Haven't seen my daughter in 6 weeks

[Nicaho]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? IN

Ever since we went to court for paternity and I decided on getting the test, mom has not let me see her. I send a text or email weekly asking to see her. Mom has not told me to stop bothering her or anything like that. She has sent a couple of pictures when I asked her to. There is a good possibility that I will get to see her on Fathers Day.

I guess my question is: How will this all look to a judge in court? Am I doing the right thing by continuing to ask to see our daughter or should I just back off for the next 6 weeks? I know she has every right not to let me see her but that doesnt make it any easier on me She let me see her for the first 3 months 3 times a week up until the test. She says I am denying her although I have repeatedly told her that I am not and only doing what I thought was best.

 

[BL]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? IN

Ever since we went to court for paternity and I decided on getting the test, mom has not let me see her. I send a text or email weekly asking to see her. Mom has not told me to stop bothering her or anything like that. She has sent a couple of pictures when I asked her to. There is a good possibility that I will get to see her on Fathers Day.

I guess my question is: How will this all look to a judge in court? Am I doing the right thing by continuing to ask to see our daughter or should I just back off for the next 6 weeks? I know she has every right not to let me see her but that doesnt make it any easier on me She let me see her for the first 3 months 3 times a week up until the test. She says I am denying her although I have repeatedly told her that I am not and only doing what I thought was best.

Well , just think ,what if . What if you're not Daddy ?

The child is young yet .If you're Daddy you can establish visitations through the court .

If not ,then I assume mom will not keep letting you visit.

 

[CJane]

I guess my question is: How will this all look to a judge in court?

No one can tell you that.

The child is so young, that it can easily be argued that she's not at all harmed by you not seeing her. Sure, YOU miss her, but it's not YOUR best interests the court (or Mom) are supposed to be thinking about.

And Mom can, quite reasonably, say "Well, your honor, I felt it was best to have paternity established before they developed a strong bond. After all, if the child turned out NOT to be his, I thought it would be less painful for everyone this way."

Or "Your honor, it just got to be too much. He was making demands about when I fed kiddo so she wasn't asleep when he came by, he didn't want my significant other anywhere around when he was here, I wasn't comfortable letting him take kiddo out, so he was in my space all the time... it was too hard without clear boundaries and parameters."

"How it looks" is just to subjective and too dependent upon circumstances none of us can know.

Make it clear to Mom that you'd like to see kiddo as much as possible. And then back off.