What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? FL
My husband and I are trying to put our own divorce together to save $$.
We are having an issue regarding visitation. We had agreed to every other weekend, and tues and thurs nights for dinner for the boys father. It is a schedual we have been doing for almost a year (since soon after he moved out).
My husband has a job where, from march-aug, he has a very variable schedual. We had made accomidations to switch weekends when needed, which is not difficult to do, since it is usually know at least a month in advance.
However, we have recently been having problems with the weekday visits. Until recently, the boys did not really have "plans" except with me, so I was very liberal with switching days if needed. They are now 2.5 - and I have gotten them into two activies on my schedualed days (Mondays and Wed) - one being a "gym" class, and the other is a reglar playgroup of local twins their age. The boys currently stay at home (with a Nanny - my husband and I both work) - so we (both my husband and I) agreed that getting them into more activites with kids their age for the purposes of socialization.
The past 6 weeks, he has requested a change for one or both of the weekday visits. While currently, it doesn't really matter if they miss something, going forward, it will. I have sugested to my husband that he take them to their activity if he needs to switch to that day, but he is unwilling to "share" is time with an activity.
We are at loggerheads about this. While I want the boys to have time with their father (obviously) - I am frustrated with the lack of ablity to plan anything in advance, or consistantly participate in any activity. (and frankly- his idea of "work commitment" and mine sometimes differ - I know that some amout of dinners and drinks are needed, but there should be a way to keep most of it to days he doesn't have the boys)
He wants wording that says that any work conflicts will be accomidated - and frankly, I'm not ok with that. It will leave the boys and I in constant limbo.
What is a reasonable way to deal with this. I don't want to subvert his time, but at the same time, I don't want to be set up to be a doormat.
My husband and I are trying to put our own divorce together to save $$.
We are having an issue regarding visitation. We had agreed to every other weekend, and tues and thurs nights for dinner for the boys father. It is a schedual we have been doing for almost a year (since soon after he moved out).
My husband has a job where, from march-aug, he has a very variable schedual. We had made accomidations to switch weekends when needed, which is not difficult to do, since it is usually know at least a month in advance.
However, we have recently been having problems with the weekday visits. Until recently, the boys did not really have "plans" except with me, so I was very liberal with switching days if needed. They are now 2.5 - and I have gotten them into two activies on my schedualed days (Mondays and Wed) - one being a "gym" class, and the other is a reglar playgroup of local twins their age. The boys currently stay at home (with a Nanny - my husband and I both work) - so we (both my husband and I) agreed that getting them into more activites with kids their age for the purposes of socialization.
The past 6 weeks, he has requested a change for one or both of the weekday visits. While currently, it doesn't really matter if they miss something, going forward, it will. I have sugested to my husband that he take them to their activity if he needs to switch to that day, but he is unwilling to "share" is time with an activity.
We are at loggerheads about this. While I want the boys to have time with their father (obviously) - I am frustrated with the lack of ablity to plan anything in advance, or consistantly participate in any activity. (and frankly- his idea of "work commitment" and mine sometimes differ - I know that some amout of dinners and drinks are needed, but there should be a way to keep most of it to days he doesn't have the boys)
He wants wording that says that any work conflicts will be accomidated - and frankly, I'm not ok with that. It will leave the boys and I in constant limbo.
What is a reasonable way to deal with this. I don't want to subvert his time, but at the same time, I don't want to be set up to be a doormat.