contract marriages

[navycon]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? ca

contract marriages, my discharged navy boyfriend was or is in one at this time. however, i am not the one in the contract marriage. i am his girlfriend he lives with. i came across some paperwork the other day in the mail. it was something with his taxes back home in new york and it had both their names. i asked him a long time ago if he was married and he said no. i confronted him and he told me it was a contract marriage. we have been together for a year. he told me yesterday he filed for divorce a month before we met a year ago. is there a way to know if this divorce is progress or near finalizing? can this affect us/me in the future if we stay together and get married for real? he did tell me when he filed she would not sign the papers and he did something called abandonment and put an ad in the paper. can the divorce be affective this way?.

 

[Barb414]

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I work in military family support services -- a contract marriage that includes a marriage license from a US State or a country that the US recognizes is quite simply a marriage.

Sounds like your boyfriend mislead you when he told you he was not married. If he filed for divorce he will have legal papers that he has filed.

Honesty is very important in relationship! Although is may be difficult, you need to have a conversation with him and so ask him to show you the papers he filed.

If he hasn't yet filed, realize that divorce just requires a little money, an attorney and the desire to move on with ones life. Most states recognize "no fault" divorces and for a retainer, he should be able to find a lawyer to assist him.

If he isn't willing to discuss his marriage status with you that may be an indication that he's not as committed to your relationship as you are. Only you can make the decision to say with someone who has mislead you -- and his action and behavior to rectify the situation speak more than his words.

 

[justalayman]

If he hasn't yet filed, realize that divorce just requires a little money, an attorney and the desire to move on with ones life. Most states recognize "no fault" divorces and for a retainer, he should be able to find a lawyer to assist him.
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part of "no-fault" is that neither party contests the divorce and since the wife refused to sign what was presumably the service of the complaint, I would have to suggest that a no fault divorce may not be a possibility.

and the fact the divorce is filed in NY and now the guy is apparently in California means he will a long way to travel for any court hearings.

he has some explaining to do, with supporting documents. No documents means he is probably not being truthful with you.

 

[navycon]

contract marriage

thank you for the replies. i do not do warm fuzzies as well thank you for the consideration though. he did show me the court documents yesterday when i told him to show me or get out of the house. what i am unsure of is can the divorce happen if she refused to sign and he explained something to me about abandonment on her part? i dont know where the relationship stands at this point but if it proceeds and we continue on, can this divorce that she never signed for haunt us later legally?

 

[Proserpina]

thank you for the replies. i do not do warm fuzzies as well thank you for the consideration though. he did show me the court documents yesterday when i told him to show me or get out of the house. what i am unsure of is can the divorce happen if she refused to sign and he explained something to me about abandonment on her part? i dont know where the relationship stands at this point but if it proceeds and we continue on, can this divorce that she never signed for haunt us later legally?

Uh...that's JAL's signature. It is not directed to you at all; it appears in every one of JAL's posts.

 

[navycon]

lol sorry, new to this site and still learning

 

[justalayman]

I guess I have to add a "warning; editorial content follows" to that.

what didn't she sign? If he got around the not signing, what it sounds like is the initial service of the complaint.


yes, he can divorce her even if she refuses to sign but it means it is more difficult, takes more time, and more money.


Is he doing this on his own or does he have an attorney?

 

[navycon]

marriage contract

yes he has the attorney and he said it has been costing him alot of money. and has been going on for a year now. is this normal timing for a divorce out of new york? i looked up new york divorce law and it said he can file for divorce on abandoment. if she never signed divorce doc's can she come back later for alimony? how does this work because i am so new to this whole mess