step-parent as caregiver

[GinAA]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Indiana

I have posted about my 15 yr old already and this is where we have gotten to.

It has come to me calling the police again but since he came home before the officer showed up, I couldn't file a runaway report. The officer said that if my son doesn't come home when he is supposed to, I can call the police again.

My son is out of school at 1450. It's about a 15 minute walk home. I give him till 1515 to 1530 to make it home. I don't get off work untill 1630 and get home about 1645. My son knows this and has his timing down well. My husband works nights and is home till I get home from work.

Is my husband considered my son's caregive, babysitter untill I get home from work? He is the person I have choosen to take care of my son until I get home from work.

Also, if my son isn't home by the time he is told and I call the police from work, can my husband give the officers the information about my son since I will not be home till later or do I have to be home to do so?

Thanks.What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?

 

[Antigone*]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Indiana

I have posted about my 15 yr old already and this is where we have gotten to.

It has come to me calling the police again but since he came home before the officer showed up, I couldn't file a runaway report. The officer said that if my son doesn't come home when he is supposed to, I can call the police again.

My son is out of school at 1450. It's about a 15 minute walk home. I give him till 1515 to 1530 to make it home. I don't get off work untill 1630 and get home about 1645. My son knows this and has his timing down well. My husband works nights and is home till I get home from work.

Is my husband considered my son's caregive, babysitter untill I get home from work? He is the person I have choosen to take care of my son until I get home from work.

Also, if my son isn't home by the time he is told and I call the police from work, can my husband give the officers the information about my son since I will not be home till later or do I have to be home to do so?

Thanks.What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?

Do you realize that now you are making things worse. You are nit-picking now. If the kid is not home by the time you get home, then by all means call the police, but putting your husband int he middle of this is only going to make things worse.

 

[GinAA]

Do you realize that now you are making things worse. You are nit-picking now. If the kid is not home by the time you get home, then by all means call the police, but putting your husband int he middle of this is only going to make things worse.

Our work schedules have been this way for years. He has always "been in the middle of it" I guess. He used to pick him up every day when he was in middle school. And my son used to get tons of freedom as to when he comes home and he has abused it. If I'm nit-picking it's because I can't trust him to do as he is told, not what he wants to. He will get some freedom back about this when he can do as he is told.

Tuesday night he never came home. I never heard from him and called the school today to see if he showed up. He wouldn't have come home tonight if he didn't call to tell me what his plans were and that he would be home Friday since his father was supposed to come get him for the weekend. I told him to come home that instant and he argued with me but then agreed that he should come home because he needed the computer to do some homework. This was after I called the police and it was after 5pm.

 

[Antigone*]

Our work schedules have been this way for years. He has always "been in the middle of it" I guess. He used to pick him up every day when he was in middle school. And my son used to get tons of freedom as to when he comes home and he has abused it. If I'm nit-picking it's because I can't trust him to do as he is told, not what he wants to. He will get some freedom back about this when he can do as he is told.

Tuesday night he never came home. I never heard from him and called the school today to see if he showed up. He wouldn't have come home tonight if he didn't call to tell me what his plans were and that he would be home Friday since his father was supposed to come get him for the weekend. I told him to come home that instant and he argued with me but then agreed that he should come home because he needed the computer to do some homework. This was after I called the police and it was after 5pm.

You should have called the police Tuesday when you got home since he was not there. Don't put step dad in the middle ~ it will only make things worse.

So does he only have his mattress in his room, is his tv, ipod, computer, all other stuff gone?

 

[GinAA]

You should have called the police Tuesday when you got home since he was not there. Don't put step dad in the middle ~ it will only make things worse.

So does he only have his mattress in his room, is his tv, ipod, computer, all other stuff gone?

As for Tuesday.... He had a concert at 7pm at school. I didn't want the police to take him out of that and imbarass the school. I was sick and for once, my 2 little girls actually fell asleep at 8pm. I went to bed expecting a call from him to come pick him up and it never came. I didn't know he wasn't home until the next morning when I woke up. I did call the police then but they said to call the school first.

And yes, he only has his mattress, a blanket and a pillow. He has nothing else but his school books in his room. No light, no door. It's all been put into totes and put in storage.

 

[stealth2]

I didn't know he wasn't home until the next morning when I woke up.

Uuuh... wow.