What's in a name??

[stealth2]

LOL When my son was starting to talk, I was trying to get him to say ANYthing! First word was "uh oh!" I was prepared for Dada before Mama, but my Dad wasn't having any of that! He got the boy to say MaMa, and then Dadooooooooo... 18 years later, it's still what the kids call my Dad. hehehehe

 

[ezmarelda]

my daughters first 2 words = "Edison" (the dog) & "Bub" (her brother)....when she was around 2 or 3 yo she called any other girl "sister" and any boy "brother"

my now ex-step-son's Mom was very uptight about names & titles....poor kid i remember him trying to tell me at age 3 a story about his weekend at Mom's and who was there
Mom's parents were divorced and both re-married as were Dad's & my parents
poor kid was trying to tell me his "Grandpa" (Mom's step-dad) had been at Mom's without useing anybody's first names, it ended up something along the lines of "My Grandpa, you know, not Mom's Dad or Dad's Dad or Dad's Mom's husband, not your Dad but the other one; Mom's Mom's husband."
we were all relieved when Mom lightened up a bit and he was able to say GrandpaJoe, GrandpaTom, etc....I somehow ended up his "OtherMother" (with Mom's blessings)

 

[txmom512]

When my neice started talking, she called her dad 'daddy' and called her mom by her first name. She did that for nearly a year. We all, of course, thought it was the funniest thing ever! Mom would say "no, I'm mommy" and baby would say "mom's first name"
(Neice is now 12. They've been married 14 years this past year, and have 10 kids)

 

[CJane]

When my neice started talking, she called her dad 'daddy' and called her mom by her first name. She did that for nearly a year. We all, of course, thought it was the funniest thing ever! Mom would say "no, I'm mommy" and baby would say "mom's first name"
(Neice is now 12. They've been married 14 years this past year, and have 10 kids)

Clearly, they're insane.

Nicaho? I can totally see you back here in the future, wanting to dictate whether or not the child can hug her step father. Whether he can attend sporting events, whether HE can go to the daddy daughter dance with her at HIS church (or whatever).

You HAVE TO LET GO of this. You'll drive yourself and everyone else mad.

Let me tell you this. I called my step-father by his first name, and I call my Dad, Dad. My Mom married my SD when I was 6. He was a daily presence in my life, and until he died last year, I loved him more than any man I've ever known. I love my Dad. And I have an important and close relationship with him. But my step-dad? He was my "daddy" even if I never called him that. The affection and the actual relationship was not dependent upon a word or a name.

Make this a hill to die on, and you're just setting yourself on a path of control and pettiness that is NOT going to strengthen your relationship with your child. I promise you.

 

[Nicaho]

Clearly, they're insane.

Nicaho? I can totally see you back here in the future, wanting to dictate whether or not the child can hug her step father. Whether he can attend sporting events, whether HE can go to the daddy daughter dance with her at HIS church (or whatever).

You HAVE TO LET GO of this. You'll drive yourself and everyone else mad.

Let me tell you this. I called my step-father by his first name, and I call my Dad, Dad. My Mom married my SD when I was 6. He was a daily presence in my life, and until he died last year, I loved him more than any man I've ever known. I love my Dad. And I have an important and close relationship with him. But my step-dad? He was my "daddy" even if I never called him that. The affection and the actual relationship was not dependent upon a word or a name.

Make this a hill to die on, and you're just setting yourself on a path of control and pettiness that is NOT going to strengthen your relationship with your child. I promise you.

Thanks CJane for your input. I'm not going to be that bad. I understand that my daughter is going to love this man. I have stated before that I am going into all of this blind. I don't know right or wrong or necessarily what is best. I come here first before I do anything so that I can get a better idea and a little light to shine in. I'm really a good guy with a big heart. Plenty of love for my lil girl. If I just jumped into some of the ideas in my head, it would get me into a lot of trouble. I have decided not to bring it up in court or to mom and just let it be. My daughter can decide on her own one day. I would hate to think that she would love another man more than me as Dad, but it is a possibility. All I can do is be the best I can be to her and hope I do right by her and that the love is always there.

Thanks again and sorry for coming off like an a$$. This is all very hard and I guess it has been hard for most everyone that comes here. I only want help and advice to do what is best. I don't want to anger anybody or be viewed as an idiot and that no one will want to help with a future problem.

 

[txmom512]

Clearly, they're insane.

Oh - you have no idea... lol
The have 4 biological, 3 adopted siblings, & just added 3 more Downs Syndrome babies...

Easter this past weekend was a lot of fun!