Just needing a point of veiw

[Hisbabygirl77]

i actualy have a contempt of court hearing at the end of the month.

and a custody status hearing in Jan.

Oh wasn't that so sweet of him to give you more ammunition for the contempt hearing. He looks like he is going to end up being your best help in court.

 

[wileybunch]

why? i'm not really sure. it didn't matter to me, as long as my weekends were clear cut. when we switched from alternating to 1,3,5 he didn't understand the concept. i had to explain to him everytime a 5th weekend occured. it took him almost a year to "get it".

i wanted to explain the change per the court order, but he didn't want to hear it.

i just told the 12 year old that mom and dad will work it out.

The numbered weekends makes it crystal clear that someone can't "mistakenly" plan something on a weekend that isn't theirs when they don't count properly into the future. Now we know why we had to line up in PE and count off in 2's ...

1 .... 2 .... 1 .... 2 .... 1 .... 2 ....

I'm sorry all that happened today. What a total jackass.
Ya know, you'd think you'd be absolutely certain about something before you made a total ass of yourself, but more than that, before you drag KIDS through something, too. WTH is his problem? Is he just dumb?

 

[Isis1]

The numbered weekends makes it crystal clear that someone can't "mistakenly" plan something on a weekend that isn't theirs when they don't count properly into the future. Now we know why we had to line up in PE and count off in 2's ...

1 .... 2 .... 1 .... 2 .... 1 .... 2 ....

I'm sorry all that happened today. What a total jackass.
Ya know, you'd think you'd be absolutely certain about something before you made a total ass of yourself, but more than that, before you drag KIDS through something, too. WTH is his problem? Is he just dumb?

i'm actually starting to wonder if this is something beyond just being a plain idiot. like a psych evaluation that might need to be done.

 

[Isis1]

Karma dear. Karma. It will come back.

well, OG. you said it. so you should definitely take the credit on this one.

dad gets custody of son, he files for child support to be stopped that same week. hearing was yesterday.

dad made a huge mistake. when child support was evaluated 2 years ago, it was a small section of paychecks. it looked like dad was only making $1.5k a month. well, the AG did the calculations for the whole year and divided by year. with me having one child, dad having the other, child support would go UP, not down. the AG looked at him. asked if he REALLY wanted to go through with his motion. if he did, the AG was obligated to tell the judge of the INCREASED support. first, dad wanted to still go through with the hearing and plead to the judge he couldn't afford it. the AG officer told him that his pleas wouldn't go anywhere. the numbers don't lie. after 2 hours of re-explaining everything over and over, dad changed his mind. dad is not happy. for a second, i was a little gleeful, because his plan to bribe the 12 year old had failed. but now, realization has kicked in, and he will be taking it out on the children.

i already have a contempt hearing for dad over therapy, so if things work out well, i will be granted extra access to 12 year to take him to his therapy sessions myself.

after speaking to my personal therapist today, i'm done focusing on co-parenting. my focus needs to be on repairing the damage that dad is dead set on doing to the children. dad never had any intention on working together as a team.

so emotionally, i have filed a change of venue.

 

[LdiJ]

well, OG. you said it. so you should definitely take the credit on this one.

dad gets custody of son, he files for child support to be stopped that same week. hearing was yesterday.

dad made a huge mistake. when child support was evaluated 2 years ago, it was a small section of paychecks. it looked like dad was only making $1.5k a month. well, the AG did the calculations for the whole year and divided by year. with me having one child, dad having the other, child support would go UP, not down. the AG looked at him. asked if he REALLY wanted to go through with his motion. if he did, the AG was obligated to tell the judge of the INCREASED support. first, dad wanted to still go through with the hearing and plead to the judge he couldn't afford it. the AG officer told him that his pleas wouldn't go anywhere. the numbers don't lie. after 2 hours of re-explaining everything over and over, dad changed his mind. dad is not happy. for a second, i was a little gleeful, because his plan to bribe the 12 year old had failed. but now, realization has kicked in, and he will be taking it out on the children.

i already have a contempt hearing for dad over therapy, so if things work out well, i will be granted extra access to 12 year to take him to his therapy sessions myself.

after speaking to my personal therapist today, i'm done focusing on co-parenting. my focus needs to be on repairing the damage that dad is dead set on doing to the children. dad never had any intention on working together as a team.

so emotionally, i have filed a change of venue.

Good for you...its time for dad to deal with the consequences of his actions.

 

[Isis1]

Here we go again

so..hearing coming up in Jan.

on Mon, dad called to ask why i didn't drop off the kids at his house. i stated it was winter vacation. dad stated he would pick up the kids on Tues at 1:30 instead of 12pm. I stated again, it was winter vacation. i spelled out for him very clearly the court order. AND status quo for the past two years. i get the first half of vacation, christmas day, and new years day. he gets the second half of vacation, christmas eve, and new years eve. and then we flip every other year. he asked if i was picking up or he was dropping off. i stated i would pick up since he didn't want to. end of conversation.

thursday, christmas eve. dad picks up at 12pm.

friday, christmas day. i pack the babies in the car, husband decides he wants to come too. so he and my sister also pile in. show up at the ex's house. no one is home. call the ex. no answer. leave a message. no call back. i wait 30 minutes. head to the police station. yes, i keep my court order with me at all times. the police woman doesn't want to file a report. so she write me a note on her business card instead. with date and time. she calls ex. he doesn't answer.

i call dad from the house again. he doesn't call back. my sister calls his phone and leaves a message. he calls HER back. i answer. he states he didn't get my calls because he was at the movies with the kids. i asked him why was he denying me my court ordered holiday. he says since it's his weekend, the holiday is his. he claims he read the court order. apparently, he didn't finish reading since it ends with "for all holidays NOT outlined in the court order". he doesn't care.

i bet he would read that court order VERY differently next weekend for New Year's Day.

 

[LdiJ]

so..hearing coming up in Jan.

on Mon, dad called to ask why i didn't drop off the kids at his house. i stated it was winter vacation. dad stated he would pick up the kids on Tues at 1:30 instead of 12pm. I stated again, it was winter vacation. i spelled out for him very clearly the court order. AND status quo for the past two years. i get the first half of vacation, christmas day, and new years day. he gets the second half of vacation, christmas eve, and new years eve. and then we flip every other year. he asked if i was picking up or he was dropping off. i stated i would pick up since he didn't want to. end of conversation.

thursday, christmas eve. dad picks up at 12pm.

friday, christmas day. i pack the babies in the car, husband decides he wants to come too. so he and my sister also pile in. show up at the ex's house. no one is home. call the ex. no answer. leave a message. no call back. i wait 30 minutes. head to the police station. yes, i keep my court order with me at all times. the police woman doesn't want to file a report. so she write me a note on her business card instead. with date and time. she calls ex. he doesn't answer.

i call dad from the house again. he doesn't call back. my sister calls his phone and leaves a message. he calls HER back. i answer. he states he didn't get my calls because he was at the movies with the kids. i asked him why was he denying me my court ordered holiday. he says since it's his weekend, the holiday is his. he claims he read the court order. apparently, he didn't finish reading since it ends with "for all holidays NOT outlined in the court order". he doesn't care.

i bet he would read that court order VERY differently next weekend for New Year's Day.

Make darn sure that it comes up in the hearing that dad denied your Christmas time...and claimed a weekend he wasn't necessarily entitled to claim since its winter break.

I really hope the judge stomps on him.