Where can I get help?

[needhelp38]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Pennsylvania

My relationship with with my 16 year old son is completely dissolved. Everything is an arguement which escalates to the point where the police has to come out to the home. He has been physically abusive towards myself and my 10 year old daughter. He has used every profane word boldly and loudly from using the b word and the f*** you statement. Family counseling, psychiatric counseling, any type of counseling you can think of, I have been through it within the last 6 years.

Although the police has been out to my home on several occasions, they chalk it up as a verbal abuse and only give my son and I "advice" on how he's coming into manhood. I am a single parent and I need some legal help. Lately, he has been threatening me with knives and other dangerous things to get his point across. I feel like I am alone in this and I really need some help here.

 

[CourtClerk]

Any child who has the Christmas Tree balls to yell at you, curse at you and act a fool in your face has been disrespecting you and getting away with it for a lot longer than he's been 16. A. LOT. - and you've allowed it.

Boot camp, but you can't expect others to raise your child. Eventually, you're going to have to figure out a way to get your child to respect you. However, it took him at least 12 years to get to where he is. Expect it to take at least half that time (if you're lucky) to change the behavior. That's why you don't let your kids get out of control in the first place.

 

[Proserpina]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Pennsylvania

My relationship with with my 16 year old son is completely dissolved. Everything is an arguement which escalates to the point where the police has to come out to the home. He has been physically abusive towards myself and my 10 year old daughter. He has used every profane word boldly and loudly from using the b word and the f*** you statement. Family counseling, psychiatric counseling, any type of counseling you can think of, I have been through it within the last 6 years.

Although the police has been out to my home on several occasions, they chalk it up as a verbal abuse and only give my son and I "advice" on how he's coming into manhood. I am a single parent and I need some legal help. Lately, he has been threatening me with knives and other dangerous things to get his point across. I feel like I am alone in this and I really need some help here.

Did you have a legal question for us?


What do you want to do?

 

[CourtClerk]

Did you have a legal question for us?

No. This is another case of I befriended my child and now that he treats me like he does his friends, I don't like it.

What do you want to do?

She'd like a way to make it so little Timmy acted like he was 5 again, but if you look at it, at 5 he probably was a problem then. I mean... hey, the first time my kid would have opened his mouth to call me a b**ch, he would have been pulling my fist out of his mouth.





However, MY child also knows beyond a shadow of a doubt that I would rather go to jail than to have him disrespect me in my house. I would have beat the tar s**t out of him. The first time. Then there wouldn't have been a second.

 

[Proserpina]

No. This is another case of I befriended my child and now that he treats me like he does his friends, I don't like it.

She'd like a way to make it so little Timmy acted like he was 5 again, but if you look at it, at 5 he probably was a problem then. I mean... hey, the first time my kid would have opened his mouth to call me a b**ch, he would have been pulling my fist out of his mouth.





However, MY child also knows beyond a shadow of a doubt that I would rather go to jail than to have him disrespect me in my house. I would have beat the tar s**t out of him. The first time. Then there wouldn't have been a second.

I'm going to get a tattoo on my forehead. It shall say, in bold and possibly Italic lettering (I'm yet to select a font though - I'll need input for that), "IF YOU WANT TO RAISE YOUR CHILD TO BE A DECENT HUMAN BEING - STOP BEING THEIR BEST FRIEND".

Any font ideas are welcome....

 

[CourtClerk]

I'm going to get a tattoo on my forehead. It shall say, in bold and possibly Italic lettering (I'm yet to select a font though - I'll need input for that), "IF YOU WANT TO RAISE YOUR CHILD TO BE A DECENT HUMAN BEING - STOP BEING THEIR BEST FRIEND".

Any font ideas are welcome....

6th grade graduation, my son's teacher pulled me aside and said my son possesses one thing that several of the kids in her class didn't have.

An unbelievable fear of me. Then she high 5'd me and said "way to go." The few times my son had a stupid moment in class, his only punishment was that he had to call me and tell me while the rest of the kids had detention.

They knew I would take care of the issue. Immediately. I plays not with the raising of my son. He's 14 and about 3 inches from looking me in the eye. He must know how that I will lay him out without a moment's notice.

Oh... and I like Arial BOLD

 

[Antigone*]

I'd say it is time for the Brazil treatment if you ask me

 

[Proserpina]

I'd say it is time for the Brazil treatment if you ask me

I heartily concur!

 

[PQN]

You did a good job seeking out counseling since he was 10. Has he ever had a complete neuropsych evaluation? A child who is that out of control despite interventions by his parent (counseling, calling police, etc) may need more than a family can give him. You may be at the point of having him declared incorrigable.

INCORRIGIBLE (UNGOVERNABLE, OUT OF CONTROL) ADOLESCENTS

The Juvenile Court Act (42 Pa.C.S. Sec. 6301 et seq.) offers as one element of the definition of a Dependent Child the following: A child who has committed a specific act or acts of habitual disobedience of the reasonable and lawful commands of his/her parent, guardian, or other custodian and who is ungovernable and found to be in need of care, treatment or supervision.

Generally speaking, a child is considered incorrigible if they are out of control at home, in school and in the community. This is the child unwilling to accept authority from anyone and whose behavior is placing him/her at risk of harm.​

You can try calling CPS directly and ask for help but you may be better served by retaining an attorney and filing a petition in court to have him declared incorrigable.

Immediately you need to create a safety plan for your family. Lock up all knives, etc. Talk to your police dept's community services officer. The VERY NEXT TIME he threatens you or your daughter, call 911 and insist that they transport him to ER for a psych admit for 'risk of harm to others' (this will go smoother if you set it up in advnace with the police. We never had trouble getting our daughter transported to ER (except once when the police wanted us to have her arrested instead but they agreed to let her go to ER and if the psych unit had not admitted her, they were coming to the ER to arrest her but instead she spent 81 days in the pysch hospital).

Go to Support for Parents - The Latest News as your legal needs are minimal but your need for a group of parents with severely mentally ill children seems very high.

 

[stealth2]

Where is his father?