean THAT, he means I'm not the OTHER mother. I figured that one out when he said "Because, no buttons in your eyes!"

This is small stuff. Don't sweat it.

 

[ProSeDadinMD]

OP posted about this same thing in October...

https://forum.freeadvice.com/child-custody-visitation-37/wont-call-me-mom-487399.html

 

[txmom512]

I need to C&P this to my clipboard so I don't have to type it all the time...

As a mother of a nearly 4 year old, I can tell you that they're nuts. They say crazy junk all the time... and my son who lives with me full time and loves me to distraction tells me on a regular basis that I'm not his Mom, that FILLINTHEBLANK is. And FILLINTHEBLANK varies every 10 minutes or so.

He's also recently seen Coraline, and it took me awhile to figure out that when he says "You're not a mother", he doesn't mean THAT, he means I'm not the OTHER mother. I figured that one out when he said "Because, no buttons in your eyes!"

This is small stuff. Don't sweat it.

Umm - is this the same one that eats monsters & kills mysterious men in your kitchen???

 

[CJane]

Umm - is this the same one that eats monsters & kills mysterious men in your kitchen???

The very same.

 

[Antigone*]

OP posted about this same thing in October...

https://forum.freeadvice.com/child-custody-visitation-37/wont-call-me-mom-487399.html

We could really use the beat-a-dead-horse emoticon right about now too.

While I don't agree that the child should not call another person mom. It is already hard enough for this little girl and she shouldn't be pressed any further.

Unfortunatley Mom, there are consequences to your actions. This is obviously one of them. It is never too late to turn things around, just don't expect them all to change over night.

 

[txmom512]

The very same.

Thought so. Geez, he sounds like such a character!! He must be so much fun... (no sarcasm there - I mean that in the very best possible way - he sounds adorable!)

 

[CJane]

Thought so. Geez, he sounds like such a character!! He must be so much fun... (no sarcasm there - I mean that in the very best possible way - he sounds adorable!)

He's 100% full of wonderfulness. And even though he exhausts me to no end with his constant movement and chattering, he's so very cool.

 

[>Charlotte<]

We could really use the beat-a-dead-horse emoticon right about now too.

This is...well...kinda lame, but it will have to do.


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..{ . }
... u

ETA: LOL, everything got moved over when I posted it. I give up.

 

[Proserpina]

This is...well...kinda lame, but it will have to do.


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..{ . }
... u

ETA: LOL, everything got moved over when I posted it. I give up.

It's a great horsy! Except it looks a bit like a cow. Very amoosing though

 

[maryjo]

Many children try to call others by parental monikers- for various reasons, if you can't be helpful please don't post.

This is true. My 4 year old nephew, who I have helped raise, calls me Mama, Second Mama, Mama Jojo, Mama Jody.

I tell my 10 year old son...who gets VERY jealous...that when his mother isnt around its ok for me to be his mama because he (my son) would want someone to do that for him.

Of course, my nephew does it more often than not because he KNOWS it ticks off my son. LOL!!! My nephew is 4 going on 40!

 

[goddessoflubboc]

When I was 4 (and older!) I insisted that the couple from the painting "American Gothic" were my parents. Much to the chagrin of my actual parents....