Some legal things to work out in Tx

[MHKiley]

Hey guys, new to the forum, and probably only time I'll be on here.

I'm 17, my father just passed away the other day and I have chosen to live with a friend.
My mother keeps saying she will take custody of me, and I will not live with her. To put it nicely her and I do not get along. Period. I have told her this but she keeps saying that I am a minor. Financially I can support myself if I kept my job, and I have my father's side relatives who can support me financially.

Another thing, how do I go about getting a hardship license? Since I will be living with a friend, obviously I will be trying to go to work. Unfortunately its under the table where I work, untaxed and all that. Would that be an issue when I applied? Or should I find a different job that is taxed?

 

[CourtClerk]

Let's start with why you need a hardship license as opposed to a lerner's permit....
Where does your mother live?
How long until you're 18?

 

[MHKiley]

Let's start with why you need a hardship license....
Where does your mother live?
How long until you're 18?

A year till I'm 18, next april.

My mom lives in Arlington/Dallas area. I live in the Houston/Humble area. Its a 4 hr drive.

I would need a car to drive to and from work, ideally, and to school. School is 1.7 miles away, they don't send buses over but it's a really taxing walk/bike ride.

 

[CourtClerk]

A year till I'm 18, next april.

My mom lives in Arlington/Dallas area. I live in the Houston/Humble area. Its a 4 hr drive.

Then you'll be living with your mother.

I would need a car to drive to and from work, ideally, and to school. School is 1.7 miles away, they don't send buses over but it's a really taxing walk/bike ride.

You don't have a severe economic hardship as the DPS would describe it. Your mother (who would have to sign the application anyway) is willing to support you, is seemingly able to do so, and the application SPECIFICALLY says, "Participation in school activities will not be considered a sufficient reason to establish an unusual economic hardship."

What you need to do is go live with your parent. As a minor child, you don't get to call the shots.

 

[MHKiley]

Then you'll be living with your mother.

You don't have a severe economic hardship as the DPS would describe it. Your mother (who would have to sign the application anyway) is willing to support you, is seemingly able to do so, and the application SPECIFICALLY says, "Participation in school activities will not be considered a sufficient reason to establish an unusual economic hardship."

What you need to do is go live with your parent. As a minor child, you don't get to call the shots.

I thought I'd heard something about 17 being the legal age in Tx? Unfortunately I don't really think my mom is very sufficient as far as parenting goes. From what I can understand I cannot be forced to go home, but I believe I found another loophole that would, mayhap, consider me a runaway?

As far as the license goes, I can do without.
What I really need to do, is I believe, emancipate myself? And I'm not saying I participate in "School activities" I'm unsure where you got that assumption from.

 

[CourtClerk]

I thought I'd heard something about 17 being the legal age in Tx? Unfortunately I don't really think my mom is very sufficient as far as parenting goes. From what I can understand I cannot be forced to go home, but I believe I found another loophole that would, mayhap, consider me a runaway?

Per Texas law:

§ 129.001. AGE OF MAJORITY. The age of majority in this
state is 18 years.

That's the age in which you become a legal adult, responsible for yourself and able to make your own decisions. Until then, you fall under the direction of your parent. I'm very sorry about the loss of your father, but as a child, you are in no way, shape or form able to judge someone else's parenting ability. What experience do you have in the subject? How many children have you raised? What formal education do you have in the area?

As far as the license goes, I can do without.

Good, because you'll have to.

What I really need to do, is I believe, emancipate myself?

You are not, nor are you planning on being self supporting, which is required for emancipation in Texas

And I'm not saying I participate in "School activities" I'm unsure where you got that assumption from.

Going to school is INHERENTLY participating in school activities, honey.

 

[MHKiley]

Per Texas law:

That's the age in which you become a legal adult, responsible for yourself and able to make your own decisions. Until then, you fall under the direction of your parent. I'm very sorry about the loss of your father, but as a child, you are in no way, shape or form able to judge someone else's parenting ability. What experience do you have in the subject? How many children have you raised? What formal education do you have in the area?

Good, because you'll have to.

You are not, nor are you planning on being self supporting, which is required for emancipation in Texas

Going to school is INHERENTLY participating in school activities, honey.

I'm sorry I'm not exactly savvy in this department, its not my forte. I find your answers some what rude, but I understand you are trying to help. All the newbies that come here and ask stupid questions probably annoy you but thats what this forum is for. I'm sorry I didn't quite understand the whole school thing.

Unfortunately, I say my mother is unfit because she is a pain killer addict, but believes she is doing right because she has lymes disease. When I was in middle school and lived with her, more often than not she was on Xanex (illegally) perhaps 10-11 in one night. She has recovered but still takes some sort of pain killers, which she is believes is okay, because she's prescribed them. She often berates me, calling me fat and generally pushing diets on me. She used to use a scare tactic on me so I wouldn't tell the school she was a xanex addict. I love my mom, and I realize she loves me but I simply cannot, emotionally and mentally deal with her.

I think its pretty unfair for you to act like this. I am simply looking for advice, perhaps to help. If thats the way it is, then fine. But I feel you're acting rather rude about the entire thing.

 

[CourtClerk]

I'm sorry I'm not exactly savvy in this department, its not my forte. I find your answers some what rude, but I understand you are trying to help. All the newbies that come here and ask stupid questions probably annoy you but thats what this forum is for. I'm sorry I didn't quite understand the whole school thing.

Unfortunately, I say my mother is unfit because she is a pain killer addict, but believes she is doing right because she has lymes disease. When I was in middle school and lived with her, more often than not she was on Xanex (illegally) perhaps 10-11 in one night. She has recovered but still takes some sort of pain killers, which she is believes is okay, because she's prescribed them. She often berates me, calling me fat and generally pushing diets on me. She used to use a scare tactic on me so I wouldn't tell the school she was a xanex addict. I love my mom, and I realize she loves me but I simply cannot, emotionally and mentally deal with her.

I think its pretty unfair for you to act like this. I am simply looking for advice, perhaps to help. If thats the way it is, then fine. But I feel you're acting rather rude about the entire thing.

You're entitled to your opinion, but with your opinion comes the legal reality. You have yet to answer my question on what makes you the authority on raising children, and your opinion on that... makes no difference. The law - is the law.

 

[Proserpina]

I'm sorry I'm not exactly savvy in this department, its not my forte. I find your answers some what rude, but I understand you are trying to help. All the newbies that come here and ask stupid questions probably annoy you but thats what this forum is for. I'm sorry I didn't quite understand the whole school thing.

Unfortunately, I say my mother is unfit because she is a pain killer addict, but believes she is doing right because she has lymes disease. When I was in middle school and lived with her, more often than not she was on Xanex (illegally) perhaps 10-11 in one night. She has recovered but still takes some sort of pain killers, which she is believes is okay, because she's prescribed them. She often berates me, calling me fat and generally pushing diets on me. She used to use a scare tactic on me so I wouldn't tell the school she was a xanex addict. I love my mom, and I realize she loves me but I simply cannot, emotionally and mentally deal with her.

I think its pretty unfair for you to act like this. I am simply looking for advice, perhaps to help. If thats the way it is, then fine. But I feel you're acting rather rude about the entire thing.

So she takes prescription medications, and she's concerned about your weight.

Why do you believe she's wrong in her actions?

Do you think CC is rude and unfair?

What do you think a Judge will say to you?

 

[CourtClerk]

So she takes prescription medications, and she's concerned about your weight.

Which her doctor prescribes and unless she's doctor shopping, she's taking what was precribed to her...

Why do you believe she's wrong in her actions?

I hate to say it, but if you're fat, you're just fat. If you need a diet, you need a diet. If mom is trying to put kiddo on a diet, it's what any RESPONSIBLE parent does...

Do you think CC is rude and unfair?

Lucky for me, I don't put much weight on kid's opinions. Mine, or anyone elses.

What do you think a Judge will say to you?

That's not gonna go well

 

[MHKiley]

You're entitled to your opinion, but with your opinion comes the legal reality. You have yet to answer my question on what makes you the authority on raising children, and your opinion on that... makes no difference. The law - is the law.

Nothing makes me the authority on raising children; I don't think that is bestowed on anyone, except perhaps, ironically, the law.

@Proserpina

She does take prescribed medication. Now. I'm not sure if she still does take it illegally, since I don't live with her, but I know several times, she has spoken in slurs, and been quite forgetful.

My mom is wrong in the fact she can't STOP obsessing about my weight. Granted, recently I have gained quite a bit of weight. However, if you're an impressionable 12/13 year old, your mother telling you you need to lose weight and be "prettier" and "More like the other girls" is pretty wrong. She used to try to tell me it was healthy to eat, then take laxatives, and skipping meals was okay, as was crash dieting.

As far as CC being rude and unfair, no to the latter part. I feel she's being a little bit condescending and rude, but I can understand that probably a lot of kids come on this site whining about their parents. However, I don't think I'm the same as the kids whining.

If I knew what a judge would say, I doubt I would be here. If I knew what my future would hold, I really would not be here.

 

[Proserpina]

Nothing makes me the authority on raising children; I don't think that is bestowed on anyone, except perhaps, ironically, the law.

@Proserpina

She does take prescribed medication. Now. I'm not sure if she still does take it illegally, since I don't live with her, but I know several times, she has spoken in slurs, and been quite forgetful.

My mom is wrong in the fact she can't STOP obsessing about my weight. Granted, recently I have gained quite a bit of weight. However, if you're an impressionable 12/13 year old, your mother telling you you need to lose weight and be "prettier" and "More like the other girls" is pretty wrong. She used to try to tell me it was healthy to eat, then take laxatives, and skipping meals was okay, as was crash dieting.

As far as CC being rude and unfair, no to the latter part. I feel she's being a little bit condescending and rude, but I can understand that probably a lot of kids come on this site whining about their parents. However, I don't think I'm the same as the kids whining.

If I knew what a judge would say, I doubt I would be here. If I knew what my future would hold, I really would not be here.

We also don't know what your future will hold, except that if Mom wants custody of you, you're going to be living with Mom.

 

[CourtClerk]

However, I don't think I'm the same as the kids whining.

And every one of you that comes on here says the exact same thing. What you don't understand is that every single one of you are the exact same kid.

99% of emancipation petitions are denied... flat out. Since you don't have the ability nor a plan to support yourself, you can plan on yours getting denied.

Oh... and I just took a legally prescribed pill of mine and for about the next hour, I will talk a little funny... and what's funnier is that sometimes I type the way I'm talking. However, I'm not a drug addict and I'm quite capable of raising my children. It's a side effect of the medication. Teenagers.... are a side effect of a night where you THOUGHT you had a good time.

 

[Proserpina]

And every one of you that comes on here says the exact same thing. What you don't understand is that every single one of you are the exact same kid.

99% of emancipation petitions are denied... flat out. Since you don't have the ability nor a plan to support yourself, you can plan on yours getting denied.

Oh... and I just took a legally prescribed pill of mine and for about the next hour, I will talk a little funny... and what's funnier is that sometimes I type the way I'm talking. However, I'm not a drug addict and I'm quite capable of raising my children. It's a side effect of the medication. Teenagers.... are a side effect of a night where you THOUGHT you had a good time.

CC, I heart you.

I'm stealing that for a sig line. Just letting you know.

 

[MHKiley]

And in defense of my pre-highschool, living with mom healthiness, I could run an 8 minute mile at 180 lbs. I ate pretty well, I wasn't a health nut but ate my fruit and veggies, took my vitamins and was active. I was not by any means "fat" or mobidly obese. I was a pretty thick boned kid, and a little bit chubby.

Now, yes, I am fat. But I had moved out before I had gotten to the weight I am at now. During the school year I biked/walked the 1.7 miles to and from school everyday without getting entirely out of breath, which is better than a lot of the skinny girls I know and hang out with. I excelled in p.e. I played soccer pretty well and enjoy biking, still.

@ CourtClerk
I'm sorry you felt the need to act like this, and I apologize for rubbing you wrong or whatever.

I suppose this is the end of this. Is there anyway a mod could lock the forum, much appreciation and good bye.