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meghamann

Member
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Wisconsin

Our son is 13 years old (14 in June). I recently found out that his father let him go camping with his "girlfriend" her mother and father and her friend. I have also been informed that he was there all day Monday and Tuesday and was told he was there Mon by his father in an email it was because I won't allow him to go there when he is with me.

I found pictures of our son and his "girlfriend" kissing on her facebook page as well as another picture of our son holding her as she strattled him with her legs around his waist. Apparently her mother is the one taking the pictures. Their dad always reassures me they are supervised because I have voiced my concern a million times on how often he is with her and that since he sees her 5 days a week at school they dont need to see each other every day after school, etc. His grades are horrible right now too so I don't understand why he would be allowed to go anywhere but his house, his rules.

Am I overreacting about the time they spend together and the pictures? I was a mom at 16 and I do not want our children following in my footsteps. I have no problem with them spending supervised time together but the girl never goes by my house or our son's dad's house. I feel there is a lack of supervision if it is preferred to always go by her house and never vice versa and that they are getting away with something.

The GAL doesn't email back about any emails and the last one we just got pretty much said the judge is going to decide the fate of our kids so we figured she means she is refusing to do her job.

Thoughts? Thanks in advance.
 


Dad is allowed to parent as he sees fit on his time. If that includes letting Son get kissy-face with his gf, then so be it. Do you have any proof that Dad is letting Son do anything illegal? No? Then you have nothing.
 

meghamann

Member
I kind of figured that but hope there was something else I could do. I am sick of seeing my son's grades deteriorate because their father let's him go to some girls house instead of making sure the homework is done or he studies.
 

Ohiogal

Queen Bee
Quite frankly the judge is going to decide because the GAL most likely believes this is going to trial and the two of you won't agree on anything. The GAL does NOT make the decision. The GAL makes recommendations. Many times the court follows said recommendations. Sometimes, the court does not.
 

AkersTile

Member
Now if kiddo and GF are doing inappropriate things and GF gets pregnant could that come back on Mom at all? I know kiddo can get charged (at least I think? those statutory laws confuse me).
 

Ohiogal

Queen Bee
Now if kiddo and GF are doing inappropriate things and GF gets pregnant could that come back on Mom at all? I know kiddo can get charged (at least I think? those statutory laws confuse me).
I don't know because how old is girlfriend? What do you mean come back on Mom?
 

Ohiogal

Queen Bee
Could DFS/CPS/whatever it is in their state open a case against Mom and/or Dad for the lack of supervision?
That is really iffy. I say that because it depends on a lot of different factors. The son going on a trip with his "girlfriend" is alone not enough to cause issues. It would be different if dad were leaving the child alone overnight and letting him have SLEEPOVERS with his girlfriend during that time. There has to be something more. How old is the girlfriend? Is she 13? 10? 16?
 

stealth2

Under the Radar Member
I have no problem with them spending supervised time together but the girl never goes by my house or our son's dad's house. I feel there is a lack of supervision if it is preferred to always go by her house and never vice versa and that they are getting away with something.
Actually, I've always preferred that my son go to his girl(s)' house, because I sort of figure that parents of a girl are going to be more vigilant. Same reason why I prefer my daughter's male friends to come here.
 

meghamann

Member
The girl is 14 and our son is 13 (14 in June). I just want what is best for our son and do not want anything happening. While I am told they are being supervised over there I just am not reassured by seeing pictures of them kissing and her straddling our son on facebook. I feel the dad just lets him go there so he doesnt have to deal with him. He has a gpa of 1.8 so I don't think he needs to be anywhere but home studying or a library studying.

I am aware that the GAL only recommends and I am hoping the judge sees right through her since she is refusing to respond to emails, phone calls, and to do her job.

Thanks for everyone's advice. I had my first child at 16, then again at 17. I guess I may be more overprotective than some because I do not want our kids to follow in my footsteps when it comes to having children.
 

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