killerzoey
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What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? HI
My STBX has the kids separately on his overnights to a large degree. Sometimes he'll plan to have both but ask to only have the older if he has a cold or something. We have shared custody and a rather nebulous visitation order at the moment. The judge gave him "two, max. of three" overnights per week. That's our latest order.
But because one child was only a year old and was breastfeeding, STBX agreed to have her only one night a week at first, and we are adding a second every other week. Our older child has two a week, and a third every other week. In adding the second overnight for our youngest, he wanted to make that a different night from our oldest's additional overnight. I guess it really is hard for him to care for both.
I am just wondering in general, in counting overnights, does it count if he has only one child? Or would you count that as 1/2 an overnight since we have two children? The way I figure it if he has (for example) one child once a week and the other three times a week, he has two overnights a week if simply calculating percentage. But how does the court look at this?
I intend to try to keep the overnights the same night in the future as much as possible. But if he says he can't handle one of them (the youngest) I am not inclined to send her. Our kids are 4.5 and 1.5. I'm thinking he will be able to handle both better as the younger gets older. I hope.
Thanks, and I would have tacked this on an existing thread but mine are all getting buried and not related to this question and not really getting additional responses.
My STBX has the kids separately on his overnights to a large degree. Sometimes he'll plan to have both but ask to only have the older if he has a cold or something. We have shared custody and a rather nebulous visitation order at the moment. The judge gave him "two, max. of three" overnights per week. That's our latest order.
But because one child was only a year old and was breastfeeding, STBX agreed to have her only one night a week at first, and we are adding a second every other week. Our older child has two a week, and a third every other week. In adding the second overnight for our youngest, he wanted to make that a different night from our oldest's additional overnight. I guess it really is hard for him to care for both.
I am just wondering in general, in counting overnights, does it count if he has only one child? Or would you count that as 1/2 an overnight since we have two children? The way I figure it if he has (for example) one child once a week and the other three times a week, he has two overnights a week if simply calculating percentage. But how does the court look at this?
I intend to try to keep the overnights the same night in the future as much as possible. But if he says he can't handle one of them (the youngest) I am not inclined to send her. Our kids are 4.5 and 1.5. I'm thinking he will be able to handle both better as the younger gets older. I hope.
Thanks, and I would have tacked this on an existing thread but mine are all getting buried and not related to this question and not really getting additional responses.
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