Visitation problem

[daisyddva]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Virginia

I have a question, we agreed to 2 non connecting weeks of visitation. He already has 1,3,4 weekend from 7:30-7:30. The paper dates where left blank upon draft of order. Can he keep fighting me over the dates, since they were blank. He gave me what he wanted, I agreed, but no one will answer the question of does he keep them from his weekend through the following weekend. My lawyer said to let him keep our child because we can use it when we return. He also recently violated the 1st right of rufusal order. The agreed order has not actually been signed by the judge, yet.

 

[Proserpina]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Virginia

I have a question, we agreed to 2 non connecting weeks of visitation. He already has 1,3,4 weekend from 7:30-7:30. The paper dates where left blank upon draft of order. Can he keep fighting me over the dates, since they were blank. He gave me what he wanted, I agreed, but no one will answer the question of does he keep them from his weekend through the following weekend. My lawyer said to let him keep our child because we can use it when we return. He also recently violated the 1st right of rufusal order. The agreed order has not actually been signed by the judge, yet.

What do you mean by "we can use it"? If you LET him keep the kids, you can't really use it against him.

Is there a problem with the dates that Dad has selected?

 

[Antigone*]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Virginia

I have a question, we agreed to 2 non connecting weeks of visitation. He already has 1,3,4 weekend from 7:30-7:30. The paper dates where left blank upon draft of order. Can he keep fighting me over the dates, since they were blank. He gave me what he wanted, I agreed, but no one will answer the question of does he keep them from his weekend through the following weekend. My lawyer said to let him keep our child because we can use it when we return. He also recently violated the 1st right of rufusal order. The agreed order has not actually been signed by the judge, yet.

So let me understand this: Dad wants to use weekend #3, the week, and then weekend #4 for his visitation? You are willing to fight dad over two extra days. You know you can't get in trouble by following the court order, but come on.

I'm sorry but when are people going to stop hating their ex's more than they love their kids?

 

[CSO286]

I'm sorry but when are people going to stop hating their ex's more than they love their kids?

To be fair, it took me more than just a couple of years...I was a real witch for a while *sigh*

To OP: Do what you can to be nice and let him have it. Based on how I read what is you've posted, he can do it that way.

Then go for retail therapy.

 

[candg918]

If you will not let him have a 7 day week plus his normal weekend, how are you going to justify doing exactly the same thing.

You already have far more time with your child/children than their father. You are selfish and not acting in the best interest of the child/children. Quit being a brat and grow up! (I always hate to see children acting more adult than their parents.)

 

[LdiJ]

If you will not let him have a 7 day week plus his normal weekend, how are you going to justify doing exactly the same thing.

You already have far more time with your child/children than their father. You are selfish and not acting in the best interest of the child/children. Quit being a brat and grow up! (I always hate to see children acting more adult than their parents.)

Hey folks, mom only gets one weekend a month with the child. Dad gets three. I believe that mom is objecting to dad arranging his "week" so that he also takes her one weekend.

I don't blame mom at all for that, and I would be objecting too. In fact, I would not be at all surprised if a judge wasn't particularly pleased with dad either for doing that.

And you Candg, how do you know that she gets "far more time" than dad? All that has been discussed here is weekends, and we all know that there is not much "quality time" available during the week anyway.

Of course, mom can always arrange to take her vacation weeks utilizing one of dad's weekend, so that is one solution to the problem.

 

[daisyddva]

Thanks

I as mom, do not have a weeks visitation with my child. So there's not time for me to take a vacation. The last poster was right. I have 1 weekend a month and dad scheduled his visitation to go over that weekend. I handle everything for our child including 3 doctors a week.Therapy and such. Did I leave out dad is on probation for assualt. I get scared everytime I have to leave my child with him for any extended time.

I'm not being mean or hateful and dad had alot of time with the child. One problem we are facing is every doctor has a different opinion on how this situation should be regarding our child and the assualt issue.

 

[TinkerBelleLuvr]

A week is just that - 7 days. If dad were to schedule his vacation between 3rd & 4th week so that HIS weekends buttress the week, he is well within his rights. If he is trying to take mom's only weekend, then he could find himself in front of a judge. According to the schedule, mom is entitled to 2nd and 5th weekends each month.

 

[Proserpina]

I as mom, do not have a weeks visitation with my child. So there's not time for me to take a vacation. The last poster was right. I have 1 weekend a month and dad scheduled his visitation to go over that weekend. I handle everything for our child including 3 doctors a week.Therapy and such. Did I leave out dad is on probation for assualt. I get scared everytime I have to leave my child with him for any extended time.

I'm not being mean or hateful and dad had alot of time with the child. One problem we are facing is every doctor has a different opinion on how this situation should be regarding our child and the assualt issue.

How come this is NEVER EVER mentioned in the initial posts?

 

[daisyddva]

because

I do not like to keep bringing up the assualt issues, I am trying my best to move on after leaving everything. I think I'm doing pretty well. This was not a judges order, but a worked out order between parties. I previously had sole custody.

 

[Artemis_ofthe_Hunt]

I do not like to keep bringing up the assualt issues, I am trying my best to move on after leaving everything. I think I'm doing pretty well. This was not a judges order, but a worked out order between parties. I previously had sole custody.

Here's the deal. If you don't give complete information, you don't get complete and accurate answers. Period.

Unless there is an existing order, if the order you're referring to here isn't signed by the judge... yet, as you put it, there is no order. Sorry.